Need opinion on guys behavior after one night stand. should I move on with my life?

[Anonymous]

So I met this bartender B at a bar and talked very briefly that night. We ended up matching on a dating app few days later. He remembered me from the bar and we had been texted for a month. About three weeks ago, we met up for the first time and ended up spending whole night together. We just shared a bottle of wine so we weren’t drunk….. next morning, we got intimate again. He had been cuddling the whole time and being sweet. As I started to get ready to leave, he said “you are leaving already? You can stay if you want ”. I said “ I am leaving and I’m hungry”. He suggested that we go to a cafe for breakfast. Before we left his flat, he hugged and kissed me. We took a little walk to a cafe. I had breakfast and He just had a cup of coffee because he wasn’t hungry yet. He was telling me about restaurants he wants to take me next time. He was even affectionate when we were there. We also explored around the neighborhood since there were many shops there. We browsed around a bit and made stop at a couple of places. Then he walked me to the nearest station. At the station, he hugged and we kissed again. We exchanged few messages shortly after we said good bye. 3 days later, he texted again and we texted for few days then there have been no contact since then.. it has been almost two weeks of no contact. We tried to see each other but he just asked when I’m free so that he could check his schedule but he told he would let me know and disappeared. I probably shouldn’t have gone breakfast with him, that’s when my expectation has changed somewhat. He always text first so I never text him first. Should I text him what’s up? Or should I not? In my opinion, it’s a clear sign of no interest or need space if guy doesn’t text…FYI, we are from different culture. I’m from Asia and he is from western Europe.

[Lost_in_the_Woods]

Bartenders usually work long late hours.

Three days isn't very long.

Sounds like things are going well to me. It's possible he changed his mind but I'd say it's more likely he is busy working and/or stressed about it.

Don't rush him too much, but you can always text him first. Ask him when he has time to hang out.

If he still doesn't reply for a week he probably changed his mind, but a few days isn't very long when you work at a bar. Things get crazy, he's probably exhausted from working and spending time with you.

Give him some time. Don't be afraid to let him know you want to hang out again. But if he doesn't reply for a week he probably isn't that serious about it.

[Asker]

Thank you so much for your opinion. So bars have been closed for a while because of covid. After we had spoken for few days, we stopped talking and it has been two weeks. The last message was sent by me and he just liked the message and that was it. I also didn’t want to seem like I’m being needy …. Is it a good timing to contact him again? We went from texting a lot to nothing….

[Lost_in_the_Woods]

You can definitely try, it's possible he has been busy or distracted with other things, but two weeks is a while.

It's worth a shot to text him again, but it seems likely he won't reply =/

[Lost_in_the_Woods]

Don't try too hard. You are better off finding someone who puts the effort in.

[Toldol2]

To my opinion this has nothing to do with what you did or not or said. What do you expect from him now? A relationship? Give him time away