Guys, I can't move on. Should I text him?

[Anonymous]

We were dating, sex etc. I believed we both genuinely felt something. I ended it. He never reached out to me ever again. In last 18 months. He didn't even text "how are you" in a friendly way.

Let's assume he didn't feel anything... Didn't he value me EVEN AS friends with benefits? This hurts my feelings a lot.

[RespectfulGuy]

I read other opinions and your replies.

Yes, I sensed that you can't move on.

You felt hurt, very hurt. And you probably felt unjustified, treated unfairly and cheated.

I don't want to enter your sphere of self pity.

But I like you to forgive him for he being so inconsiderate, then don't feel it special to eat his cum.

Girls eat their guys cum everyday all over the world.

It's an intimate act, but like a romantic meal, it's over. Time to visit another restaurant if you're hungry.

That's it. That's modern dating. That's the pain associated with promiscuity.

Find another guy. If you want to revenge, make him your rebound then dump him. Ya cruel. That's promiscuous life.

(Caution the rebound may dump you, and you'll be shattered and depressed and need medication.)

Well, no bad intention. I just hope you can let go and move on. Don't hold on. The longer you do, the longer the pain.

Smile. It's a sunny day here. 😁

[Asker]

Honestly, I don't want rebound at this moment. I just want to feel love and to be loved. I valued him then I left him but I believed I did the right thing. Some people say "I left him so I should contact him.., I don't know

[RespectfulGuy]

It's 18 months.

If he's still single and willing to made up, then fine.

But your details appear to show that he had moved on.

[Asker]

I shared some posts on IG and facebook which tells I have relationship. I couldn't see anything because he doesn't have social media.

[Asker]

That's why I don't know if he's single or moved on. He had no social media or profile pics etc.

[RespectfulGuy]

Since you're the one who dumped him, you either call and ask, or just move on.

Some guys never go back to their ex.

[Deformate]

Lol there are some very sucky answers here. At the end of the day you both developed feelings and then you ended it, discarded him. If he had feelings for you, that probably hurt him. What reason would he have to want to talk to you again? He got bit, he retreated. Not contacting you is his way of protecting himself from any further hurt you could cayse him. I dont know many guys who stay in touch with their ex's. Why did you end it? I notice a lack of context there, just the three words 'I ended it' and nothing else. We could be more accurate if we knew why. If you just felt it was moving too fast, fair enough. I hope you explained it properly. If, however, you dumped him to jump on another guy, well thats not good. Maybe he found out. Context is key.

[Asker]

I ended it because he was keep telling "He's not handsome enough for me" "He's not good in bed he knows" "He doesn't dress well" etc. He showed his addictions to me (chewing tobacco). He was intentionally "self-sabotaging" I couldn't understand why, when I asked him what's wrong? what are you trying to do? Maybe he tried to end it? I don't know what he was trying to do. So I ended it.

[Asker]

He never blocked me but he deleted my number

[Asker]

Are you there?

[Deformate]

Yeah I'm here. I'm so sorry, I have had builders in the house doing some big renovations. Its just been chaos. You doing ok?

[ProbablyClueless]

There's no benefit to sending the text. You could send it if you want, but self absorbed people aren't going to give you anything in the way of acknowledgement.

I had a former friend try to erroneously destroy my life. Dude is the most self absorbed person you could ever meet. I reached out to him years later to try and clear the air, hopefully get some kind of formal acknowledgment that he tried to destroy my life. Even if he wasn't sorry. I didn't care about that, I know he's not sorry. It would have been nice to have that acknowledgement though.

His response was that he claimed he "couldn't remember the situation" and that it was so long ago, and that he thought "we all had closure" and that I just needed to move on.

It is what it is... shitty people will never give you what you hope they will.

[Asker]

I was gone without closure. Not him. I didn't give him explanation. He didn't chase either.

[ProbablyClueless]

Okay, so if you're the one who left, what would you say you're hoping to gain from sending the text and trying to reestablish a connection with him?

[Asker]

I don't think he'd care. He didn't block me but He deleted my number.

[TadCurious]

Going no contact was (is) probably the best way for him to deal with the loss. He probably didn't want the relationship to end and was in a different position from you.

[Asker]

We were having sex RAW. I tasted his semen.. So hurtful for a woman, he didn't even ask once "how you been"

[Drumlin2001]

Why would he reach out when you ended it? How he felt is irrelevant, he cut ties as you wanted it

[spartan55]

If he didn't even reach out for sex? Then definitely don't bother. Save your dignity.

[Asker]

Not for sex. He didn't even send just a friendly text "How are you"

We having sex raw. I tested his cum. So hurtful for a woman, he didn't even ask once "how you been"

[Asker]

***Not even for sex. He didn't even send just a friendly text "How are you"

We were having sex raw. I tasted his cum. So hurtful for a woman, he didn't even ask once "how you been" ***

[spartan55]

No offense, but why would he do that? This is why you don't give it up for free. Get in a relationship first. friends with benefits never works, you can't fuck him into submission. Once you give it up for nothing a guy will never respect you, much less be in a relationship with you.

[Asker]

We met for sex. We both didn't expect relationship. Then we talked & agreed that we both felt connection. That's why we started dating. He told me that we have same the intentions

[spartan55]

Yeah, he said that to keep the free sex coming. This isn't complicated.

[Asker]

Sometimes things come to you when you least expect it. We said we both felt connection, I developed feelings for him, so I did tasted his semen yes

[spartan55]

Yeah you mentioned that. Did you learn anything here?

[Asker]

Why are you trying to hurt my feelings? As I said before, even he didn't feel anything. Didn't he see me as AT LEAST friends with benefits. This hurts me.

[Asker]

Even he saw me AS ONLY friends with benefits. He could friendly reach out "How are you"

[spartan55]

Uh... I'm not doing that at all. I'm trying to get you to see your mistake and learn from it.

[Asker]

My point is even he saw me as bed buddy. You can text your bed buddy "how you been" Don't you understand?

[spartan55]

Yes, I do

[Asker]

You don't answer my question. You just try to humiliate

[spartan55]

You play the victim well

[Asker]

So what's the answer?

[Asker]

In your perspective, people cannot hookup then fall in love. Lol

[spartan55]

You think I'm wrong? Whatever. This isn't my second day.

[Asker]

You stay out from context. He was insecure. He was telling me he's not good at sex he knows, he's not handsome enough for me etc. We shared something. I ended it. He hasn't reach out to me ever again. And I cannot get over him now. And it does hurt me never talking to him again because I valued him

[spartan55]

"he's not handsome enough for me" who tf says that?
Is there something stopping you from calling him?

[spartan55]

Maybe your lack of humility turned him off.

[spartan55]

If you ended it then why are you crying about him not calling you? You've got it backwards. You expect him to just chase you around because you are too good for him? Damn you are some kind of entitled.

[Asker]

I didn't say he's not handsome. He SAID that.

[spartan55]

Doesn't really matter. You ended it and are boo hooing about him not calling you. Again, why do you think he is supposed to do anything when YOU ended it? What aren't you understanding?

[BoopBoopBeep]

You dumped him. He moved on. That's how it works.

[historectomy]

you obviously like the guy just reach out and see

[Kacka]

u ended it. wtf u expecting...