Why do guys try to get attention from very modest shy women?

[Jfithtbtb]

Why do guys at work always try to get attention from me or to get me to give them attention? I’m very modestly dressed and extremely shy. Why not go flirt with more experienced and outgoing women?

[Being_a_good_Indian]

It's important to remember that people's behavior can vary widely, and there might be different reasons why some colleagues seek your attention. They may value your input, find you friendly, or simply enjoy your company. It's not always about romantic interest. If someone's behavior makes you uncomfortable, it's okay to set boundaries and communicate your preferences. They might not be aware of how their actions affect you. Ultimately, individuals have different tastes and preferences when it comes to interpersonal connections, so it's not solely based on dress or personality traits.

[TheSpaceGnome]

I don't flirt, so this is a hypothetical, but experienced and outgoing women are not worth having in my opinion, perhaps others agreeing is why they go for you.

[Jfithtbtb]

Others agreeing? I don’t understand. Also I don’t really give attention. As I said I’m very shy and modest dressed. If people want attention they have to come approach me to get it.

The only guys I get happy to see and if they’re lucky I might go up to them to be friendly is guys I feel comfortable with and that’s extremely rare for me.

[Jfithtbtb]

And those guys I feel comfortable with are not usually the ones who are seemingly trying to get attention for the sake of it. I like them (as friends) for a reason ❤️ they have good energy!

[TheSpaceGnome]

Others agreeing that outgoing experienced women are not dating/wife material.

Zero dating/sexual experience, shy, virgin, same interests, modest, that is dating/wife material.

The ones you're friends with should be the only guys hitting on you though, strangers or acquaintances shouldn't be doing that.

[Nikki1989]

Guys are happy with attention from any woman.

[Jfithtbtb]

@DaySpring so why do they want me to give them attention?

[Avicenna]

Because you're there

[Jfithtbtb]

Not really. There’s very loud outgoing women there. They aren’t even in my department.

[Jfithtbtb]

They guys aren't n my department.

[In_Trance]

sometimes