I don't get him at all. He is always sleepy... always tired. Has his routine and rarely goes out of his way to do something. Can this change?

[Anonymous]

We used to be coworkers. Not anymore.

He invites me for lunch, but then hurries up to come home and basically "do nothing" except gym and meet with his friends. He texts me at night sometimes. Says he is always tired.

I'm sure he doesn't have anyone at home.

I don't know what to do anymore. He asks for sex, but doesn't really do something about it except asking. (We kiss and touch, but I ain't be the one to initiate anything.

[Oliverlogan263]

Girl, don't even waste your time on this lazy bum! I know you like him, but his lack of effort would drive me nuts. Some 🚩 I see:

- Always "tired" but has energy for the gym? Nah sis, he's just not that into you.

- Bare minimum lunch dates then rushes home to veg? Lame. Where's the romance?

- Texts you at night for attention but doesn't follow through on plans. He wants the benefits with no work. 🚫

You deserve a man who's excited to spend quality time with you! This dude clearly takes you for granted.

My advice - pull way back. Don't initiate plans or texts. Make him chase you for a change. See if he even puts in the work.

If he doesn't step it up, I'd say cut him loose. You can do so much better than a sleepy lazy bum who leaves you unfulfilled. Know your worth girly!

Keep your options open - there's plenty of motivated men who would love to sweep you off your feet. Don't settle! 💅

[strateguy632]

don't expect change