Younger age preferences: Do you have shame?

[Anonymous]

Question for men who prefer significantly younger women as partners. Do you have shame? And do you actually seek out younger women?

[inhua]

people just go for who they find most attractive regardless of age, race, religion, height etc.

this misandrist double standard is ridiculous. nobody shames older women for dating younger men and vice versa. men don't even specifically go for age, they go where they are most appreciated and it's not like everybody's ages are written on their foreheads

seems like every time, men have choices or preferences, there's always some negativity attached to i. e. if he engages in combat sports he's toxic, if he likes video games he's childish, if he respects his mom he's a momma's boy, if he dates younger women he's a creep etc.

[Asker]

People do shame older women for dating significantly younger men. It is very odd and concerning (especially though when grooming is involved). Example: Sam Taylor-Johnson

Who calls combat sports toxic? I have literally never heard that ever
No one cares at all if a man plays video games, I’ve only heard criticism in circumstances when they play video games so much that is causes them to be anti social or lazy.
Respecting your mother isn’t the same as being a mommas boy, there is a very big distinction between the two.

Obviously I’m referring to significant age gaps here like a 55 year old and a 20 year old. Dating younger by itself isn’t inherently creepy.

[inhua]

people only bring up Sam Taylor-Johnson as an example of double standards when older men get shitted on. for the most part nobody cares nor are there any hostility and vitriol towards older women.

instead they receive labels like milfs and cougars which obviously have more positivity attached than labels like predator and creep often associated with men

then again by your logic, people should also feel shame for preferring to date people of a certain height, a certain wealth class, a certain ethnicity, a certain religious background etc.

[Asker]

just bc you say words doesn’t make them true

who created terms like milf or cougar… men.
men don’t even take female-inflicted sexual assault seriously but you’re somehow blaming women for that.

[inhua]

men do blame other men for not taking it seriously but those men never believed in equality to begin with so there's no point in blaming them when they are consistent with their beliefs

it's the feminists who believe in equality so of course there's going to be expectations for them to speak up more on behalf of equality except they don't and most feminists tend to be women

[Effably]

I don't have that preference, yet at least. Who knows what I will like in 20 years.

I see nothing wrong with it though. Absolutely no shame to it.
When a 40-45 year old woman likes 20 year old guys, as guys, we think that is pretty cool!

When a 40-45 year old man likes 20 year old girls... it is not cool but, it also isn't anything to judge him for. Of course, every year under 20 is heavily scrutinized.

[Asker]

I think for both it is concerning

[SnowedIn]

If both parties are of legal age where they happen to be and are consenting then there is no reason for shame. If that doesn't work for you, fine. Don't project your views on others.

Have you asked the same question about women who prefer and seek out significantly younger men? Or is that somehow okay?

[Asker]

I have the same attitude towards both

[Berethor]

Significantly? most men prefer young women, and what you mean by actually seek out?

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hypergamy#Research

[Drewtate]

Why would I be ashamed. If a hot younger woman wanted to date me and I was in my 40s why wouldn't I?

[spartan55]

Do women have any shame entertaining married men? They all claim to be 'just curious'... Disgusting

[Asker]

I don’t understand this response, cheating isn’t gender specific, lots of men pursue married women

[spartan55]

Not what I was doing, but whatever

[RavVid]

No. I don't actively seek out, it is just that I like them more and some girls like older guys more. That's more who I ask on dates.

[Avicenna]

I don't see why anyone should be ashamed of partnering up with another consenting adult. No one is telling you who to date.

[BlackJeep]

I girlfriend is 20 years younger. I don't really care what anyone thinks and I don't give a rats ass about who anyone else dates.

[riverrat3]

Some younger ladies seek older men, when those two meet both are happy

[Anonymous]

They are creeps that have no shame at all.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

5 or 6 years younger than me.

[barn_stormer]

no shame. yes I do.