What does it mean if a guy is "one of the girls"?

[Anonymous]

one of my female friends said that having one of her guys friends over for a sleepover was okay because he is "one of the girls" - what does this mean?

[Billlewis]

I used to provide oral service for a woman who enjoyed having me perform cunnilingus and anilingus for her fairly frequently, and she loved telling me about her intimate sexual encounters with her boyfriend. She once said that having me there was like, 'Being with one of my girlfriends'

[devilish-cutie]

he is not seen as romantic interest but only as a friend, she feels comfortable with him and not like he seems as the type of the guy that would want more and be pervy but is a true real friend

[Asker]

so a gay?

[devilish-cutie]

no, doesn't have to be, just not sexually attracted to that particular girl or at least she doesn't think that, like guys are also not into every girl sexually (at least not everyone believes they are)

[Asker]

but it would make sense if it's a gay since gays are basically girls lol

[devilish-cutie]

it would make sense but it doesn't have to be that she 100% thinks he is gay, it couldve been a figure of speach, and besides it may be irrelevant to her if he is gay or not, just that she feels comfortable w him as a friend and nothing more

[Asker]

"one of the girls" seems to me like she thinks he's like a girl, which is a gay. since gays are guys with girl's brains

[devilish-cutie]

as i said i wouldn't think the guy is gay, just like some guys say for some girls that "she is one of the guys", means friend and nothing more, noone saying she lesbian

[Asker]

I guess so, but it usually isn't said of a guy unless he is fruity/gay

[devilish-cutie]

we have this perception cause it seems to be much more shameful that a guy acts as a girl and not if a girl acts as a guy, cause its so shameful to be a woman, let that sink in, if it really bothers you ask her if she meant gay and ask ysf why it bothers you so

[Asker]

it doesn't bother me really. I guess you can tell if he is gay or not based on if he acts/dresses feminine

[devilish-cutie]

not all gays act and dress feminine so you really cannot always say

[Asker]

yes, but a lot of them do since homosexuality is caused by a guy having a girl's brain due to higher estrogen exposure

[devilish-cutie]

not that i agree fully on that but it doesn't matter, cause you cannot ever 100% know if a guy that acts straight isn't gay by just talking to him

[Asker]

I mean there are studies proving that gay males have brains identical to straight females due to estrogen exposure in the womb but that's besides my question, but that is also true. but there are definitely the more flamboyant/girly types that you immediately know are gay

[devilish-cutie]

studies can be flaws, not that i have opposite opinion, im just simply not convinced in all that, i dont believe men and women are that different either, but lets not get into that, i never denied second part your wrote, sure there are many feminine gay guys and you usually know, even tho i also had some guy friends that were more "feminine" and werent gay so... i dont judge that easily but would think oh he may be gay

[Anonymous]

He is gay/friend zoned:)

[Boomchakalaca]

Lmao so gay

[Asker]

yea I figured, since gays are really just girls with pps lol

[Boomchakalaca]

They got that extra appendage on them