My coworker acts very cold, disinterested and busy when I try to approach him to ask work related questions. When I walk up to him he seems distracted by his work and mumbles something to himself but with others he is always invested in the conversation. He is the most sociable in our team but with me he keeps it very short and goes out of his way to not smile. I never flirted with him and I hardly ever talk to him about anything to the point. He was supposed to train me but "forgot" to do it to the point where other coworkers noticed it. I also noticed that he would give me blank stares when walking by and he keeps scanning the room or looking over my head when he talks to me. Why does he do that? He talks to other women just fine
If a guy always tries to look busy and distracted when you approach him does it mean he dislikes you?
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I think he might probably like you, that or he’s absolutely repulsed by you, but I’ll go with the latter.
Some men are very rude to women they like. I dealt with something similar at a job I started where a male coworker upon first meeting was extremely cold, rude and distant. After talking to him for a little bit he was actually super cool and turns out he had a huge crush on me to the point he lowkey stalked me.. kind of made me uncomfortable but it happens.
He might be trying to project a hyper masculine personality onto you because either he thinks you’re so attractive that you’d deny him, or he just doesn’t want to make it seem like he likes you. From my experience, a man who doesn’t have any romantic interest towards you in the workplace will be cordial because there’s no reason to be rude. I’d get to know him very slowly and his true intentions will reveal themselves.
He is not really rude, just very distinterested which is not his usual charming and curious self. Do you think that he might believe that I like him so he goes out of his way to avoid me?
And how did you find out he had a crush on you and that he stalked you?
That’s just how some men are. I do consider that rude if he’s going out of his way to treat you differently from everyone around him intentionally!
Well I didn’t really do anything except strike up conversation. We found an interest we both bonded over and it just went downhill from there lol.. just try talking to him eventually he will probably come around and if he’s a jerk, just avoid him. You can usually tell in conversation if he doesn’t like you because he will shut down any attempt you try to get to know him. But I’d be persistent because like I said, most guys who don’t have a romantic interest in you in the work place don’t intentionally go out of their way to be like what you described.
When I try to talk to him he is always short that’s why I think he dislikes me
I Must be repulsive because men tend to avoid me
Also, I feel like he is always in a hurry to leave when he is forced to spend time with me at work
One time he pretended to have to leave me early because he has to attend a meeting which was not true. Also one time I saw him hiding from me in the toilet when he saw me from afar. I don't know what I do to repulse men.
Either that, or you make him feel nervous for some reason.
Why could he possibly dislike me? I hardly ever talk to him. And why Would he be nervous?
He might like you and just be too shy.
He is a very confident guy and women like him
Definitely not, If anything I think he likes you.
Are you being sarcastic? I’ve seen him talk to attractive women and with them he is very charming and chatty
Sorry I didn't read your question fully.
It sounds like he doesn't like, I think but I'm not sure.
Ok But why? He barely knows me and is nice to everyone else