Guys, What should I do?

[Giralashowdown134]

I was in a situation ship. We talked for two years. We liked each other. But it got to much and I didn't know what to do. So I broke Contact. I wasn't very happy. I cried the whole night. And I kinda saw that he wasn't also very happy. He didn't like it if I talked to other guys. In our Sommer holidays I wrote to him his answers were very dry. My friends said I should give it a try because if I keep being sad it's not going to be a big help. He said he isn't interested in chatting with me. (He thinks I lost feelings for him) I said ok no prob and gave him Space. He is still very jealous and I notice sometimes smiling at me but when I talk to him or so he is very hatful and rude to me. I don't want to get rejected or something like that. I just want to keep my heart safe. But what should I do because I am not happy at all. Should I move on or talk to him

[jgibsonian1986]

If you are 16 then just talk to the guy and be friends until your friendship and brains develop more is my take on it.

Being young sucks with relationships because your brain is quite literally not done cooking yet, you still have yet to develop the full and proper range of logical and reasonable decision making. Even if you're smart now you still have a ways to go until it all starts to make sense.

I was also 16 once though, and know how that all feels to have situationships and crushes.

Ultimately you have to resolve yourself with what you want from this boy. Do you want to get to know him better? Do you want sex? Is it both or neither or something else? Why do you want these things? Would those things be good for you?
Fully scrutinize your desires and find out what is truly meaningful to you in them so you can hold onto them and have boundaries around them in the future.

Also if your parents are together and have a good relationship then ask them about it. They know you way better than anyone and are always going to be acting in your favor.

[loveslongnails]

I remember when I was 16 and talking to people my age about my "love life". They all said the same thing - " I understand that it hurts, and it's real to you, BUT... BUT you're 16, and I know it FEELS serious, or it FEELS like love or whatever, etc, etc, but it's growing pains and not real love, etc, etc."

Although I hated being talked down to at the time, they were correct on both accounts. I realize that doesn't really offer you any relief. At your age you're both a frothing cocktail of emotions, exploding hormones and a brain that has no experience processing it all, hence the disconnect. You say "it got to be too much", whatever that means, so you stopped it, but then you're sad because it's gone? He's jealous?

It's crazy behavior because you can't get to the root causes since you don't know HOW to. The best advice I can give you is to trust your gut decision and keep going forward. The worst advice I might give you is tell him you miss the good things you had and you want them again, put up some boundaries that must accepted and see if that works.

[HaleyCatgirl]

Yeah that's on your fault and you have no clue to know what he's actually thinking I think he's just being nice because you did do pretty scummy thing and just cut contact for no good reason you made your choice and now you have to live with it, I don't think he's going to be interested now because in the back of his mind he might be like if that's how she reacts to that how she going to react if we get in a fight and I don't think any dude wants to deal with that unnecessary bullshit drama. I can't say I feel bad for you I feel bad for him because that was entirely on you for cutting contact. Learn from this mistake and move on

[Giralashowdown134]

No I cut contact for good reasons his friends were interfering and he didn't do much he was mean and that hurt my feelings I said to him that I lost feelings and cut contact. He said he was very sorry and we were in good contact i keept distance for an half year but I was very sad I wrote to him in the summer holidays as a good friend after some dry messages he said he is not interested with chatting I was not ok with it but I keept distance. Some boys messaged me and he got very jealous. I said I didn't want anything from them and he was very happy. I don't know why
So thats why I am bit confused because I don't want to get my heart broken

[Nikki1989]

Move on. You can find much better.

[Iron_Man]

What is a Situationship you’re talking about a relationship not a Situationship

[Giralashowdown134]

But we weren't committed

[Iron_Man]

Friends

[Giralashowdown134]

No we didn't want to friend zone 😭