Asked him if he's talking to other girls and he said "not really" what does that mean lol?

[Anonymous]

met him on dating app. He said "not really no." asked wdym not really and he was like "talking but nothing serious."

He ft's and sexts me. he seems serious about me but am i too just the "nothing serious."

He said I take it you're not talking to other people. I told him I deleted the app and he said me too. and then he was smiling. but like I don't know what he wants with me ugh and if im just another girls.

He was showing me his apps and was like pick any app and ill show you. He wouldn't let me look at his insta dm's or snapchat. Sus AF.

[kylee2437]

Why would he be honest to you when you seem like you have the intent to be insecure about the truth? You weren’t asking him as a way to position him in your life, you were asking so you can whine when he says “yes” . If you two aren’t in a relationship, then what he is doing on those apps is none of your business and not your place to be trying to snoop for answers.


And if you met on a dating app, you already know the answer is yes. Don’t be that girl that thinks she was putting on a pedestal on a dating app and he only swiped on you. He obviously swiped on other women but you said yes to going out with him. You chose that route of dating the moment you used a dating app

[kylee2437]

She was put*

[Asker]

it's fine if he messaged girls but I don't know we have been ft'ing multiple times a day and sexting for past week i was giving him exclusivity and was wondering if he was giving me it too. I only asked because he said he hasn't nothing to hide. He was FT screen sharing. We were going through all his apps for fun. We went through everything basically and he was like are you done looking lol. and I was like oh you dont have anything to hide lets see your Instagram dm's jokingly. wasn't even thinking about other girls. and he's like woah maybe not there. and then i was like who are you messaging. and he's like lotssss of people. And so then i felt insecure and was like are you talking to lots of girls right now. Ugh you're right though he doesn't owe me any exclusivity. We did meet on a dating app and I talked to like 2 other guys too. but i stopped since talking to him. I was just hoping we were on the same page. But we aren't ig. But why was he smiling when i said i wasn't talking to other people ugh. that made him happy i think.

[Asker]

he's a good guy for telling me though that he is talking to others right. :( idkk ugh. I know he didn't just swipe on me. But he was the first guy that swiped on me the day i got the dating app. And he said its fate. ugh.

[kylee2437]

@asker you have to set boundaries before expecting anything. You have done stuff to try and win over his exclusivity when that’s not how the cookie crumbles. You should’ve asked him what he was looking for from the very beginning while meeting him. You do already have your answer though, he is talking to other women and you already gave him pretty much everything so it’s your choice whether or not you want to further this situation.

[kylee2437]

@asker always remember a guy saying stuff like “it’s fate” is trying to be manipulative lol

[Asker]

ugh but he said he's not talking seriously. So do I take his word and assume that means he's talking with me seriously? You're right though I should've been asking him what he's looking for in the beginning. Now we are just playing around with each other. I dont even know the basics.

[kylee2437]

It’s never too late to ask him what he is looking for. Instead of asking about his socials, ask him what the deal is. Be ready for him to say his truth. By him saying that these women aren’t a serious deal, he is also implying he will do that if he is in a relationship with you because they aren’t serious aspects of his life

[Asker]

really? i am crazy hopeless romantic was like awww it is fate lol. he told me he liked me within 2 days of talking. He said he liked this girl she has a twinkle in her eye etc I don't know what else cheesy shit. I was kinda taken back by it tbh. But now eating the shit out of it. and he says goodnight cutie. says sheeesh I'm sexy to all my pics ugh. I like him. Falling for some internet boy HELP.

[kylee2437]

Yeah he sounds manipulative. And meanwhile he’s saying that to you, he’s probably telling other women that he’s currently single and not talking to anyone.

[Asker]

but im not set in stone so maybe they are back ups and he'll stop talking to them? :( would hate to be those girls. or lowkey I could be just a backup too lol for another girl idkk. He said his red flag is cheating and honesty. I thought he meant those are his red flags looking at a girl but now you got me stressing does he mean HIS red flags lollll.

[kylee2437]

A guy will naturally stop talking to other women if he feels like he has someone he potentially wants to date because he sees it as disrespect. And it sounds like his red flag is something he does because if he were honest - he wouldn’t leave you guessing about this situation

[Asker]

he said his ex cheated on him and lied tho so sounded like it was his red flag from others, I don't know :( ur right he shouldn't leave me guessing. I'm conf : (

[Boomchakalaca]

Redflag is meeting him on a dating app. Oh u two sex chatted, dosent seem serious. He sounds suspicious 🤨 i wouldn't date a guy like him

[Asker]

loll but i wanted to sext i was sooo horny. he's SOOOO sexy. looks like a f boy but i thought a cinnamon roll on the inside. scared maybe he's just f boy all over lol.

[Boomchakalaca]

Nah men that r very good looking come off as egotistical.

[Asker]

whatcha mean. i am sexy myself too. but I don't know why I'm desperate these days for dick

[Anonymous]

Lol sounds like he’s just trying to get some from you. What man who is really serious about wanting to be w a girl is going to sext her? How long have you two been talking? As a man I’d have more respect for a female who I’m genuinely into. I mean sure I want to have sex w her but I’m not trying to do something that is going to potentially screw that up. To me she’s someone I see as more than just something sexual. I could be wrong but sounds like he’s just having fun.

[Asker]

lol 2 weeks but I was responsive. I wanted to sext him lol. I was horny too lollll. I'm serious about him though but i wanted to sext too. oops was i not supp to

[Opinion Owner]

Lol don’t try to justify his act by making up an excuse for him. I don’t like when women do that. So example. A friend, cute blond that I’d gladly mail lol she kept asking me if I thought he was cheating. She told me what she could. I said yes. Why is he coming home late? Why this? Why that? Every time I brought something up she countered, well he’s been bringing me flowers more, blah blah blah. Sure enough she waited outside his work cause he said he had to work late. Another girl showed up, the rest is history. Ok even if you are horny the fact that it’s only been two weeks, already trying to get between your legs. A man isn’t going to try much if you’re already spreading your wings for him. It makes you look easy, makes you think how many other dudes has she done this w before. So you’re a toy, nothing to take serious.

[Asker]

I've told him im a virgin lol.. I've sexted 4 guys though told him that. But i told him im a virgin but he can have me take my virginity when we get married lol. We are both Muslim. He has a bodycount of 3 though (feels guilty about that.) Told him Id let him try anal in the meanwhile before we get married lol. He's never done anal and was excited lol. He knows I just got out of a serious relationship. im conf ugh. i know it doesn't look serious because we sexted so early. but i was seriously sexting him lol. I want to fuck my husband. also we live hella far, me in the south him in the north ugh. distance dont mean nothing to me.

[Opinion Owner]

Lol this is a recipe for disaster. I hate saying this but you just sound like a slut. A man isn’t going to take you seriously. Now if you’re just wanting to get your holes filled I’m sure there’s plenty of dudes out there who are more than willing. But if a girl told me this. I’d only be in it to nail her. He doesn’t feel bad about his 3 body counts, guarantee you he doesn’t. He’s saying that so you won’t think of him as being disgusting that he has no chance in nailing you. But he doesn’t need to feel that way, you basically told him already do whatever the hell you want to do w me sexually. If a girl is willing to take it up the ass, the cooch, her moth, etc, etc, eight from the start, what’s left for him? Why would he marry her? She’s basically giving everything to him sexually w out having to put in much work.

[Asker]

im ok being nailed too as long as exclusively nailed lol. but he knows that I'm not going to let him put it in my pussy until we are married and he said he understands lol.

[Opinion Owner]

Ok so he can put it in your mouth or ass?

[Asker]

yes ass and mouth lolllll two holes. lol i sound crazy right.

[Opinion Owner]

Sure but those are the best girls to fuck. I honestly myself see a girl taking it up the ass or sucking cock as more personal than her getting her snatch nailed. Seems more like an intimate thing you’d do w your husband.

[Asker]

loll i see what you mean bc those are like more "experimental" stuff for most people. like usually just the standard is pussy lol. and then other stuff is like extra and exciting. I'm a fake virgin am'nt i. I've never done anal tho. I just told him id let him try because tech that's not my pussy so its ok. and app he has some obsession with it and has never tried. oh and he said he will eat me out lol. I've only been ate out once. it was so bad lol. i hope he's good and i hope i like it. But i kidna dont even want him to see my pussy idkkk I'm self conscious. now oversharing sorry lol. but i see what you're saying should i be a tease and tell him I won't let him give me anal until we are married lol. I have to suck his dick before marriage though. I sucked only one other guy's dick. If this guy's my husband I can at least give him that too. has to be fair lolll.

[Opinion Owner]

To me a girl taking it up the ass has to be really comfortable w the dude cause it’s something a lot of girls are not open to. So for that to happen yes there has to be, in my opinion, a lot more trust. The same w a blowjob especially if she swallows. Pussy just seems like it’s a give in, w all the hook up culture it’s not even specially anymore. So have you done bjs before?

[Asker]

Yes I've done bjs on my ex lol. I was going to swallow for this guy too. But im a virgin trying to save my pussy lol. I see what u mean pussy is like standard sex. Ill be real im scared to start anal as my first time w him bc what if things go wrong lolll.

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe you should research what to do before trying anal. Maybe not eating such a heavy meal before, making sure to use the restroom. He’s a lucky man lol girls who take it up the ass are not lol

[Pyrofox]

there's serious and then there's flirting/friends kept at arms reach.

[Asker]

how do i know im not the flirting/friends? ugh we been sexting for a week. last two days he didn't ask me for nudes even. and then today after that convo. We just facetimed very wholesome. but i even flirted with him trying to get him horny and tell me to get my clothes off. was confused he didn't ask ugh did i turn him off

[Pyrofox]

Well how much attention does he direct directly at you. Is an easy way to answer the broad question. Men view things like time and money as direct resources. Men Like to be efficient, and if its not then they get bored, and lastly leave.

[Asker]

what do you mean how much attention? we just ft'd for 2 hours. He will snap me pics throughout the day.

[Pyrofox]

Well for starters if he wasn't interested he wouldn't occupy that much of his day just to you XD.

[Asker]

so thats a good sign right

[Pyrofox]

Better than no attention.

[Nikki1989]

Not really, is man code for probably yes.

[Asker]

fuck should i be taken aback? because we met on a dating app : ( i know he had to be talking to other girls. just sad i thought i was giving him my exclusivity and he was too.

[slatyb]

Ask him.

[Asker]

ugh sounds easy

[slatyb]

If you are actually to ask that, maybe your are seeing the wrong guy.

[Asker]

what do you mean what