I caught my girlfriend sending nudes to another guy, should I break up? What should I do?

[Anonymous]

This morning i caught my girlfriend sending nudes to another guy. This is my first relationship and i been with her for a year. Why did she do this to me? I treat her like a princess, i don't get get it. I got very mad and was going to leave her house asap. She was begging me to stay and talk about, so i did. She said sorry some many time and was crying and said "i don't want to lose you". I was still mad and when i asked her why you did this? she said "it was a one time thing, and i wll never do it again". She even gave me her phone to check , i didn't even check cause i was so mad and i got up and left.

She keeps calling and texting but i won't answer. I'm not sure about breaking up with her, my trust is lost though. What would you do in this situation? Should i trust her again?

[OlderAndWiser]

Treating a woman like a princess will make her like you, but it will never make her love you. You can try even harder, or you can go to the beach and piss in the ocean to try to raise the tide.

She has moved on. If you check her phone, she will be careful and use it to send nude pictures, but she will do other things that will be disrespectful to you. When you are in a committed relationship, should you be able to trust your partner completely? Absolutely! Will you ever be able to trust her completely? Of course not.

This is your first relationship and breaking up feels like someone sticking a knife in your gut and twisting it. But if you try to trust her and continue, she will hurt you again and you will feel like a fool because you set yourself up. Think about this: five years from now, when you think back on this situation, will you be proud of yourself if you went back to her, or will you be proud if you respected yourself enough to leave her?

You know what you need to do. If you need someone to talk to, vent your feelings, turn to your friends. . . or message me. Good luck!

[Asker]

I broke up with her this morning, it's over. she was crying and begging to stay but, i had to break up.

[OlderAndWiser]

Congratulations. This is how you build self-respect. Get rid of all the things that she gave you, the pictures of her, the notes that she wrote to you, and DO NOT drive by the place that she lives, hoping to catch a glance of her. She as crying because she knows she screwed up and there's nothing she can do to fix it. When you broke up, you turned and walked away and you felt it in your gut. . . remember that feeling and remind yourself of that feeling if you have any moments of weakness.

[Asker]

Like i'm overall a nice guy and i feel bad for doing it, but i know in my heart it was the right thing. Like she was crying and holding on to my hand, begging me to not go. but i did what was supposed to be done.

[OlderAndWiser]

"I did what was supposed to be done" sounds like you aren't feeling very confident about this. Probably because you see yourself as a nice guy (which I don't doubt) and nice guys aren't supposed to do things that hurt someone else so much. Right?

Suppose you cheated on her, she breaks up with you, and you're sitting there crying like a baby (not making fun of you; I've been there and done that) begging her to not go. Is she a bad person for telling you to get lost?

[Asker]

no she would not be because i would have done the wrong. I mean time will heal this.

[Singing_Hollow]

Well done, you can't let any person walk over you like that. You know your worth. There are great women out there that deserves your trust and loyalty so dont waste your time on someone who doesn't appreciate you and respect your relationship.

[OlderAndWiser]

Can you give an update on what has happened in your life during the past year?

[heavensgift2girls]

The only reason she is sorry is because she got caught. I really doubt this is a one time thing. The odds of you just happening to catch her the first time she did something like this is very low. If anything she erases the evidence off her phone every time she does it. There are even apps that erase everything after a certain number of hours so people don't have to worry about forgetting to erase the evidence.

I think you should dump her. You will never have the same level of trust and respect for her you once had. This means your relationship will always be tainted from now on. That is the best case scenario. It will be better if you just move on from here and find a girl you can respect and trust, that will also show you the respect you deserve.

[Asker]

thanks for the comment and help, as much as it hurts i think i'm going to leave her. You are correct.

[Anonymous]

I made a mistake once and trusted my ex boy friend after he did drugs behind my back, after in the relationship he would always get mad that I didn't really trust him, i still stayed with him but when we broke up 4 months later which is like right now I'm really happy I realized that there was no point of a relationship with out trust, your girlfriend probably felt something really disconnected from you emotionally she wasn't satisfied for sure but I say you should break up she basically cheated on you

[Asker]

I did break up with her 4 days ago. She keeps texting me saying she was sorry and she feels sad and like i made her cry. I mean i'm nice persona and i don't like to see anyone feel like this and the more she texts me sending all this stuff the more i feel bad kinda. But i know i made the the right decision. You are correct. there are other better ladies out there. I made the right decision.

I always treated her nicely and well, I don't know why she did that. But there is better women out there.

[MaskedSanity]

She's a cheating cunt.

You can do SO much better. I bet she wouldn't be too happy if you were sending nudes to other women.

She can just fuck miles of off. Why waste time on a cheating hoe, when there are many amazing beautiful FAITHFUL girls who would love you with all their heart and not take you for granted?

Boot her out of your life asap.

[Asker]

I did break up with her 4 days ago. She keeps texting me saying she was sorry and she feels sad and like i made her cry. I mean i'm nice persona and i don't like to see anyone feel like this and the more she texts me sending all this stuff the more i feel bad kinda. But i know i made the the right decision. You are correct. there are other better ladies out there. I made the right decision.

[MaskedSanity]

You definitely made the right decision. Don't give into her soppy texts. She knows you're a good person, so she's trying to guilt trip you into changing your mind. She made herself cry by being a whore, nothing to do with you.

She deserved to be sad, upset, devastated and every other unpleasant feeling.

Block her number, block her everywhere online, cut off contact completely and enjoy life. :)

[Asker]

like one text she sent me said this "i'm so sorry, you're one of the nicest and caring guys i ever met and i want to be back with you. You treated me so good and i'am sorry for what i did, please come back to me". But i will block of contact with her, there is other girls out there.

[Camelia7012]

You did make the good decision here. You will find a better girl that dont cheat behind your back

[Hannah591]

I would suggest you break up with her. She's ruined your trust, she's practically cheating on you, she obviously doesn't respect you or the relationship and she most definitely will do it again. Don't fall for her tears and begging, she's just sorry she got caught. She would carry on doing it if you never caught her.

[Asker]

I did break up with her 4 days ago. She keeps texting me saying she was sorry and she feels sad and like i made her cry. I mean i'm nice persona and i don't like to see anyone feel like this and the more she texts me sending all this stuff the more i feel bad kinda. But i know i made the the right decision. You are correct. there are other better ladies out there. I made the right decision.

I always treated her nicely and well, I don't know why she did that? But there is better women out there.

[Hannah591]

You have made the right decision. She's caused this upset herself, not you. There definitely are better women out there who would never do what she did.

[Asker]

yes you are correct

[Genie23]

Break up with her. She's a btch

[Asker]

I did break up with her 4 days ago. She keeps texting me saying she was sorry and she feels sad and like i made her cry. I mean i'm nice persona and i don't like to see anyone feel like this and the more she texts me sending all this stuff the more i feel bad kinda. But i know i made the the right decision. You are correct. there are other better ladies out there. I made the right decision.

I always treated her nicely and well, I don't know why she did that? But there is better women out there.

[Genie23]

The reason she says "You made me cry" etc etc cause she knows you are really nice person and that there are only few guys who treat girls as good as you. So, she didn't want to lose you and is trying to emotionally blackmail you. If she really care about you she wouldn't have done something like that to you. She wants attention from other guys too.
It sucks, when you care about someone and treat them good but still they cheat on you. My ex boyfriend cheated on me. So I know how it feels. He literally begged me to give another chance. I was fool to give him another chance. Once a cheater is always a cheater.

You made the right decision. Just block her number. You deserve someone better.

[Asker]

I will stop all contact with her.

[Genie23]

Good

[TaureanBull81]

Too right ✅️

[Genie23]

@TaureanBull81 Thank you!

[lally97]

Bro you got two options here. Both of them include walking away. Sorry but that’s the truth.


1. Respect yourself enough to realise where you’re not appreciated. A 1920’s Rolex is worthless in a watch shop but a diamond top a watch collector.


2. I don’t care what anyone says this is a form of cheating and not to make you paranoid but this is only level 1 of what you’ve found. She’s deleted shit off her phone and probably used Snapchat


3. You need to leave and depending on your personality you can do it in 2 ways




1st way just cut her off ignore her and leave and heal yourself.


2nd way embarrass her before she does it you.
Tell her parents. Tell her friends. Stand back after you lit the fuse and watch the fireworks. This may sound dark but sometimes you got to stand up for yourself. It’s only a matter of time before the whole world finds this out and you’ll be on the side of either being embarrassed or causing her the embarrassment. If you choose this way you need to have no feelings towards her and realise that she doesn’t care about you. If she did then why did she do this?


Which ever choice you decide to make, make sure you really want it. As later on it may feel I should of gone with the other one.

[kaiis_other_half]

Look it may hurt now but trust me it may be for the best if you let her come back without any hesitation she will take your kindness as weakness and most likely do it again I say this as one man to another a "one time thing" is never just one time, I have two choices for you leave her now and get away before you get hurt, or let her come back but have a closer eye I. e random phone check keep a closer eye on who or how she talk to others guys especially hope this helps and good luck.

[Asker]

i will leave her. going to tell her today.

[lightbulb27]

well, it's a big warning sign of some unknown underlying problem isn't it.

You can leave and try to find someone that doesn't require work, and I'd respect you for that.

Or you can recognize you just ran into a problem that needs addressed, and stay and work on it. Given what you wrote, I favor this option for now... to figure out what is going on and if can be fixed.

her answer is an affirmation of the action but is not sufficient is it? You need to pause, realize this isn't about you, it's about her, and what you are willing to do to help her so she changes and corrects whatever problems she has.

some people are so difficult that you are better off moving on.

we are living in very damaged times...

[vincehb12]

You should break up or take a break. You say that you treat her like a princess. That's not the best way to handle a girl. Trust me, you can be kind with her but if your needy and do anything she ask you. She got you by the balls. Take so time off to think about it. Sometimes when woman cheat its because she's lose the attraction with you. Or she might just be a slut sorry for the strong word. Take a couple week's to clear your mind and think. After sit down with and ask her what are her insecurities or the things that made the attraction go away. Let her think about a couple days to so don't answer her call or text For a while. If you want more advice message me thanks hope it goes well.

[Asker]

I did break up with her

[vincehb12]

OK hope you fell better

[Asker]

thanks bro

[Anonymous]

Why are you even asking this question? Leave the bitch, she doesn't love you and worse of all she doesn't respect you, she think of you as weak (proves in the fake crying to keep you, she's going to cheat on you and only stay with you not to be alone / as back up plan).

Leave her and never speak to her again. That's really the only things to do cause if you stay with her after this it's only going to get worse cause she would think of you of some submissive idiot on who she can cheat on without consequence.

[TaureanBull81]

The fact you've caught her red handed ✋️ in the act of sharing nudes with another guy, your relationship will never be the same because you'll always have in the back of your mind whether she'll do this again when you're not together.

She did this because you treated her like a princess 👸, put her on a pedestal and so she was looking for some excitement elsewhere.

I'd be dumping her ASAP due to the complete lack of respect she's shown you!

[TaureanBull81]

Thanks for the upvote @Genie23 😁👋

[Genie23]

You're most welcome! 😇👋

[TaureanBull81]

Thanks for the upvote @DanielleB23 👋

[Lalaxoxo_soso]

You could give her a second chance if you believe from her apology that she was sincerely sorry and really won't do it again. After all you have been together for over a year. But if you don't think she was sincerely sorry and you think there's a chance she can do it again then leave her

[Asker]

thanks for the comment and help, as much as it hurts i think i'm going to leave her.

[Lalaxoxo_soso]

It would probably be for the bed as sometimes girls can be the best actresses and if she was really sorry and loved you she wouldn't have done it in the first place

[Asker]

true, i will drop her, i hate to do it, but it has to be done.

[Lalaxoxo_soso]

Best of luck to you at the end

[Asker]

thank you

[Ped1981]

Dump her pronto. She's going to cause you a lot of heartache. Get rid of her now before she gets a chance to destroy you. She'll never change and if you catch her messing about she'll just try and say you made her do it with the way you treat her. Trust me here she's a wrong un.

[Asker]

I did break up with her 4 days ago. She keeps texting me saying she was sorry and she feels sad and like i made her cry. I mean i'm nice persona and i don't like to see anyone feel like this and the more she texts me sending all this stuff the more i feel bad kinda. But i know i made the the right decision. You are correct. there are other better ladies out there. I made the right decision.

I always treated her nicely and well, I don't know why she did that, But there is better women out there.

[katiesmuff]

You should get on your knee's and kiss her bare ass, then begin taking the pictures yourself for her to send to her guy friends. You could also drive her to the guys place and wait outside as she fucks this guy. When she is done take her home, help her have a good shower, make her some food, then go sit in a corner and jack off asking yourself what a looser you are.

[D_Bone_Steak]

yeah I don't blame you for being done with her commitment-wise. Here is some old man advice though... treat her like a whore and actively search for a new girl. When you find the new girl drop her like a bad habit and make it sting.

Drop a zinger like "I shit on you because you send nudes to dudes" and say it like Arnold Schwarzenegger on a Terminator movie.

[Anemone978]

Well it is your choice. Always remember women always need sexual validation from men, if she has self esteem issues she is more likely then not will do stupid things like that in private or on social media. So always look at how your women act and behave, this is also why it is important to know body counts. At the end of the day a hoe is a hoe.

[ShesRad80]

without trust why stay? if she's done that behind your back what else has she done that you didn't catch? apparently you treating her like a princess is not appreciated, kick her to the curb and move on, there is someone ho who will absolutely reciprocate your gestures and feelings

[Miristheiss]

Yes, I'd say this is an extinction level event. You should get her out of your life.

LOYALTY is just about the most important thing a good girlfriend or wife can give her man. She is not loyal, that is the WORST type of girl to keep in your life.

Get rid of her.

[stephx]

Break up. You can find a faithful gf. It usually never is a one time thing, if you've done it once you can do it again. You'll probably miss her and want to forgive her but know that you deserve better

[Asker]

thanks for the comment and help, as much as it hurts i think i'm going to leave her. Like i'm a nice guy and just saying "we're breaking up" will hurt me. I think she will probably cry but i mean... i don't trust her tha much

[stephx]

Yea you sound like a good guy, it's unfortunate she wasn't loyal to you. A relationship without trust is doomed to fail. Chin up!

[Asker]

yeah like i'm sad cause i treated her like a princess and did everything for her :( I'm going to tell her today. She keeps texting me that she's very sorry and couldn't sleep at night :( but i have to do what i have to do as much as it hurts me.

[Staximus]

Better leave her now because of you take her back, she's going to think you will tolerate that sort of behavior. If she's sending nudes, who else knows what she's doing when you're not around. Dump her so you don't have to think about that stuff, it will drive you crazy. She has proven herself untrustworthy.

[BoopBoopBeep]

My house is on fire, should I put it out?

Yes, brother, and the faster the better. She's obviously morally bankrupt and desperate for attention from others, how long you have to suck that up? Go get a woman that appreciates you.

[Sexiestjohnson]

Personally, as someone without a girlfriend right now, I'd say forgive her if she is sorry because getting a girl worthy to be called a girlfriend, is a priceless treasure.


But then again, if you can't forgive her, don't pretend to.

[Hephaestus]

Break up.
even if you put a bandage over this... you'll never trust her again.

Sorry buddy... but it's for the best to end it

[Asker]

thanks for the comment and help and yeah you're right. i don't understand why she did this to me. I always treat her nice. why would she do this?

[Hephaestus]

Some peeps are just cunts.
don't blame yaself budski

[Asker]

ok, thanks man

[Bards]

If she can't explain it to you why she did it then you should leave her alone and just be friends at best.

[Asker]

thanks for the comment and help and i think i will break up with her.

[Bards]

No prob. Good luck

[Asker]

thank you

[Prof_Don]

Nah I wouldn't stay with her either. Her naked body should only be for me and no other guys or gals.

[Asker]

thanks for the comment and help, as much as it hurts, i'm going to leave her.

[Klaatu51]

w8 a min... the guy might b THREATING her 2 send him pics u know...;-)

[Spade_01]

Break up, no matter what she says and how many times she apologises, don't listen to her. Just do away with her.

[fonduegirl]

If she were flirting, I'd say forgive and forget. But straight up nudes? No man. Let her go. That's red flag behavior.

[Gent207-2]

Breakup and RUN

Once a cheater, ALWAYS a cheater

[blondfrog]

Confront her, break up with her and lose all contact with her. Sorry to hear that man :(

[Asker]

thanks for the comment and help. yeah it sucks but i will do that.

[blondfrog]

Good for you :) you will find someone else :)

[Asker]

yeah, thanks

[Anonymous]

Either that or put her on the streets and have her make you some money. Because if she gonna be for the streets you might as well benefit from it.

[Ihatethewill]

W move for breaking up with her dude. She can't have two boyfriends, and she had to learn the hard way.

[jelenanoura]

Break up with her , you deserves the best , she is cheater

[Asker]

I did break up with her

[jelenanoura]

dont be sad , face the reality she doesn't deserves
im sure sooner or later you will find your princess <3
All the best dude

[Asker]

thanks, i treated her really good and i serously did treat her like a princess and before she kept texting me sayiung how i'm making her cry and that i should give her a second chance. :( i'm a nice guy and it bothers me you know. But i know i made the right choice

[BestOfMe66]

I am sorry for what happened to you. Exact thing happened to me after treating my ex girlfriend the best... Make sure you cut all communication with her, but remain friendly while doing so. Make sure she understands that you cannot remain friends (simply because friends do not betray other friends - as simple as that). You must do this because she will still try to lead you on. Because you still love her you might fall for it, and then you will be in a world of pain! You have to go NC (No Contact) for a good 40- 60 days for you to heal, move on and perhaps you might let her contact you after that. I cannot stress how important this is for your own sake. Cheaters hate to be alone, and she will do the impossible to try to hold on to you, but you must be strong, and never to take her back! This is a huge disrespect/betrayal, and you will never be able to forget that. You will find the correct woman soon enough, just like I did eventually. Best of luck to you - Cesar

[Anonymous]

Your girlfriend is a whore. Terrible choice for a SO.

[Princessofpersia]

Find a woman who respects u

[Asker]

thanks for the comment and help

[Princessofpersia]

Anytime 😎

[petite_salope]

drop her ass

[petite_salope]

that was NOT the first time. do you think, honestly, that YOU happen to walk in one the VERY first time she did that? nope. she got comfy doing it, you hadn't caught on, and she got caught. and you CAN delete shit right after you send it. period.

[Asker]

thanks for the comment and help, as much as it hurts i think i'm going to leave her. You are correct.

[gorydetails]

yes, you break up immediately

[Bandit74]

dump her ass

[Asker]

thanks for the comment and help

[Anonymous]

Who was the dude? Someone she knows or a rando?

[Wise4myage]

Dump the ho.

[Anonymous]

Break up with her

[Asker]

I did break up with her 4 days ago. She keeps texting me saying she was sorry and she feels sad and like i made her cry. I mean i'm nice persona and i don't like to see anyone feel like this and the more she texts me sending all this stuff the more i feel bad kinda. But i know i made the the right decision. You are correct. there are other better ladies out there. I made the right decision.

I always treated her nicely and well, I don't know why she did that? But there is better women out there.

[Opinion Owner]

If you don't want to talk to her no more just block her number

[Asker]

I did now

[Opinion Owner]

Good for you

[In_Trance]

good times...

[Anonymous]

leave her. .

[Asker]

I did break up with her. She keeps texting me saying she was sorry and she feels sad. I mean i'm nice persona dn i don't like to see anyone feel like this and the more she texts me sending all this stuff the more i feel bad kinda. But i know i made the the right decision.

[Opinion Owner]

block her. no remorse, she has none either, she only pretends to do so. just try to be a bit smooth so she doesn't do anythhing crazy (if 1 in the million she's honestly repented)

[Asker]

i'll cut her off for a while block or not reply to her.