Why do I keep being asked to be men’s mistress?

[Anonymous]

[ImHere22]

Because those men are creeps. Ignore them; they're just looking for a side-chick to make them feel powerful. Those guys always, always, get caught and then no wife, no kids, no house, no car, likely no mistress, and finally, no dignity.

Stay away from that atomic bomb of stress; nobody should actively seek that out. If those guys are seriously desperate for someone to suck their dicks, they should oh I don't know, make amends with their wives and go from there. Searching for another woman is just asking for trouble to infect his family. Idiot.

[ProbablyClueless]

You probably give off the vibe of someone who lacks a sense of personal boundaries and self worth.

"Good enough to be the side piece" just means "not good enough to be the entree."

[Christoff92]

Are you good at this culture would be the question.

[Asker]

Nope I’m not

[SnowedIn]

You should start with where you're finding the men. That will be part of the answer.

[In_Trance]

Maybe you're not presenting anything else of value to these men

[richardcory]

In what situations are men asking this?

[Asker]

Men I go out with end up being married

[richardcory]

Are they contacting you? Is it online or in person? I'm sorry its going on, must be really annoying / frustrating.

[Asker]

It’s online and after I meet them

[richardcory]

Interesting. Have you looked at your online profile to see if anyone might interpret it that way? Not implying anything intentional, but maybe word choices or something?

Possibly this happens to a lot of women, I don't know

[Asker]

Good insight. I’ll take a look at it.

[Alex8736]

Online or IRL?

[Asker]

IRL and online

[Alex8736]

Is it something on your profile that someone might misconstrue?

[Asker]

I don’t know.. maybe?

[Alex8736]

Is it the way you dress that people assume?

[Asker]

Not really. I dress well. In we’ll cut clothes

[Alex8736]

Unless someone has a user name of mistress I don't see how you attract them

[chicken_nugget24]

Tell the to f off