Is it my fault my guy friends get jealous and behave weird?

[Anonymous]

I have 2 or 3 guy friends that I talk with and hang out with sometimes. Im generally pretty friendly mostly and we roast a lot of jokes on each other. One of them in particular wanted to play a game together so we did. It was nice getting to know him on a deeper level, my other guy friend wanted to join in too and I invited him to play. It didn't last long (1 day) and we all stopped playing despite me asking both to play.

He has been fine playing another game together with the same guy but that also stopped because they had enough of it. Everytime I invite both of them to play a game, either one does not join because one of them is there.

One of them had openly flirted with me saying he "needs to hold someones hand" while playing a horror game but I said he can hold my other guys friends hand as a joke and he said nevermind ill hold my own.

His been so cold lately. I feel like it is my fault and feel like I ruined a good friendship. He just plays with other people and not me anymore. He has made flirtatious comments in front of me but then has taken it back to look cool infront of others. Which annoyed me and didn't trust him after that.

I feel like its my fault and I am crying 😥 I dont know if I should ask him if his fine or I should just leave it.

[etsylo]

it's okay to ask him if he's okay.

do you like one of them romantically? or is this how you guys converse? i think there should be boundaries, because while it's not your fault a guy (you're not dating) got jealous, this type of interaction can cause unwanted drama at some point between you all.

[Asker]

I dont compliment or make any advances with any of them. I tease them a little because thats how our friendship works. After I got my other friend to join in his been behaving strangely. I was gonna ask him later today if his fine because his been a bit cold and spending time with his other friends now. I did have an interest with the one who invited me to play the game but he said some comments that didn't sit well with me. Like trying to make himself look cool infront of the other guy by taking back a flirtatious comment and saying his a player. He said he cares for my feelings and has said I am very cute in the past.

[etsylo]

Him saying things that don't sit well with you sucks. He says he cares then he should act like it, but this is a tough situation because you seem to care for both of your friends. i hope the other guy will be okay too, but yeah i think there should a talk with each of them individually probably to see what's wrong.

[Asker]

I told him off for the things that didn't sit well with me. He apologised and said he wouldn't do it again as he said he cares for my feelings and then gave the compliment. Sorry for the confusion! The other guy doesn't have an issue with him, he invites him to play with us too. He is also fine playing with me by himself.

[etsylo]

Okay okay, that makes sense. Thank you for the clarification! I hope things settle down between you all through!!

[Asker]

Thanks! Ill talk to him about it 😊

[spartan55]

As long as you understand they all want to fuck you then you're good.

[Anonymous]

I say its not your fault and you should just leave it alone.

[Asker]

Apart of me wants to ask him because I care for him but I feel like it won't do any good because he might just brush it off 😓

[Opinion Owner]

Its ok to ask too.

[ThrillSeeker01]

No, too many guys are like that. They're insecure.