How do I approach him advice please?

Question

Guy I see every day in passing at the building I work at, he works at a different company so I only see him while I’m grabbing coffee and I kind of have to have a reason to go into the office if he isn’t already out there getting coffee. I have gotten kind of the vibe that he may like me but I have a problem with men being intimidated by me so I don’t expect him to approach.

Im asking for ways and things I can say, not “just approach him” because it’s not easy for men obviously not easy for women either. The things I say to him also need to make sense because he’s a business professional, if anyone can give me advice.

teamvic · Accepted Answer

Hmmm well depends on which route you wanna take. If you take the slow route you can just first few days smile at him. Then days after that say hello. And then I don't know act like you gotta do some bullshit where he is and do some small talk and then hopefully he'll start saying stiff back to you on passing and they you guys are now somewhat familiar with eachother and taking to him about random shit isn't so hard

If you wanna take a faster route, well to be honest that's the problem if you don't want to just go up to him and introduce yourself to him then there is no faster route. You both seem to be hesitant.

Obviously if you wanna approach him you need a topic to discuss like you said but the problem is. I have no idea about him or anything about him so hoe am I gonna suggest a personalized topic for him if I don't know any of yall🤔

Your best bet is just going to have to be small talk honestly. Just to at least get the wheels turning you know? To have at least some sort of ground to start on because it seems you want to talk to him and it be perfect eventful conversation. Which is possible but with you two it doesn't seem possible because you both seem hesitant

DarkWinterNights · Accepted Answer

That’s a tough one. Seeing someone everyday doesn’t mean you have much of an opportunity to turn that into a conversation. If people tell you that you’re intimidating, it could just be you look unapproachable. The best way to fix that is to smile. Sounds cliche, most guys won’t give a girl they think is attractive much more than a second glance if she looks pissed, or busy or simply going about her business. If you make eye contact with him and say hi every time you see him, if he finds you attractive he may stop you one day and introduce himself.