What signs do you personally look for to determine if you're being played?

[Anonymous]

[BullShark]

Multiple, actually. Let me just list down the ones I remember off the top of my head/have known from personal experience;

• They show mixed signals
• They're always "busy" when you try to plan something together
• If they agreed to so something with you, they'll almost always flake out last minute and cancel the plan
• They never text first
• Their replies are late, usually one worded and generally sound uninterested
• They have an opinion on everything and will always undermine yours if you think something different

[Asker]

Thank you for that

[robhazelnut]

If a person doesn't respect boundaries, and/or if I feel drained after communicating with them or even just being in the same room.

[RebelinSteel]

Being too cocky, expecting something, them being too sure, then being pushy. Promising stuff, asking lots of questions and or touching, and some other mind games.

[Anonymous]

I don’t look for any signs, I let them play before they get to know me and fall for me, the moment they no longer want to play, I start to do it…

[Asker]

How do you know they're playing g you?

[Anonymous]

How much effort she puts forth. I'll match her effort. But she has to put it forth. And I mean consistently. She has to keep doing it. If she let's off I correctly assume she didn't really have any real interest. It was a game she was playing and I'm done.

[Anonymous]

She seens to be trying to keep my interest by showing signs, but nothing is clear or concrete enough for me to act on.

[deus_ex_sisyphus]

Whether she chooses to invite friends on our date. Its fine if they stay in the background, but to actively bring them into the date is a major red flag.

[KrakenAttackin]

Her social offers many clues. If she is an attention seeker your odds of being played are about 98% unless you are a Chad.

[SotiCoto]

Are they human?
If so... they're trying to manipulate me.

[LiamJHayden]

She seems too interested in how much I make and wanting to go to expensive places on my dime.

[Christoff92]

I really just move on if she's playing around. No big of a deal.

[Jamie05rhs]

If she has a lot of guy friends. That's the biggest red flag.

[sheikalana]

Inconsistency.

[DreamCrescent]

coming on too strong

[antelope51]

Inconsistency

[InspireGlow678]

No interest in you as a person.

[Djaay]

Don't put myself in that position to start with

[pickles77]

If she’s just as infatuated by me as everyone else

[bosnakarman]

Inconsistency.