Why would he say he knows he could get me back, If I decided to date another guy?

[Candykanelove]

This guy I was friends with benefits told me that he knew he could probably get me back if I decided to date another guy. He told me that he and I could be just friends without having sex. And then he switched up and said that he and I couldn't be just friends. I don't understand it.

[Elena_Stewart]

Maybe you gave him this self-confidence through your behavior with him

[boggboss]

Because he clearly thinks u couldn't resist him

[Candykanelove]

Yeah, but we weren't in a relationship and one minute he told me he and I could be just friends without having sex. And then he switched up and said we couldn't be. I don't understand that.

[boggboss]

Understand what he said if he ever wants to fuck u again he can and u being in a relationship wouldn't stop him he is not saying he wants to be with u if that's what u think

[Candykanelove]

Ok, first he said we could be just friends without having sex. And then he switched up and said we couldn't be just friends. It doesn't make any sense like why can't we just be friends if both of us are involved with different people?

[boggboss]

Because he dont want to just be friends with u

[Candykanelove]

But he and I were friends with benefits for over a year, so why would it be an issue if we are just friends if we are both involved with other people?

[boggboss]

Because friends and friends with benefits are complety different most dont transition back

[Candykanelove]

We started off as friends with benefits I don't see the issue with us being only friends. Especially if he's with someone else and I'm with someone else. What is the problem?

[boggboss]

Just because u are happy becoming friends don't mean he will if he valued sex from u most which he made clear he thinks he can get again why would he be your friend only

[Candykanelove]

Because he'd be having sex with someone else.

[boggboss]

So what value does he get from u if he doesn't want friendship from u

[Candykanelove]

At first he said that he and I could be just friends without having sex.

[Candykanelove]

I'm talking about ANY type of feelings including sexual as well.

[boggboss]

Because he changed his mind or was lying

[Candykanelove]

I'm going to his house and ask him if he has feelings for me.

[boggboss]

Lol good for u sounds like u have feelings for him and hoping he feels the same good luck I guess

[Candykanelove]

I just want to know the truth before I decide to move forward with the new guy I'm involved with.

[boggboss]

But what truth u should ask him in person bit I do think u are seeing somthing thats not their nothing u have said has shown him to have feelings for u

[NathanDavis]

is it true?