Why do married men flirt with women?

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This guy at church likes me and been flirting with me for about a month now. I flirted back but then i felt short change because i want a family and marriage to. So when i cut ties with the flirting and told him. we need to stop this and just keep. it cool. He stop answering my text and calls. And ask cold because I didn't give him the play that he wanted.. no kiss no love. . but i really enjoy our conversations. .. why i can't get him off my mind now

USA1960 · Accepted Answer

This Matter remains for many years to be { One Of } my Life's more Cheif of Regrets. I, nor anyone, can speak for " All Men ". I can speak for myself. Although this issue (s ) occurred many years back, it affects me literally. In my 20's, through early 40's I wasn't such a bad looking guy. I worked a lot of Professional Private Security assignments back then. I would, due to the Public Nature of the job, meet many women. Being fresh out of the U. S. Marines, I was built well and honestly look pretty good in a uniform. I never made the first " Move ", but I was fast on the " Okay " if I was asked for sex or a Fling if you will. I believe this happened " 6 " times I think? However, "yes", it cost me a fine woman (Wife ), I missed seeing my son grow up, and therefore, seeing with 20/20 Hind Sight. Why did I do it? I can only believe that the Old Adage is correct. " I wasn't thinking with the Head on my shoulders." I also believe that I also did it "because " the job wasn't in the same Town as my Ex, and I thought I'd just get away with it. Now, please don't throw rocks just yet : ) I haven't been this way in " Ages ". However, Flirting with, ( and I did do that ) someone other than One's Spouse/Girl Friend, isn't wise. Disregarding all the "Designer Relationships" out there, I believe I did it ( Flirt ) was to enhance my ego, the thinking, " I still can land them ". Of course, you do what you want to. I can't recommend that Temptation.

logicalAnswers · Accepted Answer

Probably same reasons regards of gender.
Boredom - a way to get some excitement in life. Even if it never goes beyond flirting.
Validation - To feel they are still attractive, worth attention. Or still 'have it"
Testing - Perhaps the relationship is shaky. Flirting can be a way to check how you feel about it. If it doesn't feel bad perhaps you no longer love your partner. This is very easy to mis-read though. Of course a fling will be more exciting.
Revenge - Perhaps they are doing so on purpose to hurt their SO.
Open relationship - The SO might be aware and accepting. Or even part of it.

lumos · Accepted Answer

Because it strokes their ego, and playing with fire is exciting if your life is otherwise mundane.
I’m sorry he was an ass and that you can’t stop thinking about him. Every time you think about him, just think about his wife, and what if you were her and he went behind your back like that. He is a jackass who doesn’t deserve your thoughts and attention. Be glad that things didn’t escalate and that you didn’t get caught in a bunch of bullshit drama.

Jmcmanning · Accepted Answer

Why were you fliritng with a married man to begin with? That's just as bad as what he was doing. At church too! People notice when others flirt. Then you had each other's numbers as well. I would suggest, move on quickly because you are in for a heartbreak if you contnue to think about him. A person always wants what they can't have, in this case you want a man who is already committed to another woman.

chopper1977 · Accepted Answer

It's not cool to flirt with married people nor to encourage it. You can't get him off your mind because you have a crush on him. You enjoyed the attention as would be expected; however, if he's married, he's likely giving it to others... he probably wants or is a player. He's playing you and his wife... likely others.

MlleCake · Accepted Answer

Get a handle on yourself. Why are you flirting back with a married man from church, of all places?

Delete his number and stuff off your phone, and if he texts or calls, block the number.

You're a grown woman.

Logorithim · Answer

There are a number of reasons why married guys flirt:

1) Hubris/ego- they think they're so desirable that a woman will want them even though they're married
2) They aren't having sex with their wife and want to find another woman to have sex with
3) They want to leave their wife, but they are afraid to be alone (yes, it is as pathetic as it sounds)
4) They just like to flirt, even though in their case, it's an inappropriate thing to do

milankae_ · Answer

Because people love to break rules ! Look think about how you will ruin his family and consider how you would feel if it were your husband and he did that... So I guess he does it because he is bored or because his wife and him don't have that flare anymore because to be quite honest anything new seems exciting at first... Which brings me to a whole new level asking myself why people get tsttoos. It's complicated life is complicated so just stick to rules... I am sure there is another church guy there that is so down to flirt and wants a wife and children without him actually having it.

Anonymous · Answer

Maybe he grew a conscience and his real wife & family he was going to screw over possibly with you so you could have your family and marriage found out, maybe he realized wtf he was doing, maybe he found someone else hotter than you to smash that was game, maybe you rejected him and he is smart enough to not waste time on people who play games at your age, maybe he didn't want a practice chick (women over 30 who have hit the wall - past expiration date) and found a hotter younger woman to cheat with, maybe he just doesn't want to play games with you. Why can't you get him off your mind, simple, he rejected you and you think you're all that and women can't be rejected, wtf right? lol cheers. Like it, don't like it, I don't care, just here to help!

rusty1333 · Answer

Well that to me is beyond flirting. Flirting is a wink or batting eyelashes a smile between cars, texting and having conversations that obviously he is hiding from his wife is basically cheating. As to why you having feelings for him could be that old want what you can't have syndrome. Go find a single guy that feels the same about you.

SarahsSummer · Answer

You can’t get him off your mind because we want what we can't have. I think married guys mostly just enjoy the ability to talk with women safey. This one may have gotten the impression you thought he was trying to get somewhere with you so he shut it off. A select few dirt bags will actually try to get somewhere with their flirting.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

You want a family and marriage which is just great and fantastic.

But let's face it, you also want some married strange and he wants you.

Enjoy what you have now which you can keep on the DL and terminate at any time, and keep an eye out for those family and marriage possibilities when they arise.

hahahmm · Answer

He’s probably cold because he’s afraid you will out him to his wife or someone else at church. I’m guessing but married women definitely do stuff like that when the situation is reversed... or worse like lie & tell their husband you did something bad against her will & then the husband wants to kick your ass.

tntsp1 · Answer

Sounds like he wants to to be one of his backburners. Respond if you want to know more

Neyila · Answer

because they are probably unhappy with some aspect of their marriage. it's also very selfish of you to lead them on. as much as you're interested in him, think about his wife and possibly children. you could play a part in ruining someone's life.

HectorEctum · Answer

That guy can go to hell.
Don't sink to his level.
Don't let him manipulate you.
Tell his wife.

He's doing that because he thinks he's entitled to women.
He thinks he's entitled to you like he is entitled to his wife and he is sour because you told him he was wrong.

MLGbreezy · Answer

I mean girls flirt with taken guys and married men too so it can go both ways plus flirt is just confusing cause people can do it for fun or sometimes someone just has s flirty personality which can be annoying. but he's probably interested even so dont get involved with him he married and that won't end well so yea dont get involved with him

adamjanovic · Answer

There's a multitude of reasons, but just to name a few: he wants to see if he can still attract women, he's not happy in his marriage and wants to cheat and/or leave his wife for someone else, or he may not realize he's flirting and thinks he's just being friendly.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I would talk things over with him and tell him his flirting went far enough.
Don't be afraid to tell him like it is , yes he is wrong to be married and
flirting with you. Any married men shouldn't be flirting with women.
He's doing it cause he is unhappy in his marriage which is wrong for
him to do.

LordChaoticX · Answer

1. He's just one of those guys who flirt around
2. His marriage is failing and his wife and him are falling out of love
3. It's science that women flirt with married men more
I am unsure what your friend here is like. But it might be that the marriage is failing and he found someone that is kind too him

Gpapadakis · Answer

How would you feel if you were married and some other girl was flirting your husband and he was about to live you for that girl? I know I am way younger than you and my opinion might not matter. But honestly as much as I don't want my girlfriend or my future wife to cheat on me I will do the same🤷. In Greece we say this"you can't just eat the whole pie and expect your dog to be fed"

Jihhan · Answer

Don't worry, the more you disregard the thought the faster it will get off your mind, also find someone legit.
I would recommend watching this video, not everything applies to you but most of it does.

https://youtu.be/6BU-Beof9hU

Also, he was probably being nice just like some girls seem flirty when they are just trying to be nice.

scooogy · Answer

In quite some questions on here, girls often only assume that guys would flirt with them. Did you notice that hardly any guy does? It's often this "I like him and he like me too". But take that, we're only nice to you, nothing more. I had enough girls assuming me to be in love with them, only because I was nice as always.

Djaay · Answer

I've been involved , married and all since 1978 , and I can tell you , it's women who hit on married men. And when a guy gets divorced , guess who comes knocking at his door... all the other women who once knew who he was married to , nust lineing up taking their chances. About that question again...

RealandGenuine27 · Answer

Use gee I don't know "common sense ". you flirted back with the "married man" in Church of all places. The red flag is " I can't get him off my mind now" I hope you have the decency since you go to church to not act on those thoughts

Paris13 · Answer

Welcome to Gag Town. Cheat sheets. Going through male change of life Bad marriage Not getting something at home they think they can get with another. All of the Above, love. xx

Jan_Classic · Answer

Because you're 48 and nobody actually pays that attention to you. You could've bought some, especially cool to have a 20-25 y. o. lover who's paying his way to college lol. Try some fresh meat!

trehay · Answer

Because they want to see if their still attractive or still have game to even though there married and because u like him and r attracted to him he got your attention

Texasgent63 · Answer

well two reasons good guys that talk are hard to find. The other maybe he is just being nice , nothen wrong with that if his wife knows that your talking , i mean adults can talk without having to make something of it. So set up those kinda rules and start to talk to him again , maybe he has a single friend etc etc. The Texas Gent

Anonymous · Answer

sorry he really isn't worth your time say he gets rid of wife then you marry him. What if he cheats on you with another woman.
Its the fantasy with him your liking and the sexual talk and intamacy you shared with him.
Hopefully you can find a guy who wants only you.

Mexicoman101 · Answer

Sometimes I imagine it's done so they can see if 'they've still got it', & there isn't any real intent for infidelity. Realistically thoughx that's probably not the real reason most men do it.

Fran1981 · Answer

For the same reason some married women flirt with men. To get laid I guess

Darklydarkened · Answer

This kinda proves George Carlin's theory that claims people go to church to flirt and compare clothing.

HOAAH · Answer

some men have no morals... no problem solving skills, and are entitled. but not all marred men do that

MarieWeisman · Answer

For the show, you know men they want to show their friends that they are not dope but very good at getting a new dish.

Pamina · Answer

Women do that too. People enjoy flirting. Personally I see nothing wrong with it, as long as there is no actual intent other than the flirting itself.

markscott · Answer

Sometimes it's just done as a little harmless flirting. That's when it's just a little flirting, with no attempt to follow up.

Goodwifie · Answer

So you tell him to cut it out but you keep calling and texting him?

TalTal · Answer

Maybe his relationship with his wife wasn't working out, and he was kinda lonely and he looked for company with you.
Or maybe he's just the guy who likes to flirt.
You should talk to him and see what comes out of it.

Wollu · Answer

Because you have confused rational thinking with emotions. A standard problem that women have.

Anonymous · Answer

I suppose they want to see if they've still got it, enjoy the challenge and excitement, maybe are missing something in their relationship i. e. attention since having a baby etc

sc15022 · Answer

Unhappy married men will flirt, plus the wedding ring attracts women like flies to honey

James_Castillo1 · Answer

He think you are an easy target. He see the thing you want, but he going to play with your emotions.

Anonymous · Answer

Flirting is good for your health. It's not a necessity that you need to be in love with that person to flirt. Enjoy while it lasts, but keep him at a distance physically, coz first of all, you're in a church and secondly, it's wrong to break a house.

LittleCuriosity93 · Answer

Because you developed feelings or an attachment for him

Anonymous · Answer

Haven’t you heard, when a guy wears a wedding ring going out, he gets hit on way more than without one, girls say it’s because there is a comfort zone but I don’t know... it’s true regardless

Blonde401 · Answer

Because they want to feel like they’re still desired and have game. It’s depressing really.

th3c0unt · Answer

They don't. Stop generalizing because you're around some insecure dishonest poof.

Cosytoasty · Answer

Just fun and helps make the convo/interaction flow better.

ProtocalXXIV · Answer

Because he offered some thing you no longer get... and because you can't have him without issue...

InfiniteGray · Answer

Not all married men do this. Those who do this even after having kids and a wife are nothing but scumbags.

BeWithMe · Answer

You still want him, but you know you can't be with him

cb24l · Answer

I guess they are no longer in love with the ones that Jesus Christ chose for the one they are married to. I am not one of cheating s o b s. I am completely in love with my future wife.

Anonymous · Answer

You met him at church? Then don't be a hypocrite and a potential homewrecker. Practice what you go to church for. Just cut him off for good.

Kenni · Answer

He was looking for a fuck. You turned him down. He went for his next prey.

Anonymous · Answer

I work in IT and get flirted with. So I stopped wearing makeup. Who knows, they see an attractive female and theyre so simple minded they can't help themselves

reixun · Answer

If I could read this question to myself in 2000, I’d be so confused

peterp92 · Answer

Because they don't have respect. Respecting your wife actually is respecting your choice. So you're respecting yourself in that way I think.

motownplayer2000 · Answer

Attention, not going what they need at home with their wives. I mean housewives cheat second to guys.. sooo...

lilmissumshine · Answer

What kind of church are you going to? and what's your religious background? you need to leave that church sounds a mess

clampfan101 · Answer

Because some men are jerks. Such is the way of life. Not everyone is nice. (Not everyone is mean, though.)

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

He is married and flirting with You? Dude out of order. So many unconverted people be in church doing the devil's bidding. Smh

Anonymous · Answer

Wouldn't it be a little dangerous to start a family at your age?

FýrdracaDócincel · Answer

Why do women flirt with married men? It's all madness I tell you.

Abhishekpal · Answer

Its like you like ice cream but you also dont want to get fat. So u resist the temptation. But the feeling is there which u can't help it.

soul1110 · Answer

Because they're not truly satisfied, and, there's also the fact that it's heavily encouraged for men to have "options", regardless.

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