There’s this guy I’ve been texting for the past week. He’s obviously into me because he told me I’m pretty, has hearted my texts, and was the one to friend me and message me on insta first. On Thursday night I asked him if he wanted to ask questions back and forth so we could get to know each other better. He told me he was busy but definitely later. I said k, ttyl. I was the first to text Thursday and sent the last message.
At first I thought maybe his phone is broken or he’s with his friends and doesn’t want his friends to know he’s talking to me but it’s been 3 days. Am I being ghosted or should I try to reach out?
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If he's your age then the possibility of his phone getting taken away is pretty high no? Maybe that's what happened
That's what I was thinking but he's been on insta
Yea he could've used a school computer tho or his parents opened the app, which made him look like he was online, I'm not trying to give you too much hope but there's possibilities
Oh yeah that would make a lot of sense. I actually have done that myself. So should I text him or leave it?
Both of are schools get out on the 25th so I was thinking of maybe reaching out then but I feel like that makes me seem desperate. Could I fake drunk text him (wait that would make him get the wrong idea about me)
No don't fake drunk text him, just text him that he hasn't texted back and it has you wondering if he's okay, after that you probably shouldn't text again, and after enough time just call it quits and take it as a ghosting
ok, should I text him now or wait until after finals? And should I text him or message him on insta
Wherever you think he will be the most reachable, I think you know the best time to do it
ok, thanks
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I am skeptical that any guy would enjoy endless convos over text with someone.
What do you mean? what do you think he wants?
Will you see him at school?
I go to an all-girls school and he goes to an all-boys school. We met at rowing because our teams practice at the same place.
Got it. Very helpful.
Okay. Leave it from a texting perspective. The ball is in his court.
But, if you see him at rowing, you have several options:
1. Say nothing and ignore him -- his loss.
2. Confront him and ask him why he didn't respond. Tell him that ghosting is a kid thing to do.
3. Razz him about it in front of his friends. Something like, "you're too scared to respond to a girl who messages you?" Then shake your head and walk off.
haha, I like the last one. I might do the second one
Only problem is the rowing season is over
Sorry I feel like I'm making it hard for you to give me advise
He may poke his head above ground. You can deal with him then.
You are not making it difficult. All good. These are facts that are important to the story.
That, actually, may be one of the reasons he isn't responding: if rowing is over and that was the connection point, then he may think "why bother?" He might have been wrong, but that could be what's in his head.
What does that mean?
I meant leave it for now and deal with him if you see him.
I was trying to write a pretty sentence alluding to gophers who poke their heads above ground.
Oh yeah that makes sense
oh, ok. That sentence was pretty I'm just bad with metaphors lol
Lol I could have made it more clear. Thanks for being patient.