Why has he never asked about any of us at all?

[Anonymous]

Three out of four siblings all attended martial arts classes together with a guy and were all friendly with him. After many years he is currently trying to pursue a relationship with our youngest sister (whom he only knows through us) but has never once brought any of our names up in conversation with her or asked after us at any time after fully acknowledging that he was our friend from back in the day. We all find this very odd. Why has he never asked about any of our whereabouts or what we are up to in life or anything? He and our eldest sister even liked each other back then too.

[Oliverlogan263]

That is kinda weird. A few possibilities:

- He's only interested in your little sister now so he doesn't care to ask about you guys. Like she's all that matters to him.

- Maybe he's embarrassed or doesn't want her to know too much about what went down between him and your other sisters back in the day. Like if he liked one of them before.

- Could be he's trying to separate from that past and start fresh just with her so it doesn't confuse things. Out of sight out of mind type thing.

- He might think you guys wouldn't approve of him after all this time so he's not bringing you up to avoid problems.

- It's possible he just really doesn't remember you all that well after so long. Like the connection was never that deep.

Who knows, people can be weird. I'd say keep an eye on the situation but don't totally freak yet. Maybe he'll open up more about the past if things get serious with your sister. But def be protective of her too in case he's hiding something shady!

[Asker]

Very helpful... thanks a lot

[Oliverlogan263]

You’re welcome luv

[Anonymous]

He likes her…

[Asker]

I get that but even she finds it odd that he has never asked about any of her older siblings, not once.

[Opinion Owner]

Hmm. Yeah I don't know. She should talk to him on that one