How does he feel?

[Anonymous]

I recently had an encounter with a new guy who I’ve been chatting with for a while and we met up made out then I went down on him during his lunch break from work. He ended up finishing pretty quickly. I was quite pleased with my performance but is it possible I embarrassed him or? Not sure how he feels about the whole thing I need outside perspective.

[_Maya_]

How are we supposed to tell you how someone else feels? I have no clue how he feels. I would assume after that he felt pretty good. I don't know why he would embarrassed about anything. I mean the end result that you got is what you are both hoping for right? I wouldn't worry too much about it honestly. I don't think there is any negative to take away from what happened. Is there a reason you think he might be embarassed? I don't see any reason he would be or should be.

[Asker]

Well for one I’m a little bit older and experienced than he is. But it’s only been two days but I’ve more or less haven’t heard from him.
Which isn’t entirely uncommon. we work for the same company in different locations. But we hold similar positions so I know that our schedules can be a little insane and sleep is more of a when you can thing instead of routine and sometimes it’s work sleep repeat schedule wise. But I’m just paranoid about where his head space is at, it’s the first time I’ve had more experience than my partner.

[_Maya_]

I don't really think you have anything to worry about if all else seems normal for you guys. I don't think there is any sort of problem from what you have explained.

[strateguy632]

no worries i am certain he was appreciative and only feels positive about the event.

[JoannaSmith36]

Is this what you did when you first met?

[Asker]

No we’ve been friends for a while (year+) and have progressed to more physical relationship only recently.

[In_Trance]

Embarrassed him or... what?

[Asker]

Is it possible that him reaching the finish line so quickly embarrassing or am I making it up in my head. I know I’ve had partners in the past who were ashamed of how easily they would finish sometimes and feel emasculated. Especially if I wasn’t close or didn’t finish myself. Which after conversation we were able to work through. But this particular partner is younger and maybe not so experienced in maintaining confidence despite reassurances.

[eagle1951]

have you talked to him since