Been chatting to a guy on badoo but v short replies how to make it more interesting?

[Monalisa77]

Im rubbish at anything to do with this sort of stuff and cos its like someone potential i might like im already fuffing on what to say /worried if i say something wrong although he seems easy going. But he's not opening up much he asks how i am and seems sweet

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm that's tough. With online chatting it's hard to know what the other person is really thinking. A few things I would try:

- Ask him more open-ended questions about his interests, hobbies, dreams for the future - stuff that can get a convo flowing beyond just "how are you".

- Share some fun stories from your own life too to show your personality. Doesn't have to be deep, just amusing little things.

- Compliment him on stuff he says he likes too, people usually like talking about their passions.

- Throw in a joke or meme if you can find one related to what you're chatting about, to lighten it up.

- Don't stress too much, he may just be shy online too. As long as he's still responding I'd give it a bit more time.

- Suggest moving to texting if you think you're actually vibing. Sometimes it's easier to chat that way.

Hope this gives you some ideas! Easier said than done I know but just be yourself and it should become more natural over time. Good luck!

[RavVid]

I think there are two ways of writing 1/ what I call action oriented which is boring 2/ emotionally.

"I went to work then I came home had something to eat then started chatting with you". Bat shit boring to recount what you have physically done since last time.

"Everybody was in a fun mood at work so the time went fast and I got a beautiful tasty quiche on the way home to eat while I was waiting for our chat time". Not so boring to recount today's emotional experiences.

You are also giving openings to further conversation. What was the funniest thing today? What was good about the quiche? In addition you are implying longing for the chat time with him.

With the first version about all I can ask is how long did it take you to get to work.

Implications are high value because it is always more convincing/interesting to someone if they have the thought compared to being told to have the thought.

[Monalisa77]

Dont have a job😂difficult for me to talk about life in general as I've a lot of health issues,

[RavVid]

Sorry to hear that. I can see your difficulties then but I think the principle stays the same. You might have physical constraints but your mind doesn't.

It does annoy me when people make short dead bat replies. Why are you talking to me if you are only going to respond with 'yeah' answers? Maybe you just can't if the other person won't put convo effort in.

[Monalisa77]

Yeah im chatting to someone else and they have longer replies n said i wasn't boring 😂

[RavVid]

There we go. Enjoy.

[Monalisa77]

can't remember who that was. but its a bit dead atm not getting much

[RavVid]

With Christmas people are engaged with obligatory social stuff.

[Monalisa77]

Was chatting to somdone earlier who seemed ok but deleted his profile weird

[RavVid]

That is weird but if a person is working up to deleting their profile there will be some last person they interact with. It would never be personal though it might be personally disappointing.

[Monalisa77]

Yeh he liked golf n we seemedd to have the sams interests n doesn't live far from me

[RavVid]

People come and go and some can be very transitory & momentary. You can still enjoy their brief transit.

[Monalisa77]

Yep same irl too

[Samrasheihk]

Monalisa god bless you

[strateguy632]

ask what games or films interest him then talk about those entertainment topics.