Am I overthinking about my male best friend liking me?

[Anonymous]

I've been friends with him for over 1 year. He has a girlfriend since 4 years. He keeps on complimenting me daily. He told me once that he has developed a crush on someone recently. He use to get too close but I stopped him. He got angry with my bcoz I was talking to my female bestie and he felt ignored. Now recently he told me that he is getting jealous because of me (not from me ). Either I am thinking too much about this or he's been dropping hints which I was too dumb to ignore. I feel like he has a girlfriend for so long then why would he be interested in me even after I have clearified that I only consider him a friend. If he's interested then how do I tell him that I only consider him a friend and nothing more than that without hurting his feelings. I don't want to make things awkward between us.

[Oliverlogan263]

Now this is a weird situation for sure. A few things could be going on:

- He may be low-key trying to cheat emotionally with you since the spark is gone in his relationship. Not cool.

- Could be he just really values your friendship and shows it by complimenting you a lot. But the jealousy is a red flag.

- Possibly he actually does have feelings but is too scared to break up with his girl. So he's trying to have his cake and eat it too. Lame.

I'd say be straight up with him. Tell him you care about him as a friend, but you're not comfortable with all the compliments/closeness anymore since he has a girl.

Make it clear you only see him as a friend, nothing more. And if he's really your friend, he needs to respect your boundaries and his girl's feelings too.

See how he takes it. If he keeps disrespecting your "no" or gets mad, it proves he's not over you. Might be time to distance yourself a bit so dude sorts his shit out. You don't need that drama!

Let me know how it goes - but set your terms firm and don't back down. Always choose yourself first here.

[boggboss]

Thats not possible as if he actually has feelings no matter what rejection will hurt but its nest to let him know your not intrested before it continues

[elizamichale1]

i think u can sit him down n talk to him n make things clear so he won't have any misunderstandings

[elizamichale1]

Thanks for MHO

[Iron_Man]

Don’t get involved with people that have girlfriends

[BLP11520]

Be firm, tell him again. Did he not hear you? Men don't always listen, hear yes, listen no.

[Nikki1989]

Yes, far too much overthinking.