Is he just after sex?

[Mimi_ox]

So I've been talking to this guy for a couple months. Never did anything yet but he tells me he wants to. He says I want you so bad. When we began talking, he was so like conversational and we laughed together. He even took me out and we had a fun night. We are friends but I sorta wanna be more and I told him that and he tells me like he needs to think. When I first met him, he told me he likes to move fast. 🤔
I just don't understand that if I'm basically throwing myself at him and telling him I wanna be more than friends, why doesn't he get it? Is he only in it to be friends with benefits. I mean he isn't big on texting conversations but on the phone it's different. I don't know please give me advice but I really don't need sarcasm or nasty comments.

[_Maya_]

When he says I move fast to me that is a red flag and no go for me. It says watch out because I don't really care whether you are comfortable or not but I move fast in relationships which presumably means all aspects... including sex. So I would not personally be interested in someone that said that upfront. I probably would've said we'll I move really slow so you are outta luck just to see what his reaction was. If he said that was fine then okay but if he got his panties in a twist over it then I would know what he was after.

[Mimi_ox]

Thanks. Yea well I asked him if he likes to move fast and he said yea and I told him that I don't and he told me he could work with that basically. But he just doesn't show interest in my like life. Or even start conversations. He only gives simple answers like oh okay or you're fine

[_Maya_]

Doesn't sound like a good start.

[unlockme]

Some people see the world like an adult play ground.

Others are more like in development. To suss out what is what. Seek the truth if you're a relationship person. In all things.

[_Maya_]

@Mimi_ox Thank you for most helpful opinion!

[Mimi_ox]

You're very welcome! I thought you gave some really good advice so thank you

[_Maya_]

Aww no problem! Happy I could help and hope things go well for you. 💜

[HippoDino]

Well in that amount of time he might have found a girl he's more serious with, like you said he moves fast. Also he might just want sex and no relationship and he realized you aren't that type of girl. It doesn't sound like your missing out on much guys around your age that still like to just fuck around are immature.

[Billlewis]

He may just simply be intimidated by you, not only because you're so attractive, but also because you're obviously highly intelligent, as well, and nothing puts the fear of God into a man than a beautiful woman who is also smart as hell.

[AmeerX]

Couple of months is find but don't wait around too long.

And yes, it's actually good you told him from start what you want out of the relationship. Beats living in a fantasy where he will keep you on hold and then dump you or just beat around the bush.

And certainly good thing that you didn't entertain his sexual desires.

[Mimi_ox]

I'm just not so sure about him but they do say to always listen to your gut right? I just don't wanna waste my time with him neither. It's like you're into me or your not. But I'm not the type of girl who just wants to have sex. I'm Def a relationship girl.

[AmeerX]

So, far you have shown him that )). And yeah you are in the right direction. What is your gut instinct?
You know you could provide married someone or got engaged by 3rd month depending on the country customs.

[SUMAIREBRAHIM]

Sound like he just want sex ask him to commit to you first make him wait if ur interested in him

[Luckycharms12]

Sounds like he just wants sex