Is he likes me or what?

[Anonymous]

He's a swiss guy, I'm from Indonesia.. after talking online for a month he decided to visit Indonesia and I asked him why, he said he wanted to see me.. we've been talking almost everyday or at least every 2 days or 3 days bcs we both are busy.. but I wonder why he wants to visit me? Is he wants relationship or what? He's so polite and kind.. he's not pervert at all..

[Anonymous]

I think the real question is , “Do you like him or what?”


I’m sensing a distaste from his forwardness and great deal of uncertainty.


First, just know this guy likes you but, is it too much?
Why would a dude go out of his way to meet someone he don’t really know for not too long? Have your guard up acknowledging that his dude may have the hots for you/ looking for a relationship.


Super agree with whoever said to ask him his intentions before he waste his energies trying to see you.

[Asker]

Hehe I don't know, bcs I have to know him first irl.. but so far he's calm and kind person, polite and not pervert.. he never asked about my personal life but he did tell me but I'm still not sure if he visit just to travel and that's it.. bcs also he'll visit Japan, before he booked the flight ticket to my country he told me first that he'll visit japan.. I'm sorry English isn’t my first language :(

[Opinion Owner]

Totally up to you how you go about getting this.. maybe see what he’s really like in real life but once again just keep your eye on him a bit and if you feel uncomfortable in anyway address it if you can or get out of the situation ASAP! So far tho as long as you say he’s kind polite and not a perv that’s i good sign at least

[Asker]

Awww thank you so much for your answer and advice.. of course I will.. thank you so much

[andreasderjuengere]

You both will experience a ''cultural shock''.

He kind of likes you - but probably he's projecting his own 'ideas' into your personality.

This requires a 'test' - so meeting in person could be helpful.

[Asker]

What kind of 'ideas'? Yes I'll just see when we finally meet 4 days to go.. OMG

[andreasderjuengere]

I'm mostly thinking about stereotypes (about SE-Asia),
and also carrying along his own culture, expecting you to think and to respond similar to him.

[Asker]

Oh I see.. but why I always think maybe he will come to here bcs he just want to travel and that's it? Bcs so fr he's so polite and not pervert at all but I don't know.. but I hope he's a nice guy

[BasedBaeBecca]

It's definitely a good sign that a guy would want to go out of his way to visit you! He must have some level of attraction and interest in you for him to want to do that. It's important to spend time getting to know each other better before committing to a relationship though. Keep talking and getting to know each other better. If things keep going well, then it could lead to a relationship if that is what you both want.

[Asker]

Oh okay I see.. yeah I'll see later if he wants relationship or not bcs if I ask him what he wants and he answer that he just wants to travel to my country i would feel embarrassed 😳

[_Maya_]

I can't know what someone's intentions are. I can only assume that he likes you if he is willing to travel all that way to see you. Only way to know for sure is to ask him what he wants out of the visit and your time together. Unless one of you would be willing to move some day I see it as a dead end relationship. Otherwise how long can you go on just talking and occasional visits that will be expensive travel wise?

[Asker]

I haven't asked him yet but I wonder why he wants to visit me, should I ask him when we finally meet?

[_Maya_]

I wouldn't wait until he travels all that way. I'd want to know before what he is after.

[Asker]

Wah I'm nervous 😂 before he booked the ticket, he said he will visit Japan for 2 weeks and I said "ah I thought you would visit me" and he said "I can do that" after few weeks he asked me "what would you say if I come to visit your country?" He booked the flight ticket and apartment right away for a week

[Erroin]

Please protect yourself. This guy took an international flight to your country to see you. In this day and age human trafficking is a very real threat. Even in public places. I strongly caution you about meeting up with someone from the internet.

[Avicenna]

No guy goes to the trouble of doing that unless there is romantic interest on his part

[Asker]

Are you sure? (⁠╥⁠﹏⁠╥⁠) Bcs Japan was his first destination before he booked the flight ticket to my country.. he'll visit me for a week and then Japan for 2 weeks..

[Reem12345reem]

just be careful and meet in a public place bc u still don't know the guy

[Asker]

Yes of course.. thank you so much 😊

[Anonymous]

He wants to see if the connection he feels with you is the same in person.

[Asker]

Really? Bcs it since we will meet soon, 7 days to go he started to texting me less.. should I ask him what he wants when we finally meet?

[Opinion Owner]

Sure, and mention what you want too.

[Asker]

Okay if you say so.. thank you so much for your reply 😊

[Opinion Owner]

You're welcome.

[WhitneySnow]

I think he likes you

[Asker]

Really? But I'm also think he just wants to travel to my country and that's it.. 😞

[WhitneySnow]

Nah. He could visit Indonesia on his own. He liked you.

[WhitneySnow]

Likes you

[Asker]

Thank you so much Whitney for your kindness and your answer ❤️

[WhitneySnow]

You’re welcome 💕

[In_Trance]

Wants to smash

[Asker]

Hahaha I'm scared

[In_Trance]

Why? What's there to be scared of?

[Asker]

But he's not pervert at all.. but I don't know

[In_Trance]

He has a penis; guaranteed he's already jerked off to you

[Anonymous]

i think he likes you

[Asker]

I see.. but since we still far away maybe he wants to know me first irl, right?