Why is he wanting to talk about sexual topics when he has a girlfriend?

[Anonymous]

I have a friend who is now in a relationship but he's gone a bit strange, (he did this one other time but in slightly different manner). He suddenly wants to ask me inappropriate sexual questions or share sexual related stories from his day (e. g things he hears at work etc) to me which is weird. Why is he acting this way? 😔

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Sorry, I passed out 🤣 Just an update: I called him out once more last night asking him how his girlfriend would feel if she knew he was asking me such questions. At first he did the whole downplaying it, but I repeated myself which he seemed to be unhappy with because he blocked me. I feel for his partner because it seems he doesn't realise or want to realise his behaviours are inappropriate.

[DannyUk2017]

Because You might have been his "character" that he sexualy fantasize/daydreams about, and he didn't tell you by now. So now he wants to "see" how you'll react to all his "stories".

[Asker]

I hope that's not the case 🤦‍♀️

[DannyUk2017]

Well... sounds like it. 🤷‍♂️

[Asker]

Well thankfully I don't think that was the case... he has now blocked me since I had to yet again remind him he has a girlfriend and how would she feel if she knew he was asking me such questions... phew!

[DannyUk2017]

Lucky you.

[spartan55]

Who cares? The why isn't important, his behavior is.

[Asker]

The behaviour has really disappointed me as we used to get along well, then suddenly out of the blue he's acting a fool and being inappropriate it's really put me off the friendship lately 😒

[spartan55]

I don't blame you, have you tried talking to him about it?

[Asker]

I have tried to remind him he has a girlfriend and I don't feel comfortable with the choice if topic he's suddenly wanting to talk about nor do I think it's appropriate, he says he doesn't see anything wrong with it, I feel like I'm going mad haha. Then, I've tried to be blunt and call him out because of his insensitivity but also I have been reducing my interactions and responses to him because he just doesn't seem to get it... especially when he used to complain about women doing this exact same thing to him and now he's doing it to me 🙄 I don't know how to get through to someone like that

[spartan55]

Say something like "wonder your girlfriend would think of you asking me that".

[Asker]

I will try again, but he doesn't seem register he's wrong... I'm not having much luck in the friends department lately, I think I should be alone 😅

[Asker]

So I re stated the comment about what would his girlfriend think and he played it off like "it was just a question. Sorry" but I decided to call him out by reminding him that he's asked me multiple questions randomly over the last few weeks and I was curious what his girlfriend would think to which he just responded "Hate me so I'm going to end it sorry" and then blocked me straight up... so yeah... I feel for his girlfriend though

[spartan55]

Great friend... what a prick.

[Asker]

Yep... but as the saying goes it's a good thing the trash took itself out.

[spartan55]

Indeed

[Asker]

Thank you for your input, it was appreciated 🙂

[spartan55]

You're welcome, let me know if can help in the future!

[Asker]

Thank you, much appreciated 😊

[sheikalana]

Some guys are just like that they take every opportunity to talk about sex. I think it’s a bit childish and immature.

[Asker]

It seems that males my age for the most part lack the capacity to be mature and decent, but I had never had this experience before with a so called friend changing his behaviour like that when he used to complain that females would hassle him with that type of talk, but anyway I called him out again last night asking him how his girlfriend would feel if she knew he was asking me such questions, he ended up blocking me.

[sheikalana]

You don’t need ‘friends’ like that.

[Asker]

Exactly. Terrible human

[Darkside2543]

Now see there is nothing wrong with this if she knew. About this or was upfront about this from the start but since he wasn’t it that could be an issue I know my wife doesn’t care so that’s a good thing

[Asker]

Really? Personally I find it weird. If I'm in a relationship with someone I don't want to know about another guy's sexual preferences or if he find me attractive etc. She definitely didn't know from the way he reacted when I pointed out to him how she would feel knowing he was asking me inappropriate questions

[boggboss]

Because he thinks it's somthing u will entertain maybe he wants to cheat

[Asker]

I hope not.

[boggboss]

Would u be happy with ehat he is doing if he was your man

[Asker]

No, I think it's weird that's why I keep trying to remind him "you have a girlfriend these questions aren't apprpriate"

[boggboss]

No guy should need reminding that they have a partner and their behaviour is inappropriate lol

[jahaims]

He doesn't respect you or his girlfriend and would definitely cheat. You should save that poor girl a headache and dm her screenshots.

[Asker]

Oh absolutely he is a piece of crap person, and I wish I could warn this poor girl but unfortunately his Facebook gave no indication of a partner and his friends list was private then he blocked me. I wish it wasn't that easy for guys to hide their crappy dodgy goings on, she deserves so much better 😔
I know other guys who've done this same thing even with the whole social media thing to other people and it sucks but eventually they have been found out so hopefully his time will come

[Sunnybeach123]

It's a turn on for him, I think. Sharing that part of your life with another woman can be a turn on for a lot of guys.

[Anonymous]

He wants to see how you react to hearing what he says.