This Matter remains for many years to be { One Of } my Life's more Cheif of Regrets. I, nor anyone, can speak for " All Men ". I can speak for myself. Although this issue (s ) occurred many years back, it affects me literally. In my 20's, through early 40's I wasn't such a bad looking guy. I worked a lot of Professional Private Security assignments back then. I would, due to the Public Nature of the job, meet many women. Being fresh out of the U. S. Marines, I was built well and honestly look pretty good in a uniform. I never made the first " Move ", but I was fast on the " Okay " if I was asked for sex or a Fling if you will. I believe this happened " 6 " times I think? However, "yes", it cost me a fine woman (Wife ), I missed seeing my son grow up, and therefore, seeing with 20/20 Hind Sight. Why did I do it? I can only believe that the Old Adage is correct. " I wasn't thinking with the Head on my shoulders." I also believe that I also did it "because " the job wasn't in the same Town as my Ex, and I thought I'd just get away with it. Now, please don't throw rocks just yet : ) I haven't been this way in " Ages ". However, Flirting with, ( and I did do that ) someone other than One's Spouse/Girl Friend, isn't wise. Disregarding all the "Designer Relationships" out there, I believe I did it ( Flirt ) was to enhance my ego, the thinking, " I still can land them ". Of course, you do what you want to. I can't recommend that Temptation.
Probably same reasons regards of gender.
Boredom - a way to get some excitement in life. Even if it never goes beyond flirting.
Validation - To feel they are still attractive, worth attention. Or still 'have it"
Testing - Perhaps the relationship is shaky. Flirting can be a way to check how you feel about it. If it doesn't feel bad perhaps you no longer love your partner. This is very easy to mis-read though. Of course a fling will be more exciting.
Revenge - Perhaps they are doing so on purpose to hurt their SO.
Open relationship - The SO might be aware and accepting. Or even part of it.
Because it strokes their ego, and playing with fire is exciting if your life is otherwise mundane.
I’m sorry he was an ass and that you can’t stop thinking about him. Every time you think about him, just think about his wife, and what if you were her and he went behind your back like that. He is a jackass who doesn’t deserve your thoughts and attention. Be glad that things didn’t escalate and that you didn’t get caught in a bunch of bullshit drama.
Why were you fliritng with a married man to begin with? That's just as bad as what he was doing. At church too! People notice when others flirt. Then you had each other's numbers as well. I would suggest, move on quickly because you are in for a heartbreak if you contnue to think about him. A person always wants what they can't have, in this case you want a man who is already committed to another woman.
It's not cool to flirt with married people nor to encourage it. You can't get him off your mind because you have a crush on him. You enjoyed the attention as would be expected; however, if he's married, he's likely giving it to others... he probably wants or is a player. He's playing you and his wife... likely others.
Get a handle on yourself. Why are you flirting back with a married man from church, of all places?
Delete his number and stuff off your phone, and if he texts or calls, block the number.
You're a grown woman.
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There are a number of reasons why married guys flirt:
1) Hubris/ego- they think they're so desirable that a woman will want them even though they're married
2) They aren't having sex with their wife and want to find another woman to have sex with
3) They want to leave their wife, but they are afraid to be alone (yes, it is as pathetic as it sounds)
4) They just like to flirt, even though in their case, it's an inappropriate thing to do
Because people love to break rules ! Look think about how you will ruin his family and consider how you would feel if it were your husband and he did that... So I guess he does it because he is bored or because his wife and him don't have that flare anymore because to be quite honest anything new seems exciting at first... Which brings me to a whole new level asking myself why people get tsttoos. It's complicated life is complicated so just stick to rules... I am sure there is another church guy there that is so down to flirt and wants a wife and children without him actually having it.
Maybe he grew a conscience and his real wife & family he was going to screw over possibly with you so you could have your family and marriage found out, maybe he realized wtf he was doing, maybe he found someone else hotter than you to smash that was game, maybe you rejected him and he is smart enough to not waste time on people who play games at your age, maybe he didn't want a practice chick (women over 30 who have hit the wall - past expiration date) and found a hotter younger woman to cheat with, maybe he just doesn't want to play games with you. Why can't you get him off your mind, simple, he rejected you and you think you're all that and women can't be rejected, wtf right? lol cheers. Like it, don't like it, I don't care, just here to help!
Well that to me is beyond flirting. Flirting is a wink or batting eyelashes a smile between cars, texting and having conversations that obviously he is hiding from his wife is basically cheating. As to why you having feelings for him could be that old want what you can't have syndrome. Go find a single guy that feels the same about you.
You can’t get him off your mind because we want what we can't have. I think married guys mostly just enjoy the ability to talk with women safey. This one may have gotten the impression you thought he was trying to get somewhere with you so he shut it off. A select few dirt bags will actually try to get somewhere with their flirting.
You want a family and marriage which is just great and fantastic.
But let's face it, you also want some married strange and he wants you.
Enjoy what you have now which you can keep on the DL and terminate at any time, and keep an eye out for those family and marriage possibilities when they arise.
He’s probably cold because he’s afraid you will out him to his wife or someone else at church. I’m guessing but married women definitely do stuff like that when the situation is reversed... or worse like lie & tell their husband you did something bad against her will & then the husband wants to kick your ass.
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Sounds like he wants to to be one of his backburners. Respond if you want to know more
because they are probably unhappy with some aspect of their marriage. it's also very selfish of you to lead them on. as much as you're interested in him, think about his wife and possibly children. you could play a part in ruining someone's life.
That guy can go to hell.
Don't sink to his level.
Don't let him manipulate you.
Tell his wife.
He's doing that because he thinks he's entitled to women.
He thinks he's entitled to you like he is entitled to his wife and he is sour because you told him he was wrong.
I mean girls flirt with taken guys and married men too so it can go both ways plus flirt is just confusing cause people can do it for fun or sometimes someone just has s flirty personality which can be annoying. but he's probably interested even so dont get involved with him he married and that won't end well so yea dont get involved with him
There's a multitude of reasons, but just to name a few: he wants to see if he can still attract women, he's not happy in his marriage and wants to cheat and/or leave his wife for someone else, or he may not realize he's flirting and thinks he's just being friendly.
I would talk things over with him and tell him his flirting went far enough.
Don't be afraid to tell him like it is , yes he is wrong to be married and
flirting with you. Any married men shouldn't be flirting with women.
He's doing it cause he is unhappy in his marriage which is wrong for
him to do.
1. He's just one of those guys who flirt around
2. His marriage is failing and his wife and him are falling out of love
3. It's science that women flirt with married men more
I am unsure what your friend here is like. But it might be that the marriage is failing and he found someone that is kind too him
How would you feel if you were married and some other girl was flirting your husband and he was about to live you for that girl? I know I am way younger than you and my opinion might not matter. But honestly as much as I don't want my girlfriend or my future wife to cheat on me I will do the same🤷. In Greece we say this"you can't just eat the whole pie and expect your dog to be fed"
Don't worry, the more you disregard the thought the faster it will get off your mind, also find someone legit.
I would recommend watching this video, not everything applies to you but most of it does.
Also, he was probably being nice just like some girls seem flirty when they are just trying to be nice.
Use gee I don't know "common sense ". you flirted back with the "married man" in Church of all places. The red flag is " I can't get him off my mind now" I hope you have the decency since you go to church to not act on those thoughts
In quite some questions on here, girls often only assume that guys would flirt with them. Did you notice that hardly any guy does? It's often this "I like him and he like me too". But take that, we're only nice to you, nothing more. I had enough girls assuming me to be in love with them, only because I was nice as always.
I've been involved , married and all since 1978 , and I can tell you , it's women who hit on married men. And when a guy gets divorced , guess who comes knocking at his door... all the other women who once knew who he was married to , nust lineing up taking their chances. About that question again...
Welcome to Gag Town.
Cheat sheets.
Going through male change of life
Bad marriage
Not getting something at home they think they can get with another.
All of the Above, love. xx
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