Why would he tell me he thinks we have a lot of chemistry?

[Anonymous]

[ManOnFire]

There aren't enough details in your question to really give a good answer. Like, is this someone you're interested in, interested in you, you're dating, is this a friend, co-worker, etc., how did we get to this point?

[Asker]

Understood. So we’ve been talking on and off and he lives in my apt building and is always nice to me when he sees me. We’ve gotten together once to cuddle. Honestly nothing really detailed but when he texts me he says I’m hot and sexy and stuff like that.

[ManOnFire]

Alright. So he might only be looking for sex and just saying stuff in the hopes you guys can do it. I mean, it seems like he doesn't even really know you that deeply other than your brief exchanges and he's saying he thinks you have a lot of chemistry.

For the record I am jealous because I've always wanted neighbor sex but have never really had the guts to try to fuck a neighbor lol. BUT yeah, I think he's not really serious about a relationship, he's hoping you two will sleep together. I could be wrong, but I think that's what it is.

[Asker]

He’s kinda. A lonely dude. I see him alone a lot. He might not even want a relationship with anyone. I saw him sitting alone when I was on a date once. Also tbh he’s mostly objectified me like a LOT talking about how sexy my tits are and everything. So it’s probably just lust. I don't know what to do tho cuz I kinda like him back and obviously see him. Should we be friends?
We didn’t hook up but just cuddled and he was honestly kinda bad at initiating anything. He seems like a dead fish in bed and lazy from the gist of it 😂

[ManOnFire]

Yeah, seems like he's just wanting a good fuck. He might even be a virgin - which is totally okay. I'm thinking virgin not just because he seems pretty horny but also because he doesn't take a lot of initiative with the little bit of intimacy you do have. Young guys in today's times tend to be more submissive like women and I've heard from female friends that a lot of guys seem to want the girl to do everything in bed. That's a bad sign of where male sexual prowess and dominance has gotten.

Anyway, if you want to be friends with him, or even want to sleep with him, it's up to you. But be prepared if later on he's no longer interested.

[Asker]

He really fought it when I tried to break things off. He got complimentary and like said he’d want to be friends and since I’m going through a lot right now be a source of comfort to me. I don't know

[Asker]

Maybe a virgin but he’s 47. But when I ask him like what he wants to do he’s so awkward and just wants me to scratch his back and suck his dick. I asked if he’s thought about actually having sex and he was so vague in his answer it was SO weird. Also he didn’t wanna kiss me at all when we got together. Lol.

[Asker]

I can’t tell if he’s trying to manipulate me by withholding some things. Like the kissing for example

[ManOnFire]

Ohhhhhhkay, so this is an older guy. Much older than you. Yeah, he might just be wanting you because you're a young thing. So many older guys do. He's probably not a virgin then, but... ya never know.

Again, it's your choice and all about what you want to do, but it does seem like he's just a lonely older guy feeling romantic for a younger female. There's really no telling where it could go.

[Asker]

He has a really nice dick. Anyway we’re not on talking terms right now so I don't know what I would text him so that he’d respond with interest. I think he’s scared of me now cuz I called him out before.

[Asker]

I think he likes me as a person. He’s not a bad dude.
But WHY would he put up with my craziness like usually guys wouldn’t care if you dropped them if all they want is sex. He really wanted to stay at least friends lol.

[ManOnFire]

He's an older guy who doesn't want to lose the attention or connection he is getting. The older we men get the softer and more sensitive we become. Even still, that doesn't necessarily mean he's NOT wanting only sex.

If you like him and want to make something happen, go for it.

[Asker]

Can I say something like this? We again ended kinda on bad terms so not sure how he’ll respond:
“Hey sorry for the back and forth but I had some time to think and I would be comfortable being friends.”

[Asker]

I just texted him. Last week I accidentally texted him when I meant to text me other friend Andrew and it was SO embarrassing so I hope I don’t look too crazy.

[ManOnFire]

Sure. You can tell him that and see what he says.

[Asker]

I texted him waiting for a reply. I bet he’s gonna ghost me lol what are the chances of that

[ManOnFire]

Well, if it turns out to be that way then you would find out I was right lol.

[Asker]

Sorry we exchanged so much here. Right about what?

[ManOnFire]

Right that it won't be a good move to try to date him.

[Asker]

I’ll update you lol

[ManOnFire]

Any update?

[Anonymous]

It could mean a few things. Maybe chemistry as in possible intimate partners. Maybe chemistry as in good friends. It could also just be him saying shit that women love to hear in order to get her to spread her legs for him.

[spartan55]

Because he thinks you have a lot of chemistry? What kind of question is this?

[In_Trance]

Because he wanted you to know that he thinks you have a lot of chemistry