If a man grabs you by the hair is that a form of abuse?

[Anonymous]

It's a long story but we've been roommates/ in a relationship for 7 months. I'm not happy with him because he's a narcissist and liar, I ended things because of this. I'm moving out to get my own place soon. Apparently he has feelings for me and wants a relationship with me but I can't do it. He made me feel unappreciated among other things so I started talking to other men (he knows). He's a painter and hasn't been getting any work because of the weather and he's mad because his taxes are coming up and that I don't want a relationship.

Yesterday I playfully grabbed as his ass as I ALWAYS do and he seems to get annoyed about it especially now after the fact we're broken up. He's not comfortable with me grabbing his ass anymore apparently. So then he grabs me by my hair (not extremely hard to hurt me) but aggressive enough. I told him I wanted an apology and if he ever did that again I'm hitting him with an object. Why should I have to ask for an apology?

[worldscolide]

It sounds like the relationship has turned toxic.. You both violated boundaries. I suggest parting ways.. No its not abuse considering what you did is considered sexual assault.

[Derrick_hovic]

Never touch a woman's hair...

[abundantlyrich]

This guy has issues. Violence is not acceptable.

[opurba]

Yes.

[CherryRoseChampange]

Eh, in what way did he grab your hair? Was it like you grabbed his ass then walked away and he roughly grabbed you and told you not to do it again? Then it's not abuse but it's getting on the border of it. I honestly would just leave, and to be fair it's confusing to grab someone's ass if you're no longer together. It's like you're just fucking with them or something. So I wouldn't do it anymore. I don't think you should expect an apology either. Just removing yourself from his life would be good for the both of you in this case.

[GnarCute]

I like to relish in the thought of artists failing financially.
Not because i dislike them, But because i dislike the idea of relying on art solely to make money.

Art is not a way to make money unless you make literally small fortunes per art piece

[m0rgan27]

Dude just cut it off it’s obviously not a good relationship , romantic or otherwise. And why would you grab his ass if you have such a problem with him? He shouldn’t have grabbed your hair but if you had been told before to not touch his butt then you brought it on yourself.

[debi2622]

You grabbed his ass, and he grabbed you by the hair. You asked for it. Don't grab his ass, and no reason for it since you are not in a relationship.

[AIDA123]

You shouldn't have to.

My best guy friend sometimes playfully pulls my hair but he always says sorry afterwards again

[ninjafemme]

Try this with a wig... wig snatched.

[Riverotter]

Did you apologize for grabbing his ass?

[opurba]

Grabbing hair not caressing or touching.

[Riverotter]

Yes and she said she grabbed his ass, they both should apologize

[opurba]

Bad children... always need to grab something... first lollipop then candy floss n now this.

[John_Doesnt]

Everything a man does to a woman is abuse now.