Is there anything wrong being married for 30 years and flirting with a male coworker with tease pics?

[Sandrav1973]

[CrazyGirl2]

You should probably be asking your husband this question. The term “cheating” implies that the rules of the relationship were somehow broken. With the possible exception of “swingers” and those in "open relationships”, I’m sure we'd all agree that having sex with someone when you are married or in a committed relationship with someone else is wrong. But many people differ on their belief as to whether or not mere innocent flirting alone is wrong, is even considered “innocent”, or is considered cheating! I’m fairly certain that when that flirting escalates to sending provocative pictures to the man you're flirting with, that most people would believe that you have crossed the line of common decency.

However, regardless of whether 100% of people on here say “it’s totally fine", the only person whose opinion should matter to you is your husband of 30 years! Additionally, whether your husband believes that it is perfectly okay, or if he believes it is wrong, why would anything said by fellow GaG’ers make any difference to you? Whatever your husband believes, that should be the only opinion that matters to you! Strangers on the internet cannot divorce you. However, your husband can!

I really hope this answer helps.
Sincerely, Laura 🤗 🥰

[OlderAndWiser]

Simple rule: If it is something that you feel you need to hide from your spouse - you wouldn't do it if your spouse was present and observing - then it is a violation of your relationship.

[elizamichale1]

Well no its not wrong but it depends whrs the understanding between u n ur husband about it... coz many couples take it as fun but majority see it as cheating... a simple test would be if u r comfortable telling ur husband about it then yea go for it but if u want to hide it from him tht means he would see u as cheating

[KrakenAttackin]

@elizamichale1. "It's not wrong"... really?

So if your guy was sending dick picks to women that wouldn't be wrong?

[elizamichale1]

@KrakenAttackin u need to read my reply again honey i clearly said its not wrong only if she has such understanding with her husband... coz many couples keep it open...

[KrakenAttackin]

@elizamichale1. An open relationship is not a relationship.

[elizamichale1]

@KrakenAttackin only if you knew honey

[KrakenAttackin]

@elizamichale1. I do know and would not tolerate an open "relationship".

[elizamichale1]

@KrakenAttackin well i respect u for that... everybody has their own choice... whats important is to respect each other n tolerate while living together...

[KrakenAttackin]

@elizamichale1. That's fair, but do both parties willingly enter an open relationship? Isn't one side wanting the "open" and the other has to tolerate it or leave?

[elizamichale1]

@KrakenAttackin no honey there are many many men n women who enter into it very happily n they love it

[midnightmoon05]

Agree!! Open relationship is not a loving/romantic relationship!

[KrakenAttackin]

@elizamichale1. I guess I don't understand. A relationship is supposed to be intimacy between two people. Than again, I don't understand how people can date more than one person at a time.

[elizamichale1]

@midnightmoon05 honey i think its just a perspective... i mean each to their own opinion n experience...
@KrakenAttackin i hav been in open relationship n we always loved each other so much... we were very romantic...
N @midnightmoon05 honey we got married 2 years ago n we still r soooo romantic n so loving to each other
@KrakenAttackin the imp thing is not to be a cheat deceitful person... so even when we were out with others we always told them tht its not a long term thing with them

[elizamichale1]

Thanks for the mho honey

[Finchie40]

If your husband finds out what you are doing , than he will more than likely find it to be wrong , and disrespectful and probably divorce your ass for emotional cheating on him , with the other guy , How would you feel if your husband was sending dick pics to another girl behind your back? If that wouldn’ t bother you , than you need to have a serious talk with your husband , before things get completely out of hand , especially if you plan on physically cheating on your husband with this other guy , cuz it could lead to that , if you keep teasing this other guy , the other guy more than likely wants to fuck you , so be careful with that shit, if you don’t want to risk getting divorced

[AviatorTom]

I suspect you'd like him to reciprocate with more than flirting, and that's wrong. A guy getting a picture like that is going to think it's an invitation to have sex.

[OlderAndWiser]

How does your husband feel about that behavior? Does he know what you are doing?

[OlderAndWiser]

Oh, that's right, you haven't told him because you know how he would respond and you know what you are doing is wrong.

[Billlewis]

There's nothing wrong with teasing a male acquaintance or co worker, etc -- just limit your interaction with him to prick teasing exclusively. Doing so will have two very nice benefits -- you'll still be honoring the sanctity of your marriage, and the poor guy you're teasing will be driven to a state of utter frustration.

[Lionman95]

I would say yes because the more you tease the more attracted he gets to you. You create a problem that might interfere with your work and marriage by choice. He may or may not know you´re married but he doesn´t care about that. So you create yourself trouble for no good reason.

[RavVid]

Would you be happy with your husband doing the same? Would you want your husband to know about it.

I would consider you were working up to cheating and divorce your ass.

Yes it is wrong.

[b_lova]

As long as your hubby is okay it, there is nothing wrong with anything you do. Cheating only happens when an SO is unaware of what has transpired.

[Sandrav1973]

@b_lova he doesn’t know but I enjoy the attention

[b_lova]

I can tell that's why you are posting things here.

I have had a conversation with my girlfriend who also enjoys the attention and has asked if I am okay if she flirts with other men. I told her it was fine as long as we have a discussion before or if she wants to cross the line to do more.

[b_lova]

What's most important is the honesty about what you are doing. Selfishness can be viewed as cheating.

[SotiCoto]

If you don't know the answer to this question yourself, you might want to just go to the local police station and tell them to arrest you, as you're going to ruin someone's life sooner or later.

[midnightmoon05]

let us know what your hubby says…

none of our opinions really matter.

[cunnilinguist]

No, it's called free will. Surely if it makes you happy (and your husband wants you to be happy, right?) then it's the right thing to do.

[Chocolatedelight69]

As long as it doesn't go out of control but you would definitely teasing me with this beautiful picture

[ChicoFromThe305]

Yes it means you are unloyal, there's too much of that going around nowadays

[MacDaddyRico]

It depends on the marriage (Open/Swingers?)

As long as your husband's okay with it, either way.

And as long as the coworker respects your boundaries.

[genericname85]

yup, that's absolutely not "loyal" behavior.

[genericname85]

would you like a coworker of your husband to send him such pictures?

[Anonymous]

Yes. Because even if that's all you have in mind, that doesn't mean that's all he has in mind you're playing with fire and there's a good chance you're going to get burned.

[AshleyJarrett]

In my opinion no. It’s just fun right? Not like you’re falling in love another guy

[Staximus]

Yeah, you're married. If you want to be an old skeezer then get divorced

[dsrice071966]

You should see if your husband likes this, it is good to be honest and not have secrets.

[4ngelic]

i mean cheating is immoral..

[Dinklex3]

Ask your husband 🤷‍♀️

[avery58]

Yeah that's cheating

[avery58]

I think the guys saying no just want you to flirt and send them pics. Ask them if it would be cheating if their girlfriend did it with others and see how fast their response would change 😂

[serious]

You already know that is very wrong (morally).

[HighValue]

It's cheating.

[ProbablyClueless]

Pretty disrespectful to your husband.

[KrakenAttackin]

There is a lot wrong with this.

[Anonymous]

Yes, it is very immature.

[edmwarrior]

It’s 100% wrong what do you meeeaaan?

[Iron_Man]

Don ever do that at all

[sheikalana]

Yes, that is wrong!

[dustybiker2]

Yes.

[Hh82yrw]

Absolutely not sweetheart

[laly520]

oh my

[DrPepper12]

Pix are too far.

[Peridot25]

Ask your husband