My ex unblocked me is he trynna hit me up again or is he just butthurt?

[kareenakapur]

basically we were on the DL. He blocked me bc he got back with his ex and I was too clingy. I told my best friend about us. She goes to school w him and has been acting salty around him. He lit unblocked me to ask if I told her. He wanted to have a phone call, but I'm psychotic.

He's my neighbor so I lit went over to his place with a cake. He fed me dinner and we talked lol. We're both in medicine. He took his shirt off at one point to let me listen to his heart lol. and then he tried to give me a massage he learnt in class. But like we didn't do anything. I didn't respond to his message at night and he was like u fall asleep? he unblocked me on insta too and followed me. I'm shady so I posted a sexy gym ab pic on my private and added him. didn't text him back tho. His last message to me was "yeahhh." So I'm leaving on read. Is he trynna hit me up or just a butt hurt man bc my friend hates him (for good reasons) I asked him before I left you miss me? And he said yeah i mean I miss talking to you.

[Anonymous]

It’s not shady, your behavior is flat out desperate and boy crazy. How can you make yourself so readily available for a man who is not choosing you? Why settle for being a side piece on the DL, then laugh about it? where is your self worth? Man it’s so disappointing to hear stories like this, do better! You should be the girlfriend and you are not, that should speak volumes when it comes to how he values you, which is for nothing other than sex and company.

[Opinion Owner]

You wouldn’t want this for your daughter, sister, best friend, why is it good enough for you?

[kareenakapur]

So we met when both of us had broken up with our exes. He kept saying he was falling so hard for me and wanted me. He wanted me to be his girlfriend said he wanted to boo me up. But then he kept going back and forth about how he just got out of a relationship and its too early to be in another. He'd try to break it off. then he'd be like no I rlly like u and would be sad seeing me w someone else. Also we only messed around once in person but like were online sexting, talking, and facetiming for like 4 months. I wanted him he made it seem like there was a chance I could be his girl and then all of a sudden he met back up w his ex and was like hey I'm so so sorry. He would block and unblock me and come back putting me in a trauma bond with him.

[Opinion Owner]

See, that is shit of him. All this stringing you along and back and forth when it’s unnecessary! There was no mystery as to your interest or if he has a chance, no excuse. Him picking this other woman should be a massive slap in the face to you because he’s a liar. Being a doctor, nice, down to earth, whatever made you fall will never outweigh what’s happening in present time and how he’s devalued you. He will spin it in a way to look less of an ass and you may be passive if you haven’t experienced better so you don’t know better, but girl this is only leading to destruction. You deserve too spot, what’s made you unworthy now? You can do so much better, and once you realize that on a real level, he can only ever HOPE you accept him as merely a friend. Put yourself on that pedestal babe he does not deserve it. Not your sexy pics, late night talks and his cheater bs, tell him call the woman who takes priority over you, since that’s what a girlfriend is there for right?

[Opinion Owner]

You need to be sick to death of sorrows and being chose second, I wouldn’t want to hear another word from his mouth the moment I found or he went back to his ex. Or he has a girlfriend now! Shit is wild.

[kareenakapur]

yeah he just prob wanted me in case she fell through. He was cheating on her with me. He didn't tell me he was with her tho until wayyyy later. I know he didn't tell her. I know I can do better prb is I live in a small city have no time (always working or studying) to meet people. He's absolutely the only person I know here : (. Just lonely asf. I wonder if he isn't with that girl and if he finally told her. I 1000000 percent doubt he told her.

[WhitneySnow]

He’s horny and tryna hit you up. But he’s probably also butthurt about your friend too.

[kareenakapur]

idkk i wish he was trynna hit me up. so i can finally be the one to say no. :/

[WhitneySnow]

Trust me. He’s hitting on you. He’s just tryna be subtle about it, hoping you’ll make the first move.

[kareenakapur]

i messaged him back yesterday about how here's some dog dress up contest at our apt complex. I was like better see ur dog dressing up for Halloween. no reply since yesterday. ugh i look dumb now. should've left him on read.

[WhitneySnow]

He’s being a dick. Just ignore him. Or better yet block him.

[Friendlybro79]

This is ridiculous lol. This sounds extremely immature. If you're not together just let it go and move on. And seriously don't any more neighbors..

You're both in medicine and you both sound like you might need to get someone to prescribe you some as well. This is seriously one of the most ridiculous thing I've heard in a whilenb

[kareenakapur]

lol why is it immature of me. I've been trying to move on he keeps popping in and out. he is my neighbor and despite him doing me dirty i still do care about him a little. I dont want him tho. I deserve better. I know it. I live in a town where there is literally no one. I didn't know him. He hit me up on insta and realized I'm moving to the same small town for school as him. (my school isn't there tho its confusing basically my school put me here all alone) He is unfortunately the only person I know in this small city :(. I'm so busy always working or studying I have no time to meet people and make friends. I'm just isolated and he's the only one I know here and he knows that. He told me where to live moved to the same place as him bc that's the only place people live at. Told me he's worried about me. But sir u can't have me and her ugh. : (. wanted me to be his side hoe but I said no. He chose his ex not me. WHy is he trynna pop in my life? Did he break up w her? I think he's rlly just butt hurt about my friend and knows he did me dirty. I dont think he gives a shit about me.

[Friendlybro79]

The drama seems immature just my opinion.. doesn't make me right as it's just how it reads to me.

[kareenakapur]

i agree its immture but not caused by me. I just fell in love. love hard asf. He's creating the drama. like leave or stay.

[BoopBoopBeep]

Wow you both seem toxic as hell. Like if Chernobyl and Deep Water Horizon banged out a crack baby and tried to sell it for organs on the dark web but instead just dropped it off at the local takeout place kinda toxic.

[kareenakapur]

why am i toxic lol

[ProbablyClueless]

What would he have to be butthurt about? Sounds like he's still making up his mind about whether to be in touch with you.

[kareenakapur]

butthurt bc my friend apparently was rude to him in front of his friends. and in his head he was like why does this random girl hate me and then he realized that was my friend.

[ProbablyClueless]

Okay, but why would that make him butthurt about you?

[kareenakapur]

butthurt enough to ask me yo did u tell anyone about us. long story short he did me really really dirty and he doesn't want people to know what he did. He wants to make sure i preserve his name. Dont bad mouth him. even tho I totally could and have justified reasons to. (biggest thing at the end being that he broke up with me got back w his girlfriend and lit asked me to be his sneaky link to cheat on her with)

[ProbablyClueless]

He's probably still making up his mind about whether he wants to interact with you more. Do you want contact with him?

[kareenakapur]

idkkkkk im still confused about it. i think he's still w that girl. Id mess around w him. I'm not trynna be just his friend and I'm not trynna be a side hoe if he's with someone. So i just dont know. I used to chase him. I want him to chase me so that's why i be not responding and staying sexy. If he wants me, he would.

[ProbablyClueless]

I feel ya. You just wanna be careful about playing games. To paraphrase Sadia Khan; games are how you attract players.

[kareenakapur]

im not playing games. if he rlly wants me he would. if not, i know my answer