So confused? what is wrong with this guy?

[Anonymous]

me and my ex boyfriend broke up because of nasty arguments. he dumped me, i begged to get back together and then i just stopped and gave him space. he blocked me off all socials and tells me to move on and that it’s over. not even a week goes by he texts me he misses me and deletes it. and asked if i had sex with someone else. i ignore it, and he kept sending tiktok’s and i ignore it. i find out i was blocked because i sent him TikTok today, so i call restricted & i asked why am i blocked? and he said because i’m a nightmare and he didn’t want me blowing his phone up while he was having sex with other women. like i know i can’t be mad because we broke up. but like why tell me that you’re hooking up with females? it’s just weird. and honestly i thought this was just a BREAK. but he’s actually sleeping around from girls he's met from hinge? not to mention he texts me ON HIS BIRTHDAY to remind me it’s his birthday. and call 5 times i was going no contact … so why would he tell me he’s sleeping with other girls?

[b_lova]

So he messaged you a week later because he was horny. He may like sex with you but doesn't like you and since you have nasty arguments I would say the feeling is mutual.

Concerning his flip-floping he probably wanted to keep you close for the sex but once he found sex from other women he was okay with letting you go. He is telling you he is having sex with other women because that makes him sound desirable and therefore in his mind you would be jealous and want to have sex with him again. Pretty stupid huh!

Contacting you on his birthday was because he wanted you to give him a gift or emotional support. Don't think it was because he wanted to get back with you. He just wanted something from you.

Honestly, you should be glad the asshole split up with you. He doesn't sound emotionally stable enough to be in a relationship. I would suggest blocking him and never looking back.

[Asker]

it’s long distance, i don’t live in his state, we broke up because we would fight because he always blew my phone up and was on edge every time i went places or posted on social media. he acted like a nut case our entire relationship, texting my parents saying how much he loves me but i make him cry. he always cried about how i’m always “distant” and he just use to piss me off with his neediness. he was very insecure and smothering of me, i would constantly cuss him out because of it. i know for a fact he loved me more than i loved him. like being obsessed with me, asking his i fucked someone else. my ex whenever he slept with other girls he never told me he was very private. this guy whenever we fight loves to brag, he always says “i never had a girl as beautiful as you,” or “you’re a model” all his friends constantly called me “hot” he always posted me on social media bragging about how “beautiful” i was. now that i put my foot down he dumps and wants to brag that he’s sleeping around. he’s a 4 at best and 5’6. i dated him because he was funny and we grew a bond. & fell in love.

[b_lova]

I will tell you like I told my kids when they were growing up. A long distance relationship is not a bonding relationship. Unless you are in the range to smell each other on a regular basis you can't really grow closer together there is just too much room to create fantasy about who the person is and what you inadvertently do is falling in love with the fantasy rather than the person because the fantasy can fulfill your dreams.

And like I said before this guy is an asshole now that you have told me more I would suggest you avoid him because he sounds more like a guy that would lock you in a basement. All I hear are red flags.

On a final note, just like it told my daughters, I am sure you can find a guy who makes you laugh that lives in your area, you just have to not be attached to your long distance relationship to find him.

[Asker]

we saw eachother every weekend. he would come see me or i’ll come see him, he was just A LOT to deal with. always crying and throwing things a huge man child. i’m sure i will move on, but it hurts, i wanted us to work

[summiter]

He dumped you... now forget him and move on... u can do better! Do you miss the sex or him.. or perhaps a bit of both?

[Asker]

both

[ventustalks]

It looks like he is lying. He is the first to ask you if you are sleeping with anyone else. When you did not answer, he assumed you do and now he tries to get you jealous like that. His behavior is not normal and extremely toxic. I think you have nothing to worry about.

[Asker]

do you think he’s actually lying? i mean it makes sense why he blocked me if he’s having sex with others and doesn’t want me responding to him … but if that were me, i wouldn’t respond like? he’s been saying for weeks he wants to get over me and fuck someone else the moment i go no contact he wanna tell me he’s fucking

[ventustalks]

I don't think it is the truth. There are ways to keep his phone silent. He can literally use 1 button to make it go quiet. Instead of doing that he blocks you and then tells you he is with other females. Classic toxic attention seeker man. I think it is extremely unhealthy, he is lying.

[Asker]

if you’re a over someone you don’t text them and block them and tell them you moved on and fucking other girls. and when i called him restricted he acted like i was being SOO ANNOYING and harassing him, but HE was the one texting me and calling me when i went no contact. sorry for trauma dumping. like the moment i call i’m ruining his life 🙄

[ventustalks]

Don't be sorry we are chatting. I think the best think you did was to take a break from this relationship because sometimes this is the only way to see our significant other's true colors. My ex did such stupidities too which made it easier for me to move on. He is trying to get your attention and make you miserable. The moment he sees you on a street laughing with friends with a good dress on you he will lose his mind because he does not want you to be happy without him. Don't mind him.

[Asker]

i want us to handle our issues, because i love him. he’s 30. i obviously want him back, i know it sounds stupid, i really do love that nutcase. he was just overly smothering with me & never gave me space. that’s were our arguments happened

[In_Trance]

Stop interacting with your ex

[Asker]

didn’t answer my question