Is It Normal To Be Attracted to An Angry/Aggressive Man?

[Anonymous]

just wondering because I will admit I have an anger problem and sometimes I get physically violent. well after I hit my a guy he gets really angry and p*ssed off and sometimes will restrain me. when he does that I get so turned on. I know this isn't right but can someone tell me why I am like this? I don't wanna do it to the wrong guy and get beat down to a pulp lmao but a little aggression turns me on. any other girls out there like this or am I crazy?

[thecandymancan]

Ok... you just gave me a boner... :) I always wanted to sleep with a girl that would be really into angry sex.

Tell it to the guy though, because we try to hold back (noone wants to get sued for rape, right... :). The slapping is not something everyone likes. I would not mind though... I can take a punch ;)

To answer ballast: I got beat up a lot as a child from my older brother and father so I needed to learn to take a hit to be able to hold my ground and not p**** out and submit every time. Also... at school I had to dish out a lot, because a guy tried to beat me up with another 5 guys. I had no one there so I had to learn to beat them up one by one as best I could so that they would reconsider and find someone else. It was the kind of thing where they would come in 3-5 against 1 so I had no choice nor regret. I never punched someone who did not deserve it.

[thecandymancan]

This was supposed to be anonymous... well...

[Asker]

Hahaha lol its ok

[Anonymous]

I don't know, when my girlfriend tries to hit me, even though were playing around I can't help but to start laughing & it p*sses her off. So she'll really wail on me & the harder she hits me the funnier it is. It is a bit of a turn on so your not the only one.

[shes-a-lady]

it's a domination thing. and also genetic.

you know in the past women always went for the dominant, macho guys (lol) because that meant security in their life. you know, à la "only the strong survive".

lol sorry, I'm no good at explaining...

anyway, today a lot of girls go for rich men because money is what makes your future safe today.

but the old instinct is still in us =) that's also why we like muscles and stuff btw

[nermalinda]

It's normal to get turned on by a guy dominating you, but it's not normal to have to start a fight in order for him to do it. However, a lot of couples wrestle and stuff because it's hot, but they're not actually trying to hurt each other. Try asking your guy to wrestle with you or that you like to be dominated. You probably don't really want him to hurt you, just be in control.

[justathought]

Well said and true.

[ballast]

normal to be attracted to a strong man.

not normal to be attracted to aggression and hostility.

what was your family like? which of your parents was abusive towards the other?

were you abused?

[justathought]

True. there is a fine line between a strong man and an abusive man. the abusive ones are usually unstable mentally and little things set them off.

[ballast]

Don't forget that the question asker is being abusive as well. she's using physical violence.

my guess is that she was raised in an abusive family, and learned from a very young age that violence is acceptable. sometimes, people raised in abusive families can become addicted to the cycle of violence ... it's a tension-building-and-release pattern that's similar to how drinkers can use alcohol to cope with anxiety.

she needs therapy.

[nbc5023]

Why are you so judging, you don't know her past?