Is having soft skin desirable to/on a man?

[AmandaYVR]

I've always wondered this...

How do you all feel about it?

Yes.

Nah, not really.

No. It's undesirable.

[zeitgeist057]

Depends where the skin is, and the distinction between “soft” and “smooth”. I enjoy having smooth, blemish free skin. But I don’t want soft as in mushy, spongy, or doughy. I like having this on most of my body: torso, legs, arms.

For the palmar surfaces of feet and hands, it’s best to have some traction and light calluses to prevent injury, and thicker calluses in some places depending on your line of work. Example below, the “chef’s callous” from where the back of the blade makes contact with the index:

For the face, smooth other than where hair grows, and I think a little rough stubble is fine and sexy.

I believe the majority of women (or those who enjoy men) typically enjoy a man with smooth, firm skin. Hands a little rougher also seems to be thrilling to some. Though there are all sorts out there; some women adore abundant body hair, others abhor it.

[AmandaYVR]

The analysis was good. But you've ruined my page with that second photo! Ugh.

[mk200195]

Hahaha

[MrOracle]

Men love that women have soft skin, but it's not a priority for most men that their own skin is especially soft.

My girl, for example, likes that I'm a bit rough and hairy - it turns her on, and she likes being the one who is soft and smooth. The contrast makes her feel more feminine.

[DarkCarousel]

I prefer a little rougher, more rugged. Unless it would be bothersome to him— I can always feel when my own skin needs lotion and that could just be because I’ve conditioned it that way.
in one of my favorite memories of a kiss, I distinctly remember the feeling of his beard stubble against my cheek.

[AmandaYVR]

Yes, that beard stubble feeling is the best. ♥ Hurts so good.

[Nikki1989]

No, I like men that look like men. Not the girly kind that is so common these days.

[Lliam]

I'm not hairy but my most wonderful girlfriend said of the hair on my legs and my chest an tummy that she loved the contrasting texture between my hair and her silky-smooth skin. My wife likes my hair, too.

One of my early girlfriends once said "You know what I like about you? You're soft." At first I thought it was a strange thing to say because I was lean. But I decided that she must have either been talking about my skin or the way I treated her.

Honestly, I don't do anything to keep my skin soft. That has never been an issue. I have no idea if any woman ever had an issue with it.

[AmandaYVR]

Interesting. So seems me have two votes for not-soft, and one maybe for soft.

[AmandaYVR]

* we have

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

Not really, but to be honest I do like having a soft, flawless skin - I always use Bio-oil.

I've been working out and putting on some muscle, so to be honest I've started to show off a bit, and I like having my wife and her friends feel my biceps.

[mk200195]

Now, my skin isn’t flawless or perfect- but I get compliments from my colleagues. Also, as guys we barely have a skincare routine so it's not really desirable. It's been almost 5 months that have been going to gym consistently my hands are beyond repair and i don't thibk there is even a single product to fix that 😅

[DJB72]

Ideally her hands need to be softer than mine. Wouldn't be a deal breaker, but a bit of a turnoff...

[AmandaYVR]

Thanks but the q is actually about men's skin.
Do you care about how your skin feels?
(And it's for females to answer how they would like their man's skin to feel.)

[DJB72]

I don't moisturise anywhere. My hands are softer at the moment simply because I've had months off work after surgery. I'm sure my skin will toughen up again.

I find I don't trust a man in business who's hands have clearly never done hard physical work. It says a lot about his character - hands too soft is a user not a guy who's prepared to do the tough jobs himself - he pays someone else.

There's honour in getting your hands dirty.

[AmandaYVR]

Great second comment. 👌

Reminds me of this scene about men and honour.
(It is even more than the scene portrays - because both men are right about each other. Will (Matt Damon, who wrote this story) has the mental capacity to surpass his father, and so for him, laying brick would be not rising up to his potential of a higher calling. And Sean is also afraid to ante up again, after the death of his wife and a long and unstoried career. He comes to decide that Will was right about him, and that he needs to make a change as well.
One of my favourite movies of all time.

www.youtube.com/watch

[DJB72]

Love Good Will Hunting. Great movie.

Two best bosses I had were guys who would never ask me to do something they wouldn't do themselves. One guy helped me scrubbing dinner bins in a bowling alley while he was wearing an Armani suit I couldn't have bought with a year's wages.

The other was ex Royal Navy. Frankly the most honourable man I've ever known.

[blissinanarchy1]

I try to keep my skin soft. Always use chapstick, and lotion multiple times a day. I work in a refrigerated warehouse too, and I wash my hands a dozen times a day so I stay on top of this

[ImalwaysrightOK]

I love softness on a woman and I think opposites attract so women probably like a little roughness on a guy. I don't know.

[Shamalien]

I love soft skin on a woman. I really don’t think a skincare routine should be a huge thing for a man though. Having long hair and looking after this already borders on too womanly for me

[NathanDavis]

I've never ever been concerned about this one bit...

luckily, my skin has done very well (so I hear) after these many manly years, lmfao...

must be genetics

[Unknown29]

I don’t want baby skin but also but too rough. There’s a balance.

[exitseven]

My skin always gets dry in the winter and sometimes splits open. My wife is always after me to put some stuff on it

[AmandaYVR]

lol. It doesn't bother you?

[exitseven]

yes, but it is an exercise in futility.

[Surely]

As long as a woman doesn’t have grease under their fingernails and block layers hands. The rest doesn’t matter a whole lot!

[AmandaYVR]

This is about men, though. That's why I said "on a man", so it was clear it's about y'all, lol. Guess it wasn't clear enough.

[Andres77]

Does he work in an office or does he fell trees?

[AmandaYVR]

Right. Or play guitar. Or work with a chef's knife. Or lay brick. Or take care of zoo animals. And the list goes on...

I'm not sure if it matters, though. I came to a conclusion about this just after writing the q - if the rough skin comes from hard work, it's attractive, appealing, admirable maybe. If it's all over the body, and from complete neglect, then probably (maybe?) not. Although hair follicles all over the body are probably the main reason for less soft skin.

But the q is more interesting and relevant if in today's context - most males do not do physical work or toil on the land, etc. Some do, but not the majority any more I guess. So if an essentially self-sufficient, capable man, who uses his brain more than his brawn, and has soft skin because he's usually indoors, is that desirable? And what about a man who is fastidious in his grooming and hygiene? Is there a difference between naturally soft and using products to make/keep it soft?

I like soft skin on me. But it's kind of a never-ending battle to achieve or keep that.
I went on a little treasure hunt this week, happened across a product I think I really like. Went home, read reviews, quite a few other females like it too. And informed us that it's been discontinued (story of my life) and then I had to decide whether I should stock up and buy many, or... not. I don't know. I'm indecisive. Everything I like goes away. It's tiring to have to keep looking and not finding anything as good.

Anyway, that's why I started thinking about this. Men and softness.
I don't have one opinion on this. I think calluses etc from hard work can be really appealing. And I like soft textures in general. And I like conscientious people with attention to detail. But I don't like unending vanity or guys that act like females. Differences are good.

[Andres77]

A soft heart (empathy and compassion) and an iron will (resolute) will serve you well.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I have some soft skin, but my legs are somewhat dry skin

[Kelly6]

I’m not picky so I won’t mind

[Adogdog]

Hopefully it is!!! 😂😂