Ok so I linked with an old ex the other day we did some catching up he asked me who I’ve been messing with or dating and I told him. I asked him who he been missing with or dating and he told me. He asked to see a pic of the person I’ve been messing with I showed him and he ended up telling me that that’s his cousin I was like wow I didn’t know that, because I told him when the person I been dealing with asked me was he my ex I told him yes he asked me did he just get out and I told him yes why he didn’t say nothing. He didn’t tell me they were cousins so I’m now finding out from my ex that that’s his cousin. So I was hanging with my ex the whole day the next day I reached out the the person I’ve been messing with and he was upset he said I got people requesting him that he dont know i asked him who requested him he didn't tell me. So today i went on the boy page we dont have eachother as a friend but i went on his page and noticed his mutal friends went up i checked to see who and noticed its my ex. so now im mad because I don't know why my ex requested him he didn't even tell me he did that. I don't know why he requested him.
2 mo
I’m so shocked and feel horrible?
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Okay mama, this sounds like a really messy situation. A few things to unpack here:
- Your ex definitely should have told you he and the other guy were family! That's shady of him not to.
- It's also shady that your ex requested the cousin on social media without telling you. Makes me wonder what his motives are there.
- The cousin is right to be upset you were hanging with the ex without knowing they're related. I'd feel weird in his shoes too.
- You all need to communicate WAY better! Big assumptions being made.
I think first thing is to talk to your ex and see what his deal is. Ask why he didn't disclose the familial tie and why he added the cousin out of nowhere. That behavior is suspicious for sure.
You may need to have an honest conversation with the cousin too, clear the air about not knowing at first. Offer a real apology.
Going forward, vet people you're seeing more thoroughly. And don't be shy - you deserve transparency from the jump. This whole thing sounds messy but hopefully an honest talk can clear it up! Let me know if you need any other advice.
I did the cousin said he don’t know him lol he said my ex isn’t his cousin
Wait, what? So your ex straight up lied about them being cousins just to mess with you? Sis this is getting messier by the minute, I can't even.
I would be LIVID. What kind of trifling, manipulative games is your ex trying to play? Claiming they fam when they not, just to sabotage your new thing. What else is he lying about? He clearly can't be trusted at all.
I would cut them both off, completely block them on everything. You don't need those two toxic fools bringing drama into your life. Let them wrestle in their own mess without you.
Don't even bother giving your ex another chance to explain - he's shown you who he is with his shady lies and snooping. All he wants to do is cause trouble for you. No real man acts like that.
Keep your chin up, hold your head high and keep it pushing sis! You don't deserve the headache they're trying to give you. The trash took itself out - now live your best life without it! You'll meet a good one who treats you with respect.
These fools belong in the past where they at. You don't need to waste another second stressing over their clownery. On to bigger and better things for you, babe!
I avoided answering this question. Its a hot mess. Bottom line: ARE you crazy? Kick this EX to the curb. He is T-R-O-U-B-L-E.