Guys, How come white guys find black women intimidating?

[Anonymous]

Online I find they seem to approach black women with ease but in public nothing.

[JoePro_]

Maybe the ones you're meeting online aren't the same ones you're meeting in public? That would be my only guess. That said, as a white guy, I have no problems with black girls.

My problem is, I have a dom fetish, and I'm scared a black girl might misperceive that as me being into dominating her always, and then we're in weird "slavery trauma" territory. I'm aware a few black girls are into master/slave fetishes, even "hard slur" fetishes, but they have to be few and far between. Regardless, I'm not dom all the time. Dom only in the bedroom, team all other places. And I'm leery of making a black girl feel uncomfortable in a mixed relationship. Any girl really, I don't want any girl to feel uncomfortable, but those are my specific fears regarding a mixed-race relationship, black and white.

I believe it's possible, for others, that stereotypes might be at play. It's often perceived that black women can be domineering in relationships, trying to play both female and male figures, which can be off-putting to those men who want to be respected as "the man" in the relationship, whatever that might mean to him. So maybe the dudes online are just like trying to flirt a little, whereas the guys in real life, it's more "real" in that moment, and those guys who perceive black women that way don't want to take a chance that the relationship falls apart because he's not getting the respect he wants.

Are there any thoughts or fears you have in how you feel you're being perceived? How do you think you're being perceived? Do you feel like those perceptions of you as a black woman are justified, but that it hurts your search for a relationship? Or do you feel like perceptions of you as a black woman are unjustified, and that you're different from common perceptions?

I ask because I want to know what your experience is. Like I said, I've never been with a black woman, so I can't totally imagine I understand your thought process, not just as a woman, but from possible cultural differences too. I grew up in a predominately poor black urban area, because my family was poor and urban, but I can't say I know what it's like "to be black". I was part of the culture of the space I was in, but not part of the same line of thinking and upbringing, per se. Hope that makes sense.

[Billlewis]

I've dated Black women exclusively for more than thirty years, and they still intimidate me to this day. That's just the effect they have on me, and millions of other men, of all ethnicities;)

[RebelinSteel]

I have never seen this. I know I don’t feel that way, nor anyone else I know

[Asker]

Hey just sent you a message.

[OfMiceandMen]

Not sure why, as long as you treat them with respect like any woman what is there to be intimidated about?

[TommyMountainFigure]

Not true. I'm not intimidated by anyone that wasn't carrying a gun, unless its a policewoman of course!

[The_Sexpert]

I don't think so , some guys just don't "Prefer" dating black women

[Oldmansmile]

It's sad, but unfortunately, it happens quite a bit. I definitely do not discriminate. I only appreciate. Black women are beautiful

[Oldmansmile]

I assume you're attracted to white guys.

[pethouse]

Same reason why a lot of black men started becoming “passport bros” because black women can be intimidating. Any women can be intimidating if they want to be.

[Juxtapose]

I am shy and generally don't like cold approaching in general. I need some sign of welcoming before I really even seriously consider it.

[DextroShade]

They are infamous for being masculine and having bad attitudes.

[dolemite58]

https://www.youtube.com/embed/iTgm4yhQIoo

He sums it up pretty well lol

[Anonymous]

They don't. They just know black women really aren't into white men. Why would a guy waste time with a woman he knows has no interest in him.