My girlfriend sent nudes to a guy before me? Should I break up with her or am I being stupid for feeling this way?

[Anonymous]

I know most people have a past but I'm an inexperienced guy. I've never sexted, had sex, or had a girlfriend before her. She's had one boyfriend before me and they sexted during their short relationship. She told me they never went to the point where they had sex and that she's still a virgin. I don't know why but it bothers me at the thought of her ex still having her nudes and shit like that and the fact she did something like that with him..
She told me she cut of all communication with him the moment we started talking. Am I overreacting and being dumb? Should I just let this go?

Dump her

Keep her, you're being stupid

[therandomguy1]

Over reacting. Calm down bud. Maybe if she was still sexting him it would be a problem but she is still a virgin. She is not a saint. Just calm down lol

[Asker]

Yea she told him to stop talking to her in general because he was too sexual in talking to her after their breakup. I don't think I have anything to be worried about unless he shows them around to try to embarrass her or something...

[willychilli]

If its bothering you at this stage you're better off without her.

[Asker]

But what would you think of this? Would you care?

[willychilli]

I've been in a long term relatioship for like 6 years... words are words homie. My mantra is expect the worst. And for me id only care if it was after the fact that we got together. There is no way to find out the truth so its gonna bug you your whole relationship.

[Asker]

Wait so you'd only care if she sent the nudes to the guy after you got with her? Is that what you're saying

[Asker]

She sent nudes to this guy while she was dating him and that was 3-4 months ago.. so she sent them before we got together. Not now. She said she doesn't talk to him anymore so I trust her just the idea that she did something like that with another guy bothers me. I guess because I'm inexperienced

[willychilli]

No itd make any guy upset. just depends on how youd get over it. I hate hearing about my gf's past. And I've been with more people than her... either u just swallow it and take it as her past. Or u stay bothered by it. It doesn't matter if you're experienced or not. Your feelings are your feelings. No one can tell you if you should or shouldn't be upset about it.

[Asker]

Yea I'm not gonna dump her because of her past. It makes me feel shallow. I don't need a "perfect" innocent girl

[Asker]

As long as she isn't talking to that asshole, I'll feel fine

[willychilli]

Then you'll be ok. If u find out she's talking to that dickhead then u know what to do. But for now good luck lol

[GirlRay]

He has her nudes. But you have her - you have the real thing. Keep her. Don't judge her because of her past. Be present and think forward.

[Asker]

But it would be a bad sign if she still kept talking to him when we were together right?

[Asker]

He's a tool. He asked her for nudes again right when they were "friends"

[GirlRay]

Is she talking with him? He's an idiot

[Asker]

No she cut him out of her life and told him to stop talking to her and she blocked him which I'm relieved

[Asker]

But I agree lol I really don't like him. He wasn't a good guy to her

[GirlRay]

You can be a good guy to her.

[Heythere2013]

Don't judge her for her past. Let it go, esp if they have nothing between them. Everyone has a past, but you have her now.

[Trueking]

Notice how every women is saying "it's her past don't judge". In the comment section... Don't take their advice you shouldn't be made to feel guilty for feeling a set way!
They will have her pictures for eternity, do you want to marry this women and have children knowing some guy has her naked on his phone the mother of your child. No...
"Don't judge for her past"
There's a reason you can't/struggle get jobs if you get a criminal record... it's a record of your behaviour and many women like to play the card of getting away with it.
Stay your ground, say your issue, if it does bother you! Then let it go.. I didn't and was told the same advice from women and I struggled for years trying to cope, effecting my mental health! Your feelings matter just as much! Don't let anyone tell you otherwise, they say "your insecure, your the one with the issue"... to mask there own faults and shift blame.

[bllrd]

see she sent this guy but I was like dam but I kinda fell in love wit ha sm u can’t be mad at her because she told u the truth instead of hiding it see she was being honest just ignore it ur chillin just talk to her about it or something but jus keep ur relationship straight-Fred

[Revolver_Ocelot]

break up, this is major shit going on behind the scenes. she's cheating on u with @Nahid1234

[Anonymous]

it was before you