What Makes You Girls Flake?

[Anonymous]

Hi girls,

I find it interesting that so many men seem to be asking questions on actually talking to girls, getting numbers, etc. This is actually the easiest part of dating... the HARD part is actually keeping the girl into you.

Once I got good at meeting girls and setting up dates, I still have girls flaking on me. I'd say probably half (if not more) girls I meet flake out on the 1st date. They'll send a text like "Oh I'm not feeling to well so I can't make it. But another time!"

Seems to be a lot of sick girls out there...

So girls, what do you think needs to happen before I even ask girls out to avoid flakes? Or is flaking simply something that will always happen no matter what?

And last but not least, what would pretty much guarantee that you'd never flake out on the first date?

[jujubeetzzz]

id pay attention to where you are picking up these women for later dates...if its at a local pub or at a marijuana facility would totally change my answer. for one maybe they were intoxicated or high when they gave you their number. maybe they simply got busy and flaked. maybe you werent attractive enough for them but at the time they just gave you their number to get you away from them or because they were flattered since your hot. it could be a million reasons anywhere from the girl got distracted to her own personal preferences in guys. I think getting to know the girl and keeping contact might guarantee success...id just try different things and see what happens if I were u

[jujubeetzzz]

btw where can I pick up guys. and how?!? maybe you could help me with this lol

[Asker]

pick up guys? In class, in the dorm, at a bar, at an event are the ones off the top of my head.

[jujubeetzzz]

yea but how?..i seem to not get friends

[Asker]

gotta develop a healthy social life before you expect to develop a healthy relationship with a guy. You gotta get out there and meet people. Simple as that. Don't make it hard. Meet people that have good social connections

[Theraven2013]

A lot of people (guys and girls) are super unfeeling when it comes to dating. I've actually run into this problem myself, 2 guys agreeing on date, both flaking out w/out trying to make it up (1 flaked on me twice). I think a lot of people love to play games or they find better options. If I accept a date from someone you better bet I'd at least come for the 1st date. I let guys know I'm not interested by saying "I'm busy" every time they ask me out, they do get the message. I respect if a guy has no interest, but I will not condone a guy agreeing to date and never following through. You just need to meet the right person that isn't a flake.

[Misty_04]

You haven't proven yourself or made a memorable impression. You are just another guy and haven't made a strong enough connection. It's quite simple really. Or maybe she's just not that into you.

[Asker]

Yes I get that and I agree completely. So then HOW do you 'build' that impression? How can you do that if she won't hang out in the first place? Get my drift?

[Misty_04]

Are we talking about first contact or keeping future interest? Make her have fun and laugh alot, she'll be far more likely to stay interested. Don't play all your cards at once, act a tad mysterious and you'll tweak her curiousity. With contact after the first meeting, remind her about your first meeting. A reference if you will such as "I just got hot chips, remember when we got mugged by angry swans last time? Keen for another hang out?" something like that ha ha you're establishing a connectio

[Asker]

I get what you're saying, it's really important to actually build that connection and get her wanting to see you again some time before you even ask her out. Perhaps if I'd stop going for the number so early, I'd have less flakes ;) Thank you.