He said never date a girl smarter than you?

[ItsMykolaJenkins]

My boyfriend said this and said its what his dad used to tell him

He tried to "compliment me"

Saying im smart

I dont get this saying and honstrly feel kinda offended

[RavVid]

It is like how much a girl earns. We don't care. We also don't care how smart a girl is or isn't.

These two items are on female mate selection criteria but they aren't on our mate selection criteria. You can only accept that we don't care.

[ItsMykolaJenkins]

Why he said it then?
If you dont care if girl is smart and how much she earns
What you care about? whats your criteria, then?

[RavVid]

Why he said? Well we know girls want to be thought smart and just as we will say they are beautiful we will also say they are smart and beautiful to a degree greater than what we do actually rate them. A couple of days ago I watched a YT vid the theme of which is a group of 6 sort themselves out into some order. In this case it was intelligence.

One of the girls was representing herself as highly intelligent and she rated the only guy as dumb.
When their measured IQ's were flashed up it turned out she was the dumbest in the group at only 113. The dumb guy was a very respectable 136 and the second smartest.

Even if your goal was just a harmonious social interaction you would have had to tell that girl she was smart. Smart and beautiful is social oil that we use.

As for what we care about it can be summed up as the feminine virtues that we look for. Surprise! The things men have always looked for are still the things we look for.

I do care that a girl is liveable with. Other guys would say collaborative. That is the girl works with us in a co-operative way. Being hot is not high on the agenda. The hottest girl in the world just turns out to be an ordinary girl at home.

In fact the more a girl has her tits out, the more I figure she is not liveable or collaborative and only fit for a hook up.

[ItsMykolaJenkins]

Liveable, what it means exactly?
Also you know
He said im different from any girl he met before
Again... now after your comment, i dont know if he was honest with me
He says im not ordinary at all and not common

[RavVid]

By liveable I mean easy to live with. No unnecessary drama and easy going.

My comments are necessarily generic. Most men call it as they see it as that is easier. Where most men might not be entirely honest is when we are trying to work our way into your pants.

[ItsMykolaJenkins]

Well i called myself weird
He said he likes me because im not common
I feel like some damn rare animal lol

[ItsMykolaJenkins]

So you say he is honest then
He likes the fact im different
And he has been in my pants and he knows i like it so its not a problem
For him to get there
Our libidos are pretty low latelty anyways
We talk more than any other thing nowadays

[RavVid]

It seems like it is all good then :)

[BoopBoopBeep]

I've dated a couple of women that I'd consider as smart or smarter than me. I loved it.

[bededazzle]

well, first off, no one's really smarter than someone else about everything. second his dad kind of sounds like he sucks so it's probably nothing personal.

[Nifrayu]

That's not true. There are people who are really not smart at anything.

[bededazzle]

@Nifrayu i suppose it’sa matter of opinion. but i think everyone you meet knows something you don’t

[bededazzle]

oh no also it’s your own dad. sorry i called him a jerk hour i didn’t offend too much

[Nifrayu]

Knowledge doesn't make you smart. It's how you apply the Knowledge.

[bededazzle]

@Nifrayu well, for instance, some people apply social knowledge into being less judgmental :). but i respect your beliefs

[Nifrayu]

Yes, exactly.

[BoopBoopBeep]

@Nifrayu I'm with you... some people are imbeciles. I mean actual ones. The person at Mensa would be smarter than them. This "everybody gets a trophy" crap doesn't work in the real world

[bededazzle]

@BoopBoopBeep what should be done with imbeciles?

[BoopBoopBeep]

@bededazzle I don't rightly care. Personally I just ignore them. The profoundly stupid ones who don't qualify as imbeciles I similarly ignore unless I report to them at work.

[bededazzle]

@BoopBoopBeep i’m just curious, do you see them as less human/people?

[bededazzle]

@BoopBoopBeep also, again just curious about someone with your opinion, do you humans know how intelligent animals are?

[BoopBoopBeep]

@bededazzle I'm not a big fan of humanity in general so that takes on a different meaning with me. The world's overcrowded. I'm on #TeamThanos.

"do YOU humans know..."... as in you're something else? Well that's pretty cool. And yes, I'm quite aware that many animals are very intelligent.

[bededazzle]

and if so, how?

[bededazzle]

@BoopBoopBeep how do you know how animals are intelligent and how do you know how people are intelligent? the onus is on you i'm afraid because you are basically claiming to know :)

[bededazzle]

@BoopBoopBeep oh i see what you mean. i just missed the word "think". i do not see myself as special

[BoopBoopBeep]

@bededazzle
I can tell what a helicopter is without being a licensed pilot. Some people make it real clear they aren't going to be doing a whole lot of deep thinking once you've had enough conversation with them. Octopus an solve complex problems and use tools. That's more than I can say for the majority of politicians. Crows can remember and identify individuals and barter with them using progressive forms of currency. The green and purple haired guy at the grocery store can't get the change right for the person in front of me and he just has to make it match the machine's big blinking numbers on the LCD screen. Could probably come up with a dozen more examples before I need to refill my coffee cup, but I don't actually have any onus on me.

[bededazzle]

@BoopBoopBeep well, the onus is on the person who claims to know. for me, i have no idea how you measure intelligence, so i couldn't possibly explain it. your explanation is interesting though lol. i like it

[BoopBoopBeep]

@bededazzle see I disagree because the onus would imply that it is one's responsibility to convince someone of something. I'm not trying to convince anyone of anything. Just making an observation.

[bededazzle]

@BoopBoopBeep well i appreciate you explaining your thoughts with no onus then

[BoopBoopBeep]

@bededazzle you too buddy.

[Andres77]

If he was trying to compliment, you give him that you’re still with him give me the benefit of the doubt even if its delivery was off. If you get offended by compliments, you’re probably not gonna get more compliments.

[Nifrayu]

That's silly. I prefer she is smarter than me.

[Anonymous]

It is a compliment, but how a guy delivers it makes it more important.

[Joker_]

ok thanks for letting me know