Why does he blame me for being emotional when he makes me emotional?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend will constantly insult me then when I have a emotional response to his insults he blames it on me by saying why are you being so emotional did you have a bad day etc

[Oliverlogan263]

That's not cool of him at all. Sounds like gaslighting to me. Blaming you for having normal human emotions after he's the one poking at you and saying mean things is super manipulative.

When someone treats you poorly like that, of course you're gonna feel upset or emotional. That's a natural reaction, not something you can just turn off. He's basically insulting you twice - once with what he says, and then again by making it seem like your feelings are the problem.

I'd tell him straight up that he needs to stop insulting you period. And if he does, he doesn't then get to turn it around and invalidate your feelings. That's not how respectful relationships work.

If he keeps dismissing your emotions like that, it shows he doesn't really care how his actions affect you. And that ain't cool. You deserve way better than some dude who picks on you then gaslights you for reacting normally. Stand up for yourself!

[1ash-Silver]

Your boyfriend is not a responsible person therefore he won't even take accountability for this and he is gaslighting you.
He does not care about you and for that reason does not care about your feelings. You should leave this relationship immediately.