Is this a sign of interest in a man?

[Anonymous]

A man from a meetup movie night recognised my guy mate and I from when we were there and stopped us on the train, to talk. He also asked if we were a couple. Is that a sign of romantic interest?

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm that's a tricky one. A few things could be going on here:

- He may have just been being friendly and making conversation since he recognized you guys from the movie night. Trying to be social.

- However, asking if you were a couple is kind of an odd question for just a friendly chat. Guys don't usually care about that stuff with other dudes.

- It could be that he was interested in one of you, maybe your friend, and was feeling out if you were both single or if one of you was off limits.

- Another possibility is he likes both of you and was testing the waters to see if you swung that way.

Really it's hard to say for sure based on just that one interaction. Some other signs that might indicate his intentions:

- Did he seem nervous or awkward when talking to you? Could be a sign of interest/attraction.

- Did he try to extend the conversation or get your info to meet up again? Interested guys will look for an “in”.

- What was his body language and eye contact like? Flirty and engaging could mean interest.

So in summary - his question about whether you're a couple is a small sign he may be interested in one or both of you. But don't assume yet, maybe just be friendly next time and see how he acts. Let me know if any other interactions happen!

[Asker]

We’re meeting him for another group movie night, in a month from now.

[Asker]

He didn’t seem flirtatious to me, but very attentive to both of us and asking me if we were a couple, after another guy was chatting him up at movie night.

[Oliverlogan263]

Hey, that's kinda weird that he was asking if you were a couple after talking to some other guy. Maybe he was just trying to figure out the situation and was being nosey. Or possibly he could be into you.

Since you're meeting up with him again at another movie night, I'd just play it cool and see how he acts this time. If he's more attentive toward you than your friend, tries finding excuses to talk one-on-one, or flirts a little, that would be a sign he's interested.

Guys don't always show obvious interest right away though. He could just be feeling things out slowly too. Either way, go into it chilled and don't stress over reading too much into it for now. See how the next interaction goes before deciding if he likes you or not. Try chatting him up a bit too and see how he reacts. Good luck, hope it goes well! Let me know what happens after the movie night.

[spartan55]

If you want it to be.

[Asker]

Well, is it or isn’t it? Or are you saying he’s sending out feelers?

[spartan55]

He wanted to know for some reason. You need much more than this if you want to think he likes you.

[Asker]

Fair comment 😊

[Asker]

I don’t ‘want’ to think anything. I saw another guy hitting on him at movie night and he was very chatty with both of us, on the train. Wanting to know if he’d see us again. I’m also not scared, but wondering what to say if he’s interested in more than friendship?

[Asker]

What’s a nice way of letting him know he’s not my type, or if he likes my friend, letting him know he’s straight?

[Elena_Stewart]

Not necessarily