What does a man mean when he says he wants to use and abuse you (when getting intimate)?

[Anonymous]

Just wondering what that means to guys.

[_Maya_]

Well I take that to mean he wants to be aggressive with you in bed and take control. This all depends on how he thinks of that phrase. It could be a kink for him or really dangerous if he goes overboard. I think you are going to wanna talk to him about what he expects in bed and make sure it doesn't cross any boundaries of yours. If you just let him do what he wants which is what he is indicating then you might end up having things done to you that you are not okay with. You two need to talk it out.

[AjayOnTheInternet]

He likes to be rough in bed. Whether is BDSM, or just likes tossing you in the angles he likes.

[Asker]

Why does he want to do that?

[AjayOnTheInternet]

I can't explain specifically. Some men like to be the 'bottom' and not do much work. Some men like to be the 'top' and do all the work. Some like it gentle, some like it rough.
With men being the natural 'dominant' one in the relationship, they will often like being rough.
I personally don't like BDSM, but I do like picking my girl up and throwing her into the bed. Some girls really love to be 'dominated', during sexy time. If you're not into it let him know, he'll just know not to be too rough.

[Asker]

Rough sounds scary. But I am passive so I need a top.

[AjayOnTheInternet]

Rough doesn't mean penetrating rough, normally. Depends on the guy. Rough to me means, literally picking her up and putting her how I want. Sometimes there can be slapping her booty, shoving face down in the pillows, or gentle hair pulling.
Make sure if your not into this let him know. It would feel awkward/wrong if he was doing this and you weren't into it.

[Asker]

Ok thank you. I don’t think I would want that stuff but I do want to be in the bottom position like he’s dominant and I’m following him.

[AjayOnTheInternet]

Then just tell him take it slow, when the time comes.

[Emanon25]

That’s disrespectful, he wants to do everything coz he’s wild at that point.

[Asker]

What did he have in mind?

[Emanon25]

I can’t say it here lol

[Asker]

Ok..

[Emanon25]

You can pm or follow

[Anonymous]

Dominant BDSM fan , like Christian Grey 💀

[Sunnybeach123]

Rough sex

[Asker]

What does that mean to guys?

[Sunnybeach123]

Ii could just mean thrusting hard, or doggy style

[Asker]

Does thrusting hard hurt a woman?

[Sunnybeach123]

It can. It depends on a guy's size, if she's wet, how hard he thrusts.

[Iron_Man]

Nasty man

[Asker]

Is that good or bad?

[Iron_Man]

It depends it’s a little bit disrespectful

[Asker]

I don’t understand what you mean

[Iron_Man]

It’s not respectful to talk that way

[Asker]

Yeah. I wonder why he wants to disrespect a girl?

[Fireguy17]

Just ravish you with reckless abandonment.