Do you think this guy online loves me if he’s thirty years older than me?

[Anonymous]

• We met online yesterday.
  He’s thirty years older than me about
• i feel comfortable taking to him and I’m kinda just being myself in a way. Usually I’m socially anxious and can’t act normal
• what else you wanna know?

[_Maya_]

You met just yesterday. Online. You wanna know if he is in love with you? Did I get everything? Uh nope. He is not. How in the world do you fall in love with someone in one day? Annnnd online? That is crazy to think of expect anyone to fall in love with you in a day let alone a day online. Of course he isn't in love with you. How can he be? He doesn't even know you. There is not a chance that you could have got to know each other even if you talked 24 hours straight. It takes a lot of time and getting to know each other better before you can even think about being in love.

[Asker]

Thanks! What should I do to get closer with him and see if he would love me one day?

[_Maya_]

You need to each learn a lot more about each other. Talk. Go on dates. See if there is a spark.

[Asker]

That sounds really fun! To go on dates with him. We are both shy and quiet people but I feel comfortable enough to where I’m really outgoing with him online at least.

[_Maya_]

Well start where you are comfortable which is online and build up some confidence.

[Asker]

Great! Thanks

[HelpfulWoman]

Girllll. What?
So he's 60 odd, and you think its going to be anything BUT creepy?

[Asker]

He hasn’t hit on me or anything lol. He told me to find men to date. So I don’t think he’s being creepy.

[HelpfulWoman]

sounding like you may be though. what the fuck is wrong with you that you're thinking love not even after 24 hours. think of anyone else saying that to you. see how dumb that sounds.

[Asker]

Lmao. I don't know. Maybe I’m nuts. I don’t usually feel comfortable around others.

[Fireguy17]

Being in love with you after 1 phone conversation seems highly unlikely, but for him the thought of doinking someone that much younger has him interested.

[Asker]

Lmaooo. Nooo. I wanna doing an old man too don’t be ignorant! Only after marriage though.

[Iron_Man]

It’s only one been one day. Check back in six months.

[Asker]

Ok thanks. What should I do in the mean time?

[Iron_Man]

Continue talking to him be professional, be a real, be honest

[Asker]

Thanks man!! What are some topics you would think are good for us?

[Iron_Man]

Talk about your interest talk about traveling you can talk about your work and dates with each other

[Asker]

Thanks that sounds cool!

[Iron_Man]

You’re welcome

[LadyTerpsichore]

My sister is married to a much older man, I know it can work- but you just need to wait to see how it plays out, and be realistic that if it goes long-term, you will be doing end-of-life care, possibly for many years, while you are still relatively young.

[Asker]

Thank you ❤️ yes I guess that’s something to think about. Hmmm. I hope your sister is doing well with that aspect.

[LadyTerpsichore]

Not to discourage you- just a gentle reminder! She is not there yet but he's about to turn 70 and has slowed down a lot. But he's a sweetheart and I know she adores him, we all think he's great for her.

[Asker]

Wow! That’s awesome. You see there are people even half his age who aren’t sweet at all. That’s part of why age shouldn’t matter so much.

Hell I’m slowing down and I’m still kinda young lol. Maybe we all could slow down a bit more!

[Anonymous]

Where did you meet this magnificent person from

[Asker]

Just a social website. It wasn’t a dating anything. He just added me and I messaged him to be friendly and outgoing. I just have been in a really good mood lol. I usually don’t get into messaging people first and the fact we’re still chatting is kinda cool. That also rarely happens usually the other person isn’t interested or it fizzled out nothing to talk about I don't know. I’m pretty friendly at heart though.

[Opinion Owner]

What is the age difference between you 2?

[Opinion Owner]

How far do you live apart

[Asker]

same time zone but he’s like 20 years older I think. Or 30 I think I said it in the title. But yeah

[Asker]

We are in different countries but probably not that far