Just started dating an older guy. we talk everyday but other than "how was your day?" and "are you okay?" he doesn't ask me anything... we do talk but I do the questionning and he likes to answer.
it seems as if I'm the only one interested in him.
It's bothering me...
how can I change that? make him curious and more interested in getting to know me.
I want him to ask me questions...
Any advice Guys !!
Thank you.
I'm same kind of a guy too. I have that as a problem. It's not that we are not interested. Personally I just don't want to be a creep by asking so many questions.
But since your guy isn't a silent type one (according to your other replies) Just curious to know what's the big deal here? He is talking much enough, he starts conversations. He is being interested. He just don't ask questions. If you want that asked, as someone else told you; just tell him "okay, I have been asking questions all the time, now it's your turn" like that. Ask it like a game or something. He will get it.
And I need advices to overcome the problem. I think you are the best one to ask. What do you expect from kind of guys like us?
Maybe I can relate to this guy? I'd want to ask her questions and know more about her. But I always end up sharing my own views. All she has to do is trigger words like chocolate, coffee, trading, ethics, or anything within my scope/interest. Maybe it's just the flow. He's a professorial type who loves to answer, share his opinion and views on thing.
If on MYer-Briggs, he must be this one: https://www.16personalities.com/intp-personality
Well, let me first say this. If I am the one doing the initating through texting and I find that he isn't asking me any questions or starting conversations that are geared into getting to know me. I will cut him off immediately, thats a red flag for me. And its something that I do not have the patience to deal with. I like someone you shows interest in me without me having to beg him to show me attention. A guy should want to do that automatically.
Maybe he's just shy honestly i can tell how u feel my boyfriend was like that but honey things will be better he loves u believe me :3 me and my boyfriend got over this already its been 3 years of us dating now i found out he was just shy of saying anything that would hurt me or make me hate him XD JUST the fact that he msges u first is enough to let u know he loves you :)
Talk to him face to face. Use texts as a discreet way of asking short questions like "When are we meeting" and things like that. I just started dating an older guy who doesn't spend a lot of time on his phone and always sends short messages. I quickly figured out that just asking him short, direct questions, he responds faster.
I wouldn't try to make him curious or interested. I mean.. if he likes you it must be because he's interested in you. Maybe that's not lack of interest, but just his way to be. If it was me I'd ask him haha. I would also be very bothered by it. I'd just talk about it with him.
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Either he isn't interested. Or you can be forward and ask him what's the deal. Don't be scared to ask him if you are interested. Sometimes guys just want sex and don't want to waste time asking you person questions. So you ask him. Why don't you ever ask me anything?
some girls talk about themselves and ask questions, some guys are use to that. I tend to find myself a loss at words when asking questions. I love to get to know her and everything, it's just the questions that seem so simple that throw me off. Not sure of this is the same thing though
Talk to him. Tell him that this bothers u. Like on ur date and when u try to make the conversation going ask him: "hey so, are u okay? Because I feel like I'm the only one making an effort here to talk. Is something on ur mind what's wrong?" And (this is just me) his answer will depend weather I leave him or not
very odd. maybe he doesn't know he's doing it. or he's losing interest. need more info on that part. but if he doesn't want to ask questions about you, i'd say he doesn't care about you as a person. in your shoes, if you were interested in someone, wouldn't you want to know more about them? by asking questions? i guess you can just answer your questions you ask him after he answers. like "whats your fav color?" he responds "blue" and you go "guess what mine is" I don't know
All I can tell you is not to give up. I've had a similar problem and I've found that it doesn't necessarily mean that he's not interested. He could just be fucking weird
He already learning what you are as a person anyway as you are with him. It is not like he isn't interested. You should make it fun by asking him questions instead. He might be amused. 🙂😋
read a dating book together and share yoru viewpoints. hopefully he develops interest in your mind, generally an older guy would.
It sounds like he's just a bad conversationalist. So why do you like this guy? Like, I would have a lot of trouble dating a girl who was like that and I've indeed met women who seem to have very little to say. If conversation is a big deal to you then I think you might want to consider how you'd feel about having to always drive the conversation.
The best way of making someone curious and interested in you, is to be curious and interesting...
We talk less because we've learned actions out weigh words 90% of the time... or we're bored of our stories.
he knows about you more than u think guys likes to observe and conclude more than asking
He's probably just a narcissistic asshole. -from experience. A good guy should naturally be interested in your life- you shouldn't have to do anything to make it that way.
Ask him if there's anything he'd like to know about you.
How about asking him the question directly instead of using an app you dumbass. You'll have the correct answer at least.
Maybe he simply can't think of any he wants to know the answers to. Sometimes ignorance is bliss.
You could just tell him or don't do all the work leave him wanting more
U give him sex. He is happy. He gives U money. U are happy. So if the relationship is not broken, don't fix it.
ask him to join this site.. maybe he'll learn :P
maybe tell him beginnings of interesting stories and make him believe you'd have an interesting life.
What's a sample conversation like between you two?
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