He’s 20 and I’m 25. He says he is attached to me, sees me as a lover but also tells me he sees me as his sister because I’m his sisters age. Why?

[Anonymous]

Why does he say that? Is it time for me to leave him alone? You can claim to see someone as a lover but also say you see them as an older sister.

[spartan55]

He's 20 so the bar can't go much lower. Nevertheless it's just really fucking weird thing to say and pretty stupid tbh. I don't get people who refer to someone as their 'sister', 'sis', 'brother' etc... unless they are actual blood relatives. Otherwise it's just whack.

[Asker]

Exactly! It’s exhausting because I’ve tried time and time again to cut him off and he’ll start crying or throwing drama tantrums talking about how he’s attached to me, he sees me as his lover, he can’t be without me but then proceeds to tell me that he sees me as his older sister. It’s insane to me and I’d be crazier to along with it any longer because those comments are quite hurtful to me and just makes me regret even paying attention to him from the start.

[spartan55]

He sounds like a moron.

[Asker]

Yeah, it’s time to cut him off for my own good. His older sister comments are quite hurtful.

[236color]

To me, the definition of a "Lover" is someone I'm having a sexual relationship with. If you haven't had sex, I'd say he has a different perspective.

[Asker]

Good point. I’m glad I’ve cut him off. Hopefully he leaves me alone.

[surprisedjo]

This is so odd, would you tell your crush that you see him as a brother? I agree with your second statement, yes stop texting him for a bit and see what happens.

[Asker]

I cut him off already. I told him I can’t keep talking to him.

[Anonymous]

I’d give some space between y’all he needs to either accept seeing u in a romantic way or just like an older sister not fair for you to have him go back and fourth

[Asker]

My exact thoughts. It’s crazy to me how he tells me over and over again not to leave him because he’s attached to me and he sees me as a lover etc. but then proceeds to tell me three times he sees me as his sister.

[Opinion Owner]

Exactly and I made the mistake of getting too attached to my ex when I should’ve made myself a priority so he should also prob learn not to be too dependent on someone else it’s not good for either partners