Guys flirting with the women 3 months even 7 days before wedding. Why?

[crystalline0909]

[blueonblack22]

It seems thar these kind of men always seem to get girlfriends and wives more more easily then other guys? Why? Really why?

I guess you can argue that they got money and looks. Sometimes that’s true but not always from what I’ve seen over the years. I’ve seen plenty of mediocre looking guys who make so so money who act this way. It has to do with their “I don’t give a f*ck attitude” which is supposedly some sort of top ideal in our culture. But is it really an ideal?

Also many women assume that womanizers have “something going for them” and are “in demand”. They want the challenge of being “the one” who figuratively wins the competition among other women and holds him down or something.

Anyway this guy shouldn’t have been doing that. But I can see in your profile you are an attractive woman. Let’s be honest here: you liked that attention despite how scandalous it was. In fact given it was forbidden it made it even more exciting didn’t it?

Don’t get me wrong. I am not letting guys like that off the hook. He’s a complete scumbag. But they would never exist if women didn’t keep enabling them in the first place.

You should of said “hey this is extremely inappropriate. You are getting married in 7 days. What would your fiancé think of this?” But you didn’t say that did you? The forbidden thrill was just too much wasn’t it?

https://www.youtube.com/embed/lESbn_HGh4Y

[crystalline0909]

I am the fiance!

[blueonblack22]

Alright sorry about the misread. But why are you tolerating this crap?

Anyway I know it’s very close to your wedding and congratulations. In a way I feel sorry you have to deal with this. But at the same time you most likely knew he was like this. Why didn’t you speak up about it and draw the line?

It’s one thing if he occasionally notices other women. Quite another if he’s acting on it which is unacceptable. It doesn’t sound like an isolated incident.

[crystalline0909]

That's not the answer to my question

[blueonblack22]

He is doing this because HE CAN GET AWAY WITH IT. Whether if it’s right or wrong his conscious isn’t strong enough to make him think twice about what he is doing.

If he is for sure flirting with other women (and not just innocently having a conversation) that’s a very bad sign. At best he thinks you don’t care but you obviously do.

He’s not going to change unless he knows there are consequences to his bad behavior.

[blueonblack22]

But again I am sorry you are going through this right before your wedding. I think are extremely excited about getting married and want to pretend this isn’t a problem. Pretend it doesn’t bother you but it obviously does.

If you have the means I would get some professional advice asap on what to do. You don’t want to en thinking about all of this on your wedding. It’s coming up quick.

[RavVid]

I think this is wrong. I wouldn't think it is only guys that do it - quite sure that girls do it too.

The nasty side about this is that couples marrying are purportedly going to be monogamous forever together but are breaking that before they are even married. It might seem low grade harmless fun but people that flirt report lower levels of satisfaction with their partner. They have one foot pointing to the door and should question themselves.

The last fling concept is a nasty one.

[love_conquers_lust]

They shouldn't once they're committed. What turns a compliment into flirting is intent, which we can only judge others on by actions.

For instance, I could compliment another girl on her eyes. It would go something like:

"You have pretty eyes. My SO has also has pretty eyes. But I only have eyes for her."

Complimenting both, but flirting only with my SO.

[DJB72]

Sheer stupidity. What's the bride doing? If she's flirting as well it's a very bad sign

[Wood3nWhal3]

Cause all that really matters is if she's happy lol.

[crystalline0909]

What are you talking about

[Staximus]

What guys, what woman? What's the context? Can you be more specific

[Anonymous]

Because you’re hot af and have big tits and a nice ass and he wants his cake and to eat it too.

[crystalline0909]

So cheater?

[Opinion Owner]

For sure. If you wanted to fuck him or flirt back or anything of that nature he would go through with it guaranteed. Is this someone you’ve hooked up with before or what?

[crystalline0909]

No. I am the fiance. What if he has hooked up with that person before... what would that mean

[Opinion Owner]

Ohhhh. So your fiancé is flirting and talking to someone that he has hooked up with before and thinks you don’t know about it? So in his eyes/mind he is doing this behind your back?

[crystalline0909]

Yes. Tell me what is that supposed to mean on his part.

[Opinion Owner]

Doesn’t look good for him. I would confront him at least. That’s a huge red flag

[crystalline0909]

I'm asking about his side.

[Opinion Owner]

He should stop if he wants to marry you… does he want to have an open marriage or does this woman have something he wants that you don’t?

[crystalline0909]

No it's not an open marriage. Do you mind just telling his side. Why did he text her?

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe he’s panicking before the big day? What did he say to her?

[crystalline0909]

That he wants to give another go. Added her on his socials and she doesn't know he is engaged

[crystalline0909]

He wants a relationship with her

[Opinion Owner]

I would end your relationship with him then. He’s made his intentions clear. You don’t deserve that

[crystalline0909]

This happened two months ago. Yesterday he had his bachelor party. And she is not the only one. He is doing this with many others. He is not breaking this engagement that's for sure. But why other chicks. I have heard rumours of him being a play boy though.

[Opinion Owner]

He isn’t ready to settle down and be in a serious relationship. You should end it before it begins or you’re always going to have to worry about this sort of thing with him.

[crystalline0909]

I knew you'll say that. We got married two days back but no honeymoon.

[Opinion Owner]

Well what are you going to do about it now?

[crystalline0909]

Nothing. I know what to do with him. I just wanted to know why 7 days before the wedding that too not one but multiple women. Infact barely adult chicks

[Opinion Owner]

Well I’m really sorry you’re dealing with that.

[crystalline0909]

He's rich, lives off his father. He'll maintain my lifestyle and fulfill all my wishes out of guilt. I'll keep him so tamed that he won't get a chance to deal with other women.

[Opinion Owner]

I’m glad you have it figured out

[Inbox]

@crystalline0909 The fact that you’re reacting to such a major red flag and try to supplement all this tells me your marriage is doomed to fail. This is the problem with beautiful girls such as yourself: he has the money, probably looks, etc, but the character is the red flag and the fact that he lives off of his parents is another major red flag because he doesn’t know suffering or hard work probably.

Understand, looks and money comes and goes, but the character is what remains —- what are you going to do when you turn 40 or 50 and he sees young girls? If he’s already breaking his vows and playing the field literally right before his marriage, RUN. Rule of thumb: if he did it in the past, he will do it again.

I know it’s easier said then done, but if you want a solid answer, get one of your friends or a random hot girl to hit on him and test him (they have plenty of these on YouTube). If I can’t trust my girl, I have no reason to be with her.

[crystalline0909]

I'm not in love with him. It's a marriage of convenience. I don't mind making his life miserable for the fact that he even tried to be infidel. I will ruin his life and leave him.

[Inbox]

Not to be a dick, but the fact that you're willing to marry out of convenience says a lot of how you view yourself. A girl who is willing to give her body for simplicity and not for values, love, etc tells me you're a slave to fashion and the tides of fate. It seems you two deserve each other. Have you ever thought about how future men will see this? When Mr. Right comes along and he finds out you married someone out of convenience, he may run from you.

[Inbox]

*The people you surround yourself with tells you who you are - it's one of the first things I look at when I'm deciding to date a girl.

[Jmmmfi4]

BECAUSE SOME GUYS DON'T CARE

[shmeed]

The question is why do you care?

[KrakenAttackin]

Because he is a flirt.

[FenixG45]

Oh oh! Look out!

[ChicoFromThe305]

Cause he's unloyal

[jahaims]

He cheats obviously

[crystalline0909]

Will he cheat after wedding

[riverrat3]

He wants sex

[riverrat3]

Did you get married

[Anonymous]

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