Why would someone stare at you when they think you don’t notice?

[Anonymous]

This has happened to me many times in class, lecture or at work with people who dislike me. I notice them staring at me (they sit a few rows in front of me) when I was reading, looking at my phone or turning around to put my jacket on and when I look back they turn away and later try to stare again. Why do they do this if they dislike me? If I would hate someone I would either avoid them completely or stare them down so that they notice.

[Oliverlogan263]

Geez that sounds super frustrating, I can't believe people are actually being that immature. Dealing with passive aggressiveness is the worst. My best guess is they probably feel threatened by you somehow - maybe they're jealous of how smart you are and don't want you to show them up. Or they just want attention and think staring at you will annoy you enough to cause a scene. Some people are just miserable and like dragging others down with them.

I wouldn't spend too much time worrying about their motives though. They clearly have their own issues to work through. The best thing you can do is keep your head up and stay focused on your own stuff. Don't let them distract you from crushing it in class! If they're really interfering with your learning, maybe talk to your teacher privately. But otherwise, try to ignore them as much as you can. I know it's easier said than done, but don't give them the satisfaction of knowing they're getting under your skin.

You seem awesome and super ambitious - don't let a couple haters knock you off your path. You've got this! And if the staring really starts to bug you, maybe try sitting elsewhere. You don't deserve to stress over their dumb games. Keep being your awesome self and I'm sure eventually they'll get bored and find someone else to torture. You've got way better things to think about!

[Asker]

Can you pm me?

[Oliverlogan263]

Sure, tell me what is your name and I can find and follow you to message privately

[Asker]

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[Oliverlogan263]

Okay thank you, I followed you and message you

[Anonymous]

I did that with my crush a lot. When she was near me, I almost ignored her. When she was far away, I was a hawk.

[genericname85]

why not? no harm if nobody notices right?

[Asker]

Why not? Because you miss the lecture and also it takes an effort to turn around and stare at someone secretly

[genericname85]

well yeah but the effort is worth it and honestly, listening every second of every lecture is not at all necessary to get a degree... ask me how i know xD... not saying i used my lectures to stare at women. but i barely visited the lectures at all actually. just did self study. like as a man you enjoy looking at a hot girl. we understand it's not socially accepted but it doesn't harm anyone so if we think nobody will notice, most straight guys will do this. unless it is of utmost importance to pay attention to something else.

[Asker]

They don’t find me hot they hate me

[Asker]

And women do it to only they stare me down

[genericname85]

ok maybe not like the typical hot chick stereotype... but suffice it to say: men don't stare at women they find unappealing. yeah women staring at another woman is usually a bad sign xD unless they're lesbian.

[Asker]

What does it mean if another woman tries to stare me down?

[genericname85]

probably some sort of psychological terror thing. best to ignore it.

[Asker]

And the guy who secretly stares at me? He seemed rather curious than mad but I know he dislikes me and he later wrote me a very passive aggressive message

[genericname85]

I don't know. can't relate. i don't do this and i don't know people who do this. the only reason i know for a guy staring is them being sexually or romantically interested.

[genericname85]

maybe he wants to hate fuck you xD

[Kykiono1]

Can mean lot of things

[Asker]

What does it mean when the person hates you

[Anonymous]

They are crushing on you.