Doing nice things for girls you like?

[Anonymous]

What kinds of nice things do guys do for girls they like? What would be the "extra step" you'd take to let her know you don't do this kind of favor for anyone. Any examples are appreciated from your car to money to your toothbrush.thanks guys!

[good-looking-geek]

Help clean her APT. Buy her something from the grocery store that she is running low on. Show up at her place when she calls at any time. Answering her phone calls. Write her emails. If a guy is shopping and sees something that he knows you will like or need, then he will buy it for no reason. He will ask her when she has free time to do something together (it shows he is considerate of her busy schedule). He tries to make himself available for you. He's actually excited to talk to you on the phone or in person.

[blue-kev]

. If a guy singles the girl out it means he likes her. Your the only one I feel comfortable talking about this to. Your the only girl I let see my room. Your the only girl who I've told this to so don't tell anyone.All mean he is letting you past his defences and it means he likes you a lot. If a guy tells a girl this spot I have never shown anyone but you. Then you better be ready cause your probobly the love of his life. If a guy tells you that it means he is constantly thinking of you. Even dreaming of you.

[wicks22]

Hmmmmm.I do things like cook her dinner, buy small gifts, make a mixed cd, go shopping with her, take her out to the movies. Guys like to show they care with actions and find it hard to do it with words. That's the problem I'm having right now. I found a great girl but I'm not sure she knows how interested I am yet.

[Asker]

Yeah us girls have a hard time trying to figure out if you're just being nice or if you are doing it because you like us. It's hard because neither the girl nor the guy want to be so vulnerable. If you are persistent then she'll eventually get the message. Other than a neon sign just keep making sure she knows you only do "those things" for her and NOBODY ELSE.

[wicks22]

I think you are spot on, girls do have a hard time picking up on these things. I'm seeing a girl right now and I'm pretty sure she isn't picking up on things. I don't want to buy a neon sign so my next move is to talk to her once the holidays are over. Guys like to show things through actions but at some point it takes words!

[Asker]

I agree with "at some point it takes words". This guy is very nice to me and whatever I ask him to do he NEVER says no. And if it's something small he goes the extra mile. I keep TRYING to notice if he does it with everyone. Another guy friend of mine picked up on it and said he's goes a little further for me than anyone else but I need words from him now. I let him know it's ok by flirting and stuff but it's his turn to come to me at this point. He's really shy so what more can I do???

[wicks22]

I guess you are going to have to ask/tell him. It's easier for you (the girl) to do this than him. Guys aren't supposed to ask these things for whatever reason. We are in the same boat just on opposite sides. Your being chased and I'm doing the chasing and we have no idea what's going on. In my case the girl keeps going out with me, flirts a bit but doesn't show any physical signs that she's all too interested. I guess she's just really shy or she would have said something (Just friends) by now?

[Thorzilla]

Sending her a box with gifts for christmas from very far away.