Is he interested or not?

[Anonymous]

I really liked this guy and he seemed interested in me. He said we should go to dinner sometime over social media but I never heard anything after that. Ok here’s where I’m mortified! I actually saw him one day and was feeling so confident I gave him my number. After stressing for a while about me seeming too eager I figured whatever lesson learned if he lost interest after that. Turns out he never called or even texted me like and it’s been like 4 months. He is always one of the first to see my story on social media so I always wonder like wtf? But we all know this is the bare minimum. Now He invited to go to an event where he will be? I don’t know how to feel lmao should I go… or what? I can’t lie I really was interested in him so I’m actually debating this please help. Part of me also is kinda embarrassed to see him knowing he never even texted me just said he would make time for me and never did. Should I go and just show him I’m the bigger person? Or should I not even bother

[Anonymous]

I don’t feel like there’s a bigger person in this situation because no one was being petty in my opinion. As you know, shooting your shot in any form may not work in your favor, and while I know it seemed safe since he mentioned going to dinner but between then and when you sent your number who knows what’s happened. There can be some else, he may be too busy, lost interest in that way, the list goes on. In any case though I’d just shake it off and move on from him. Unless he specifically sent you the invite or reached out about it then you’d be going in the hopes of bumping into him and that’s probably why you’re so torn about it. Hell the whole point in going so mainly for him, so you could at least be invited directly.

[Asker]

Part of me just wants to look amazing, show up, and not even mention him not calling or anything just go enjoy the event 💕😝 and in some small way this will be my revenge like fuck off I’m not mad or petty lmao at least not o. n the outside

[Asker]

He also did invite me personally I just was surprised he even thought of me since he never called

[spartan55]

@asker
Don't take this the wrong way, but your idea of showing up to send him some sort of message will never work. Trust me on this.

[Asker]

@spartan55 thank you for your honesty

[Opinion Owner]

I agree with Spartan on this, it won’t work. I believe that if he had the intent of acting on something with you it would’ve happened by now, especially since you reached out, gave him your number, you’ve relayed interest and tried to hang out. It is what it is.

[Summeroflove]

Anonymous, frankly I can’t read his mind and know what’s going on. You can follow up and ask him and tell him your really confused and just to tell you if he lost interest.


The other thing you can do…. Just move on. Someone who won’t talk to you isn’t worth your time or energy.

[spartan55]

How did you respond when he mentioned dinner the first time over messaging?

[Asker]

I said sure