What are Signs your boyfriend could be hanging out with a girl from work in the mornings?

[Anonymous]

If my boyfriend works a night shift and he finishes work in the morning, what are signs he could be seeing someone after work? Or what are signs he could be seeing someone in general?

[spartan55]

And what are your reasons for suspecting your boyfriend of cheating?

[Asker]

last year I had never seen him do any of these things.. but I also did never check his phone last year.

1. I saw him look up a girl on Instagram from his work, (he claims he was about to block her out of respect to me because she tried to follow him).

2. He took a little while longer getting home from work in March/April. I did have his location though and it was never at anyone’s house. Only things such as car wash, coffee, gas + sitting in work parking lot for a bit (he claims he was warming his car up, it does get cold where we live)

3. He randomly would ask if I still love him, tell me we will do more fun things together, ask me if I lost feelings

4. Wouldn’t really bring me around his work often. ( eventually he did) he claims it was because it’s a waste of gas (it is about 40 min away from where we live-a whole other town)

5. I found a lipgloss in his car but apparently his dad threw it in there thinking it was mine

6. tells me white lies

But- there is a lot of good things he has done too. Tells me I’m beautiful everyday, wants me to meet his family, posts me on everything, tells me he loves me everytime he gets to work, wears a hat with my name on it, is determined to hangout with me every single day, cries when he thinks I’m going to leave him, tells me I’m the best thing that has ever happens to him, tells me he cannot live without me, opens up emotionally to me as well.. & swears on his parents lives he would never hurt me.

I’m truly not sure what to think. Thoughts?

[spartan55]

So does he know you go through his phone now?

[Asker]

Yes he does

[spartan55]

Why does he allow it? And why are you still all over him if you monitor his phone.

[Asker]

I don’t check his phone anymore to protect myself but recently yes. He tells me I can do anything to try n find things out. Do u believe there is nothing to worry about?

[Avicenna]

text messages between them? Leaving early for work?

[Asker]

I’ve only ever seen her send him a message and he did not reply.. it was about them ordering food as a group at work. + saw he looked her up early December but he says it was to block her so I didn’t think anything bad. - Then he does get to work and shows up about 20 min early.. I mean it is a big place and takes like 6 minutes to get into but yeah..(I also have no proof he cheated on me with her, my mind just eye balling her specifically because she’s one of the only girls I know he works with)

[gothbxtch]

i would start by asking him about it

[Asker]

I have and he swears on everything he has never. I’ve been asking his constantly for the past 4 months (which is bad) and he’s never told me he has. He cried to me saying he hasn’t. He swears on his mom's life he would never. He cries that he doesn’t want to lose me.. what do u think?

[spartan55]

@asker
I think you better knock that shit off before he dumps you.

[Asker]

So you’re saying you don’t think he has..& that he’s being serious?

[spartan55]

I think all of the reasons you gave add up to a whole lotta NOTHIN. PLUS you admit you have been asking about it for the past four months? I mean what is your deal. Your boyfriend sounds majorly p whipped because he is tolerating a ton of bullshit from you.

[Asker]

There’s reasons as to why I think something has happened and he’s the kind of guy to hide things from me. So I’m trying to get him to confess to what their might be there. But if a guy is doing all that too, u truly believe he has not done anything? - and he doesn’t wanna let me go so he tolerates my crazy ass

[spartan55]

If you don't trust him then what are you doing? You think a relationship is sustainable with no trust?
You are not being a good partner at all. You know he won't leave, so you can be as big of a bitch possible.

[Asker]

It’s not me being a bitch. It’s how he kinda screwed with my trust. Thanks for telling me he isn’t doing anything though. :)

[spartan55]

Doing 'all that'... all what?
He hides things because you jump his shit about EVERYTHING.

[Iron_Man]

You have to investigate it

[Asker]

How could I?

[Iron_Man]

If you think your boyfriends having an affair, have one of your friends check up on it you don’t wanna be cheated on and him trying to be real Sneaky and get by with it

[Asker]

What are signs you’d say someone has cheated? I asked someone else that works at his work and she said she’s never heard anything but would keep an eye out.. I also have aunts and uncles that work there too. + he convinced me to work there as well. I start September. Don’t you think if he was secretly hanging out with her that he would avoid me working there?- it is a big plant - GM

[Iron_Man]

Yes probably

[Asker]

So do you think I’m overthinking it or yes something happened?

[Iron_Man]

Maybe nothings going on at all, but keep your eyes open and take the job

[Asker]

Thank you! I appreciate it a lot.

[Iron_Man]

You’re very welcome just keep an eye out on things. Maybe there’s not a problem at all

[BLP11520]

Leaving early or coming home later

[Anonymous]

Google the signs of cheating and see if any apply.