Should I be mad/upset/uncomfortable that my husband still hangs out with an ex fu*kbuddy?

[Anonymous]

So whenever my husband visits his hometown he gets together with a group of friends (mostly male). But within that group there's a girl he was on and off with and USED TO have sex with every time he visited home.

They hang around, smoke blunts and chill. Makes me feel uneasy but I don't want him to cut out people he's used to having around. He said he feels nothing for her anymore on his part.. not sure about her.

[Anonymous]

You have to be with him or he can't leave a certain friend!

He cannot be alone with her they will fuck!

My sister coworker and my ex best friend have all had Thier man just fall into bed again with the ex!

Don't let him cheat

[Alli39]

Nah, unless you have actual evidence of cheating then don't worry about it. Hook-ups in the past doesn't mean interest in the present. More to the point, he's hanging out with a group, not just her. Don't worry about it. Your suspicions are a way bigger threat to your relationship and the girl is, even if she were to have feelings for him.

[Nick1976G]

I certainly wouldn't like it, but in the end it comes down to a question of trust. Do you trust him to not do anything with her when he's with his old friends? And if it bothers you that much, just have open dialog about it. Don't attack or accuse... just explain how you feel. At least he will know that it makes you feel a certain way.

[MementoMori777]

You don't gotta feel anything for anyone to have sex, weed can also higher sex drive so I think at the least you should mention it bothers you a lot and it makes you feel sad, hopefully he will distance himself a bit

[Sadgirlfanclub]

Hey girl , as someone who has been “fwb girl “ you shouldn’t be worried. He didn’t pick her for a reason. He loves you , if he didn’t tell you of their history even then I wouldn’t be worried. She’s not an ex , so it’s not a deeper bond than you think. The chances of them sleeping together is low.
has she done anything to make you feel uneasy. even if she has low morals , the chances of her waiting around for a married man to come to town to sleep with him sounds a little farfetch.

[Daniela1982]

He doesn't need to feel anything to fuck her. Old habits die hard. I would be very concerned if I were you. But unless you can prove something happened you are going to have to trust him.

[Rainwavy]

I have to say you are not crazy. I would be concerned if I was in this situation. However, you confronted him about your feelings. He says he done with the situationship. Of course, you don't know about her feelings. I would trust my boyfriend. If he starts acting weird, for example, secretly texting people, going out late, has a "friend" visiting, then it's time to take action.

[jwmiller95]

You have every right to be upset, I wouldn't be okay with that. If he would choose having their friendship over you, then something is very wrong with that picture

[Asker]

It isn't necessarily a one on one personal friendship where they're bonding with one another. The girl just hangs around with his group of friends. Its either he stops hanging around with his friends or he asks her to stop hanging out with them... which I'd feel like a bitch making him do because she is part of the "neighbourhood". Its her right to chill with her friends

[Lis-the-librarian]

People who have f buddies, are not good long term relationship types.

And he should care about you enaugh to limit these interractions with past sexual partners, but he doesn't.

[Anonymous]

I would tell him either you never see her again or we done. Thats really disrespectful.. he is clearly cheating

[Anonymous]

as long as he hangs out with her in a group setting only.

[spartan55]

Yeah, I wouldn't be havin that.

[WhitneySnow]

That would bother me

[TheSpaceGnome]

Yes, dump him.

[shades777]

at leaste he's getting booty, whats the fuss?

[jahaims]

Yeah

[DreamLife7]

Yep..

[MARINEVetlicking]

Of course!!!