Why does my ex-FWB give me angry looks when I see him around? If I didn’t matter to him why would he have a reaction?

[Anonymous]

[spartan55]

It has nothing to do with you mattering to him. What did you do?

[Asker]

I drew boundaries with him and cut things off and he didn’t seem to like that, said it hurt his feelings.

[spartan55]

It was friends with benefits, what do you mean boundaries?

[Asker]

Like told him to stop talking to me altogether and he kept contacting me.

[spartan55]

Because he wanted sex, and you probably gave it to him.

[spartan55]

Why did you tell him not to talk to you?

[Asker]

I never had sex with him. I don't know if I’d even call this friends with benefits. Just some random lonely guy I know who’d text me late at night bout sexual things and I told him before I didn’t want to talk about them but he told me I made him feel creepy so I felt bad and kept talking to him. We only got together once but didn’t have sex.

[spartan55]

Okaaayyyy... so why does this guy matter to you?

[Asker]

Cuz I have to see him around.

[spartan55]

Ignore him, he sounds like a shithead.

[Asker]

Thanks you’re so nice, he makes me uncomfortable :/

[spartan55]

Yeah, isn't that a good reason to ignore him?

[Asker]

I do but I see him looking at me and he looks mad. Like sometimes it’s the first thing I see when the elevator opens. 😂

[spartan55]

Fuck him, so what if he's mad? Why are you letting him have that power over you?

[Asker]

He seems unstable. Based on how he handled me distancing myself. I don't know what he’s capable of. And I had to even talk to my therapist about a possible restraining order but those are hard to get

[spartan55]

Is it that hard just to avoid him? I'm not getting this.

[Asker]

It is. But he knows where I live.

[spartan55]

Why does he know that?

[ThrillSeeker01]

Maybe he can't forget about you.