Do/can men fall in love with women they barely know?

[Anonymous]

How is that possible.. what are the signs

[Anonymous]

Definitely. Happens all the time. People just have a too narrow view of what love is. To them there is only one definition, the idealized Disney version.

In reality you will love many people to many degrees in your life. It's entirely possible to fall in love with someone just by looking at then. I've had it happen to me too. I didn't act on it because I thought "this isn't love, it wouldn't work out, I don't know her."

I've come to learn that that instinct is worth listening to. I won't let the next girl I see love at first sight go without trying to ask her out.

I love a lot of women. I just love these hoes. Can't help it. Not just cuz I wanna fuck them, which I do. But I like to talk to them and have female friends too. How can you not fall in love. So many beautiful sweet and funny women out there and I want to plow them all lovingly sweetly and roughly as they desire, and also kiss and cuddle and someday find a bitch with a fat ass and cute lips to dump my kids into and have a family.

[Anonymous]

Men, guys, boys will fall in love with a girl or woman's looks alone. Men fantasize, visualize the physical aspect. I know this is something women and girls don't want to hear but it's the truth. That doesn't make him a sex hound or fuck boy, it's just how guys are wired. I mean women and girls will fall in love with a guy who's 6'4, built like a line backer and is extremely handsome with bad boy qualities without knowing him well either. This is just not a guy thing, females to do it to. But I do believe men and guys will fall in love faster without barely knowing her. But it also depends, if a guy is 35 and he's ready to get married and he meets a young woman who's pretty, has a job, seems nice, a guy will be ready to commit to her because finding a genuine gal with traits that match his traits and persona isn't easy. For example -- I wouldn't fall in love with a girl who's promiscuous, attention-seeking, trying to act like a boss all the time, does drugs/drink/party. I would be turned off by those qualities.

[atiquahbby]

Generally speaking no, but infact you can fall for someone you barely know whether you're a man or a woman. Reason being is that we will never completely know someone, even when you're in a relationship with them for years, there still may be aspects of the other person that you don't know.

We always go with what we know and fall for that, or there may be a strong connection you feel with someone you don't know at all- maybe their vibe or something about them. So yes, you can, but in general no

[dustybiker2]

Love... eh. Some people just click. Chemicals attract on a biological level we have yet to fully understand. Some uniquely scrumptious pheromones release and we are pulled in without knowing why.

[liggang]

It has happened to me. But even from a distance. Even with a girl who based on looks, I'd normally not be attracted to her at all. Yet for some reason on first sight I couldn't stop looking at her and thinking about her.

[dustybiker2]

@liggang You sniffed the flowers. 😎

[lightbulb27]

of course. what they think is a projection from inside, not what they know outside.

The real question is once they know the person, do they choose to love them. that's where the butter meets the bread... so to speak... or is it rubber hits the road?

[RainbowQueen1]

That's not love though. That's ideation. An attraction to a fantasy, not love for the person.

[lightbulb27]

@RainbowQueen1 true, but still...

[Miristheiss]

Real love? No. That takes some time and you have to know a little bit about a person.

They can definitely be super attracted and be in lust, infatuation. They are envisioning this girl whose personality, values, beliefs, goals and such is what they are looking for. They put this "dream" lady they are making up with this beautiful face, sexy figure and captivating voice. They don't really know who she is. Once he gets to know the real her his infatuation my fade. Real, deep love takes some time.

[worldscolide]

It happened with my wife.. The first time I ever saw her was at a shinedown concert. We were seated next to each other. Nature conspired in such a way that I ended up offering her my bed while I crash on my couch (horrible snow storm). A week later she's asking me out.. And a week after that I'm in the hospital, wisdom teeth almost killed me, and out of all of the people in my life, she is the only one that visited me and cared.. I decided at that point that this is the girl I was going to marry. I had only seen her twice before that. 6 months down the line, I moved to where she was in college, got a place big enough for her and I both. Instead of dorms she moved in with me, and a year and a half later we were married.. We have been together 12 years, married 10.

It can happen. Is it common? No. But it can happen.

[worldscolide]

The signs for me were acts of kindness that she did not have to do, the fact that she was at the hospital with me, worrying over me and so on. That was enough.

[Anonymous]

Something like has happened to me. I would not necessarily call it love, but I assume it's the closest I have ever gotten to it. For some reason, I would do almost anything she asked. Anyone that knows me would think this is extremely out of character. This one girl, who Ohave barely interacted personally with but have seen a lot, I cannot get out of my head. I think the closest definition to my condition is limerence, but she keeps giving me small signs of hope.

[Drew-1990]

I don't know about falling in love but a huge crush yes. Depends on the guy honestly. If you are amazing and he doesn't have the best luck he may fall very easily. I have done it myself in the past. Signs he probably looks at you a lot, wants to be close and tries to learn your interests and stuff. Just a few signs.

[Wien1938]

It's happened to me. I was working for a company and a group of new starters were brought up to join our team. One of them was this tall, beautiful girl and I fell in love with her at first sight - couldn't stop thinking about her, dreamed about her etc.

I did ask her out but she wasn't into me, so I had to deal with my unrequited feelings - didn't do anything embarrassing, just read Stedhal on Love and worked on understanding what had happened.

When those feelings hit, they are a force of nature.

So, yes it can happen.

[deus_ex_sisyphus]

At the start, I think men fall in love with an idea rather than the person. So, women they barely know, could loosely fit into the idea and those feelings would get projected onto them.

I suppose the biggest sign would be stalker behavior - him looking for excuses to talk to you and be in situations that would put both of you in the same room

[superchan2011]

Doubt it. And anyone who tells you that they can or has are most likely confusing love with infatuation, which you can become infatuated with people that you barely know.

[Joshydavid25]

Yeah, it's possible.. A man can be so infatuated with how a woman looks and seems, that he would be willing to marry her, or he already has thoughts about marrying her or something along those lines.. I think people underestimate how visually stimulated men can be..

[IslaTheWitch]

love as a higher emotion needs time to develop... so it can be infatuation or just attraction

[robhazelnut]

Article title: What IsTrue Love? A Deeper Insight

https://isha.sadhguru.org/en/wisdom/article/what-is-true-love

[TommyMountainFigure]

Love no. Crush or lust after. Yes!

It just isn't possible to fall in love. I don't think though some people can tell the difference between love or just a crush.

[rienna888]

I guess when men are younger, they see someone they’re really attracted to and believe it’s love

[BoopBoopBeep]

Nope. You can be hot, that doesn't make me love you. I don't even have to like you for that. If I don't know you there's nothing to fall in love with.

[DeeDeeDeVour]

That's infatuation.

That obsession is usually dangerous.

[sheikalana]

I wouldn't call that being in love. People often confuse being infatuated with being in love.

[ArrowheadSW]

That would be more along the lines of infatuation. Common in our younger years. LOL

[HateyouxD]

I mean logically speaking no. It's mostly just because they don't really know who she is

[RavVid]

Certainly falling in lust is possible without words

[Shy_Steve]

Yes we can, The signs are hard to tell usually because were usually afraid of rejection so we will probably show hardly any signs.

I think it's just because of how our mind works with our libidos.